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Would you judge me?

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clairemcnam Sun 19-May-19 14:26:02

I hold my knife like a pen. I did not even think about this until MN. Would you judge me for this if you met me?

Corndog Sun 19-May-19 14:27:46

Are you left handed? Because I hold mine like that too

Bambamber Sun 19-May-19 14:28:12

I probably wouldn't even notice

Bambamber Sun 19-May-19 14:28:31

I probably wouldn't even notice

Winegumaddict Sun 19-May-19 14:30:06

I would yes sorry. I'd never say something but I would notice it so therefore I'd feel I was judging you just because I noticed.

Bambamber Sun 19-May-19 14:31:30

I probably wouldn't even notice

Biancadelrioisback Sun 19-May-19 14:32:22

Is this a thing?!

Jinglejanglefish Sun 19-May-19 14:36:37

I wouldn't, but I don't care hugely about etiquette. I would eat nearly everything with my hands if I could.

AnneLovesGilbert Sun 19-May-19 14:39:05

Do you stick your elbow out when you do it? That’s very annoying at a busy table.

If not then go for it. Not how I eat but your choice.

Confusedbeetle Sun 19-May-19 14:39:06

It's really a very inefficient way to use a knife as you only have one finger pressure to cut with. It would be considered bad manners in some circles. I was never allowed to do it as a child but the argument was efficiency. It isn't unusual. It would catch my eye only because my father disapproved of it. Also leaving the top off the toothpaste or squeezing it in the middle. Childhood message run deep

pigsDOfly Sun 19-May-19 14:42:30

I'm not sure 'judge' is the right word, but it does look very odd to me when I see people eating like that.

My main thought is how do you use your knife efficiently, how to you manage to cut a piece of meat for example, because if you're holding your knife like a pen how are you able to exert any pressure on the blade.

It just looks very awkward.

Do you hold the knife that if you're cutting vegetables?

BritWifeinUSA Sun 19-May-19 14:45:54

I wouldn’t judge. But it would irk me if I had to sit at a table facing you and could see you doing that. Have you tried holding it the other way?

That said, seeing people not using a knife at all is even more irritating. Using just a fork in their right hand like a shovel, cutting things with the side of the fork...don’t get me started on that one.

BigusBumus Sun 19-May-19 14:48:18

I'd judge you. I really hate it.

ginghamtablecloths Sun 19-May-19 14:50:40

I wouldn't judge you or say anything out loud but I'd do the British thing of cringing quietly inside.

cuppycakey Sun 19-May-19 14:57:42

Yes ike gingham, I wouldn't really judge, but would shudder inside grin

NottonightJosepheen Sun 19-May-19 14:58:30

No. I wouldn't judge you. I can't stand that shit. Do they judge my Nigerian friend who eats with her hands when eating traditional Nigerian food, even soup?

If you successfully use the knife to cut your food, you're using it properly. 'Etiquette' is bullshit and culturally specific. Good manners are not culturally specific, it's about consideration of others.

I attribute my stance to my bohemian upbringing.grin

JudgeRindersMinder Sun 19-May-19 14:59:54

Rod hate myself for it, but I would judge (wouldn’t say anything though)

ManchesterBorn Sun 19-May-19 14:59:58

Yes, I hate bad table manners and probably notice more since I have been trying to teach my own kids.

I would never say anything to you, that would be even more rude, so you wouldn't know.

I do know some people who have missed out on promotions because of bad table manners - it would have become embarrassing with some of the clients so it was easier to chose someone else. I also have many friends who won't invite you again. Some people really do care.

1990shopefulftm Sun 19-May-19 15:00:17

no i wouldn't judge you, since i m dyspraxic i don't hold a pen correctly so my way of using cutlery probably is considered wrong too.

JudgeRindersMinder Sun 19-May-19 15:00:33

Rod?? I’d!!

OnGoldenPond Sun 19-May-19 15:01:11

Nah love, I don't even use a knife. I just shovel everything in with my fork and eat my steak like a lollipop grin

HBStowe Sun 19-May-19 15:01:14

I probably wouldn’t notice, but if I did I would be aware that it was wrong. I would just assume nobody had ever taught you, I wouldn’t blame you for it.

forkfun Sun 19-May-19 15:02:09

"Good manners are not culturally specific, it's about consideration of others. "

This! Hold your knife however works best for you.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira Sun 19-May-19 15:02:48

No. I judge the people who judge the way a person holds a knife tbh.

SonEtLumiere Sun 19-May-19 15:04:27

Yes probably..... but I do accept PP points about cultural norms.

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