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Champions league ban at wedding

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User12038483 Sat 18-May-19 11:21:25

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

BruceAndNosh Sat 18-May-19 11:22:53

What are the timings of the game and the reception?

ScreamingValenta Sat 18-May-19 11:24:17

I don't follow football. I only had a modest wedding with 20 guests but I'd have been mightily pissed off if they'd sat around watching a football match. They can record the match and watch it afterwards, surely?

IndigoHexagon Sat 18-May-19 11:25:12

I think your Dh and his brothers are totally unreasonable. It’s a football game. The bride and groom are obviously not wanting half their guests disappearing in the middle of their wedding, a day they will have been planning for months, to watch a football game. I actually feel for them that they are worried enough about it that they’ve had to send the message to preempt.

BollocksToBrexit Sat 18-May-19 11:26:13

I can see their position. I hate football so wouldn't want it creeping into my wedding. But on the other my brother is a massive Liverpool fan (home city) and would cancel his own wedding to watch this match. So on balance I think the bride and groom need to stick it one somewhere unless they want half their guests to bugger off to watch it.

rudewordsaretheshit Sat 18-May-19 11:26:16

I would think anyone who put a fricking football game ahead of their friends' once in a lifetime wedding was a massive twat. It's a game. Literally just a game.

BarrenFieldofFucks Sat 18-May-19 11:27:08

They need to grow up. The football watchers that is. Sad that the poor couple even have to say it tbh.

Sexnotgender Sat 18-May-19 11:27:30

I assume the people are invited to the wedding because they are friends with the couple getting married? Surely they can do the couple the courtesy of actually being present at the wedding instead of watching a football match?

Lazypuppy Sat 18-May-19 11:27:34

I dont think there is anything the bride/groom can do.if people want to watch it they will.

Probably better to put it on 1 tv in the corner of the bar, leave all the men over there and rest of reception can carry on

IceCreamAndCandyfloss Sat 18-May-19 11:28:27

I don't like football but would have had no issue with it being on a screen unless it was at the time of the formal meal. The evening part is a lot of sitting chatting or dancing and not actually that much time with the bride and groom bar the cake cutting and the odd chat.

AgileLass Sat 18-May-19 11:29:53

Did they really send a message to people saying that the day is about them? Gosh.

mynameiscalypso Sat 18-May-19 11:29:53

I think it's either the kind of thing you get or you don't get. FWIW, we got married on the day of a major sporting final. If England had reached the final, we would have shown it on screens. They didn't but we said that anyone who wanted could go and watch the match at the pub opposite the venue and we wouldn't do anything major while it was on. We would definitely have it on if we were getting married but then DH and I like sport.

PatriciaHolm Sat 18-May-19 11:29:58

Whilst it is their day, and I don't think they are being unreasonable in hoping it's about them, I don't think they stand a hope in hell in getting 200 Liverpudlians to not find some way to watch I'm afraid...

HBStowe Sat 18-May-19 11:30:08

I can’t imagine how anyone could be so rude as to leave a wedding to watch a football match then return, or to watch it on an iPad or whatever while there.

Your husband could record the match and watch it later. If he refuses to do that I think he should skip the wedding altogether, but in your shoes I would let him know what I thought of a man who considered watching a football match to be more important than people he presumably cares about...

GemmeFatale Sat 18-May-19 11:31:11

It’s completely reasonable for them to not show the match at their wedding.

It’s also completely reasonable for guests to choose to go somewhere they can watch the match instead of attending the wedding, assuming you haven’t already RSVP’ed.

Shoxfordian Sat 18-May-19 11:31:44

They can't stop him googling the result but it's rude if he leaves to go watch it

Could he and his brothers agree to record it then watch together the next day? Try to avoid seeing the result

Skrowten Sat 18-May-19 11:32:23

As much as I would hate it myself, in these circumstances I think the couple would be better off embracing it, showing the match on their terms and then getting on with the day

Lazypuppy Sat 18-May-19 11:32:41

Your husband could record the match and watch it later.

😂😂😂 i'd love for you to say this to a liverpool fan and see what their response is

HBStowe Sat 18-May-19 11:34:40

i'd love for you to say this to a liverpool fan and see what their response is

I’d love to hear any adult try to justify why a game is so important, they think it would justify being so rude to people they’re supposed to love. I know I don’t understand / am not a football fan / don’t get it etc., but I can’t even begin to express how pathetic it is to be so invested in something so unimportant.

angelikacpickles Sat 18-May-19 11:34:43

As much as I would hate it myself, in these circumstances I think the couple would be better off embracing it, showing the match on their terms and then getting on with the day

This.

JacquesHammer Sat 18-May-19 11:34:48

The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them

Ouch how utterly crass.

To be honest I’d be tempted to disappear and watch it now grin

SillyLittleBiscuit Sat 18-May-19 11:35:47

COYS!

B&G are bonkers if they think supporters of either (or actually any) team aren’t going to watch this game. It’s massive!

HomeMadeMadness Sat 18-May-19 11:36:30

Bloody hell who expects to watch a football match at someone's wedding?

Passthecherrycoke Sat 18-May-19 11:37:07

I’ve been to a few Indian weddings which fall the same day as huge cricket matches and they’ve generally accommodated it- a few times with a open fronted lorry with a huge screen in parked up in the car park grin

If it was my wedding I’d be annoyed but unfortunately I think you’d have to accept people will go off and watch it

MojoMoon Sat 18-May-19 11:37:32

Kick off is 8pm

Probably well after the formal dinner and speeches and into the dancing, mingling, drinking bit.

Pretty much the perfect time to stick it on a TV in the bar or separate room.

Yes, it's the wedding day but it feels like a not unreasonable compromise they could make to keep a large number of guests happy. A bit of give and take

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