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To not tell the bride and groom?

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AmazingGrace16 Sun 19-May-19 04:58:37

Maid of honour and best man here. Wedding starting at 3pm although obviously we've both got bits to do before then.
We've both come down with a tummy bug. It's not so horrific that it's constant... we've had one episode each.

Do we tell the bride and groom? I'm thinking no and just crack on unless it bubbles up again. But AIBU?

We've got two girls who seem fine too....

practicallyperfectmummy Sun 19-May-19 05:01:24

No don't tell them, drink water try to flush it out. Not something they need to be worrying about. Hope you feel better

LizziesTwin Sun 19-May-19 05:18:17

Wash your hands extra thoroughly to try & reduce risk of contagion

LuckyLou7 Sun 19-May-19 05:22:22

You can't bail out now!! Drink loads. Get immodium when the chemist opens (major supermarket pharmacy open 10am)
Feel better soon.

MaybeitsMaybelline Sun 19-May-19 05:37:25

Yup Imodium, you can buy it from the supermarket at 10 or possibly a Tesco express or similar in half an hour.

Eat carefully, drink water, stay quiet and power through.

LittleLongDog Sun 19-May-19 05:40:59

Take a bottle of hand sanitizer dnd use it constantly. Things like this can spread so quickly and you don’t want the bride and groom starting off married life with a tummy bug, nor hundreds of guests ending up ill.

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 19-May-19 05:54:32

Are they going on honeymoon in the next few days? I for example am really susceptible to getting stomach bugs. I would get it 100% guaranteed. What if the b&g or guests are the same? There could be elderly guests there. Stomach bugs can be kill. For me the choice you have as I see it is bail on the wedding or infect everyone.

You absolutely must tell the b&g. You will be infectious for at least 2 days after the symptoms subside and probably far more.

WhiteDust Sun 19-May-19 06:00:40

Might just be something you are yesterday. Imodium is what you need. Do everything above and drink lots of water.

WhiteDust Sun 19-May-19 06:00:56


WhiteDust Sun 19-May-19 06:03:59

Just to add, if you've only had one 'episode' (which end?) all night, it doesn't sound like a bug. More like an upset tummy.

Teddybear45 Sun 19-May-19 06:18:01

Don’t touch either of them and keep your kids away from them too. Last thing they need is a dv bug before honeymoon!

Catchingbentcoppers Sun 19-May-19 06:23:56

I would absolutely tell the bride and groom and let it be their decision if they want you there.

I can't believe people saying 'wash your hands' like this will mean you won't pass anything on. Some stomach bugs are so virulent they can be dangerous and you will be in very close proximity to lots of people today, particularly the bride and groom themselves.

I would be massively pissed off if someone put my guests at risk, particularly the elderly.

Blondebakingmumma Sun 19-May-19 06:28:36

I don’t think you should potentially infect the wedding guests and b&g. Warn them now, how long until the wedding?

PeoniesareKing Sun 19-May-19 06:33:52

One episode of diarrhoea each?
Imodium, careful hand washing and say nothing.
If it becomes persistent you might need to think again.

NauseousMum Sun 19-May-19 06:39:39

How do you know it's a bug? It could be food, especially with only one bout.

AmazingGrace16 Sun 19-May-19 06:39:50

One episode of d for me with not right tummy all day.
One episode of sickness for dh

southernsoftiestuckooopnorth Sun 19-May-19 06:39:52

Oh bloody hell! Hopefully it's just a one off because of something you are. But if it happens again I think you'll have to tell them. I wasn't part of them, but I know of s few weddings / christenings over the last few years where a virus has gone around. The people involved chose to go ahead which i though was brave!

AmazingGrace16 Sun 19-May-19 06:40:53

They aren't going on honeymoon

AmazingGrace16 Sun 19-May-19 06:43:39

You're all absolutely reflecting my thoughts. I'm happy to soldier on, drink water and rethink if it returns again.
I also don't want it to spread if it is something. It could be food related? But I don't know. I felt poorly all day with a not right tum but only once did I have the instant need to dash to the loo.

ittakes2 Sun 19-May-19 06:45:51

When a chemist or health food store open i recommend you ring them and ask if they stock the homeopathic remedy Arsen alb 30c. Magic stuff. Was recommended to me after my 4 year old went 33 times in one day and he was too young to be allowed medicine to stop him - after 1st dose went once more and didn’t again. Have since recommended to lots of people who have also found it amazing. It’s about £4-6.

MaverickSnoopy Sun 19-May-19 06:53:10

Imodium and peptobismol (pink liquid in bottle). The former will bung you up and latter will ease queasy tummy. I've read travel sickness tablets can help but can't speak from experience.

Take it hour by hour. I wouldn't say anything unless you really have to.

SlowStarters Sun 19-May-19 06:56:50

Don't take immodium! Let the bug flush out, drink lots. How do you feel in yourself?

Personally I would tell the bride and groom, it's not your fault you're poorly, and let them make the decision.

I went to a wedding last Nov and one of the bridesmaids was obviously very poorly with a really nasty cold. Out of 100 guests 20 (including me) caught it even though we avoided her. I was ill for a fortnight.

AmazingGrace16 Sun 19-May-19 06:59:59

DH is making ill voice followed by lots of little tiny sighs.....he might get a slap

AmazingGrace16 Sun 19-May-19 07:00:54

I feel ok. I've definitely got loose bowels but it's not sudden onset anymore

SnapesGreasyHair Sun 19-May-19 07:03:34

He definitely needs a slap and told to man up for his friends wedding. No alcohol for either of you.

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