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Would you judge me?

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clairemcnam · 19/05/2019 14:26

I hold my knife like a pen. I did not even think about this until MN. Would you judge me for this if you met me?

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Corndog · 19/05/2019 14:27

Are you left handed? Because I hold mine like that too

Bambamber · 19/05/2019 14:28

I probably wouldn't even notice

Bambamber · 19/05/2019 14:28

I probably wouldn't even notice

Winegumaddict · 19/05/2019 14:30

I would yes sorry. I'd never say something but I would notice it so therefore I'd feel I was judging you just because I noticed.

Bambamber · 19/05/2019 14:31

I probably wouldn't even notice

Biancadelrioisback · 19/05/2019 14:32

Is this a thing?!

Jinglejanglefish · 19/05/2019 14:36

I wouldn't, but I don't care hugely about etiquette. I would eat nearly everything with my hands if I could.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/05/2019 14:39

Do you stick your elbow out when you do it? That’s very annoying at a busy table.

If not then go for it. Not how I eat but your choice.

Confusedbeetle · 19/05/2019 14:39

It's really a very inefficient way to use a knife as you only have one finger pressure to cut with. It would be considered bad manners in some circles. I was never allowed to do it as a child but the argument was efficiency. It isn't unusual. It would catch my eye only because my father disapproved of it. Also leaving the top off the toothpaste or squeezing it in the middle. Childhood message run deep

pigsDOfly · 19/05/2019 14:42

I'm not sure 'judge' is the right word, but it does look very odd to me when I see people eating like that.

My main thought is how do you use your knife efficiently, how to you manage to cut a piece of meat for example, because if you're holding your knife like a pen how are you able to exert any pressure on the blade.

It just looks very awkward.

Do you hold the knife that if you're cutting vegetables?

BritWifeinUSA · 19/05/2019 14:45

I wouldn’t judge. But it would irk me if I had to sit at a table facing you and could see you doing that. Have you tried holding it the other way?

That said, seeing people not using a knife at all is even more irritating. Using just a fork in their right hand like a shovel, cutting things with the side of the fork...don’t get me started on that one.

BigusBumus · 19/05/2019 14:48

I'd judge you. I really hate it.

ginghamtablecloths · 19/05/2019 14:50

I wouldn't judge you or say anything out loud but I'd do the British thing of cringing quietly inside.

cuppycakey · 19/05/2019 14:57

Yes ike gingham, I wouldn't really judge, but would shudder inside Grin

NottonightJosepheen · 19/05/2019 14:58

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JudgeRindersMinder · 19/05/2019 14:59

Rod hate myself for it, but I would judge (wouldn’t say anything though)

ManchesterBorn · 19/05/2019 14:59

Yes, I hate bad table manners and probably notice more since I have been trying to teach my own kids.

I would never say anything to you, that would be even more rude, so you wouldn't know.

I do know some people who have missed out on promotions because of bad table manners - it would have become embarrassing with some of the clients so it was easier to chose someone else. I also have many friends who won't invite you again. Some people really do care.

1990shopefulftm · 19/05/2019 15:00

no i wouldn't judge you, since i m dyspraxic i don't hold a pen correctly so my way of using cutlery probably is considered wrong too.

JudgeRindersMinder · 19/05/2019 15:00

Rod?? I’d!!

OnGoldenPond · 19/05/2019 15:01

Nah love, I don't even use a knife. I just shovel everything in with my fork and eat my steak like a lollipop Grin

HBStowe · 19/05/2019 15:01

I probably wouldn’t notice, but if I did I would be aware that it was wrong. I would just assume nobody had ever taught you, I wouldn’t blame you for it.

forkfun · 19/05/2019 15:02

"Good manners are not culturally specific, it's about consideration of others. "

This! Hold your knife however works best for you.

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DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 19/05/2019 15:02

No. I judge the people who judge the way a person holds a knife tbh.

SonEtLumiere · 19/05/2019 15:04

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forkfun · 19/05/2019 15:05

@ManchesterBorn You have friends who wouldn't invite someone because of how they hold they knife? I guess these people wouldn't invite anyone from, say, the USA or Thailand or really most other countries. How strange.

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