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Champions league ban at wedding

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User12038483 Sat 18-May-19 11:21:25

Were attending a wedding the day of the champion leagues final, now Liverpool have gotten to the final DH understandably wants to watch it. The majority of people attending are from Liverpool and the surrounding areas, my DH included. The couple getting married have now put out a notice saying that they have chosen not to screen the champions league, and they do not want anyone to ask for it to be put on, to leave and watch it or to be watching it on any devices and to please respect that this day is about them.

On one hand, I get it.. it's your wedding day. You want it to be about you. But DH and his brothers aren't willing to miss such a massive game and are now trying to work out a plan to be able to watch it and then return to the wedding after. It ended with DH and I having a bit of an argument because I think it's extremely rude to leave, watch the game and return. It's just been left with they will be watching and that's that, they think the bride and groom are being unreasonable to put a blanket ban on the whole thing and not just shove it on a tele in the bar. There's over 200 guests invited to the wedding.

Who's being unreasonable?

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boobirdblue Mon 20-May-19 10:22:56

Last word of this is


Belenus Mon 20-May-19 10:13:05

For the mansplainer in the audience.

FunInTheSun2019 Mon 20-May-19 10:12:17

If the B and G have ever been to a wedding before, they will know how boring they are!!

If you're not immediate family, who actually likes weddings?! Hours and hours of waiting around, spending a fortune on an outfit, listening to crap speeches, being sat on a table next to someone who chats absolute bull the whole time, the list goes on!

If they just played the match, at least guests would stay at the wedding..if they don't I expect by 7 the place will be dead!

Deadpoet Mon 20-May-19 10:12:08

Hubby is a Liverpool fan and his response was “ don’t talk out of your arse woman “ 😂

camelstraw Mon 20-May-19 10:08:33

It wouldn't be many leaving, if they could watch on-site. And they could dip in and out, return at half time etc, definitely return at end. But if they have to actually leave, then they are unlikely to return, and it is possible that plus-ones and families will leave at the same time (as they may well share same interests, and be OK with leaving after about 9 hours which has already covered the wedding and main set-piece party events)

I think that the number leaving will rise spectacularly if it's an exciting match.

And people will know and decide 'Ican't miss this after all' because they'll ask staff or check-in the bogs (where there might be quite a party-within-a-party)

Deadpoet Mon 20-May-19 10:07:07

When I got married England were playing. We had it on a big screen.
DH is a massive Liverpool fan and the champions league final wasn’t screened at the wedding he wouldn’t be going.

EllenMP Mon 20-May-19 10:04:03

I think the couple have been incredibly selfish and rude in putting this message out. 'It's all about us'? I'm sorry but a wedding is a pleasant social event for your guests, not a life changing milestone in their lives. I don't know what it says about the happy couple's friends that there think there is strong chance of their guests openly watching footie on their phone at a wedding. That would, of course, be unforgiveably rude too.

I don't think the posters on here have any understanding of what football means to true fans, and I find their dismissiveness about it disheartening. Would you tell someone they couldn't check on a sick horse during the wedding if they were horsey people? Or whip home if they thought they might have left the front door open? My husband is a Tottenham fan (playing Liverpool in the same Champions League final) and is very emotionally wrapped up in this match. His is otherwise a mature, sensible and rational man of impeccable manners and consideration, but if we were going to this wedding I would have to pry his phone out of his cold dead hands to top him from checking on the match. And I wouldn't do that.

There is usually so much annoying dead time at the wedding that I think the couple should try to work around the two hours of the match and make it possible for guests who are more attached to the match than the wedding to do both.

Lweji Mon 20-May-19 10:01:25

The B&G may well find themselves with just a handful of guests in the evening.

TrojanWhore Mon 20-May-19 09:56:56

"That's how unbalanced and out-of-touch-with-everyday-people these football worshipping types are."

Other way round, mate. Footie supporters are huge in number, and it's those who refuse to acquire any understanding of what the majority of their neighbours are into, are the Ines with the limitations

RoseAndRose Mon 20-May-19 09:53:58

I'm sure I read a one of those quasi-scientific cod surveys, which found that (as most divorce initiated by women) only about 20% of men would leave if they though marriage underperforming. Same group, <2% would change club alliance if their football team was underperforming.

And the reaction was that the number that would change teams seemed a bit on the high side.

Some people just don't get that people are not the same as them, nor that footie allegiances and rituals matter (and are not limited by class)

If this wedding was not colonised by LFC supporters, then the reactions might have been quite different. But it is.

So yes, I agree that people will probably leave at about kick-off time

TrixieFatell Mon 20-May-19 09:52:01

I’m surprised an adult has to be told how to behave at a wedding. There are things I love and would hate to miss but that’s life and they need to get over if

ralfeesmum Mon 20-May-19 09:49:28

HBStowe: The late (and alledged Great) BIll Shankly, former Liverpool boss, who actually said that football is much more important than life & death. Apparently, he meant it too!

That's how unbalanced and out-of-touch-with-everyday-people these football worshipping types are.

Lord above save us......

camelstraw Mon 20-May-19 09:47:52

Anyone who thinks that you can watch a fixture of this nature later, really has not taken anything from the many posts which explain why (in Liverpool FFS) this is not going to be possible.

Nor are they allowing for the fact that the wedding started at 11ish and the footie doesn't begin until 8pm. You cannot compel your guests to stay until the very end of your event (people may be pregnant, infI rm, tired, with fractious toddler, over 'emotional' or whatever).

I expect there will be an efflux at 8pm. Not because fans are snowflakes, but because it's actually a reasonable time to leave after 9 hours of celebrating the marriage.

Contraceptionismyfriend Mon 20-May-19 09:43:31

@Goldmandra who would need to sneak off? Kick off is at 8pm. So the guests would just go home. After the wedding. There's nothing wrong with leaving a venue when it's all bloody over.

Oliversmumsarmy Mon 20-May-19 09:43:00

What if the B&G’s parents didn’t attend.

Why would it just be just random guests who decided to get their priorities right.

Given the time of the match I think most will just leave early and not return. I can even imagine bride and grooms fathers and mothers sneaking out to watch.

Having been to a lot of weddings and seen everyone fail I doubt, no matter how much this wedding has cost or how demanding the couple are over the behaviour I am sure this wedding won’t be their only big day.

Collaborate Mon 20-May-19 09:42:43

I'm loving all the posters saying that a wedding is a once in a lifetime, whereas your team could get to the CL final again.

Try telling that to Spurs supporters, who have never reached this stage before in over 100 years of history.

With the divorce rate as it is, these days a wedding is less likely to be a once in a lifetime event, and guests can always be reassured that if they hang around a few years there may well be a second chance.

chicken12 Mon 20-May-19 09:38:59

I avoided the world cup on purpose for my wedding but local team got I playoffs we had ig on in the bar and my friends husbands with tickets went to match and came back later they told us of there intentions no pro lem ic we had not shown it there would have bee a lot less people there football is more important tha anything to some people a wedding is more than a reception after all

Goldmandra Mon 20-May-19 09:28:24

I think the guests should get their priorities right

If they did I can imagine the wedding severely reducing in size

Isn't that the whole point though?

The wedding party is full of people who don't really give two hoots about the happy couple. Football is more important to them because they aren't that close to the B&G.

In a smaller wedding, the people present would have their priorities right because they would be more emotionally invested in the B&G and the focus would be on the celebration.

If you aren't that close and love football, the emotional investment is elsewhere.

Any snowflake who thinks they couldn't cope with missing a football game or, heaven forbid, watching it later, needs to have the balls to apologise to the B&G and stay away.

It would be very rude to attend and then sneak off because there's something else you'd rather do. Even worse to sit and watch in the room on your own device because nobody can tell you what to do with your own phone. Of course they can't.The onus is on you to respect the wishes of your host.

My DH suggested the B&G should get the venue to set up a signal blocker but, TBH, I'd just trust that nobody would be rude enough to need that in place at my wedding.

Oliversmumsarmy Mon 20-May-19 09:08:16

I think the guests should get their priorities right

If they did I can imagine the wedding severely reducing in size

boobirdblue Mon 20-May-19 09:05:25

@Bobmarlee have you seen the price of Madrid flights confusedconfused!

OhLookHeKickedTheBall Mon 20-May-19 09:03:54

jacques grin both to the rule help and the Everton assumption.

boobirdblue Mon 20-May-19 09:01:00

Anyone else assuming the rule-botching wazzock is an Everton fan....?

Yes grin! A single one, because all women without exception are boring!

A bet he suffers from some severe death grip! gringringrin

JacquesHammer Mon 20-May-19 08:51:45

Anyone else assuming the rule-botching wazzock is an Everton fan....?

pam290358 Mon 20-May-19 08:50:10

I am from Liverpool. My wedding day many years ago fell on an important match day for LFC and because our wedding reception was at my parents’ home, DH, my dad and their mates disappeared upstairs in the afternoon to watch the match. I was really annoyed at the time but let it go because I didn’t want unpleasantness on our special day. Because were at home it was reasonably OK, but had we been at a wedding venue for the reception, I would have been livid. This is your friends’ big day and I for one agree with their decision. They don’t want a football match to detract from what is their day and I don’t think their blanket ban on it is at all unreasonable. I think the guests should get their priorities right, suck it up and respect this couple’s wishes.

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