Nasty neighbour (sorry its a long one)(43 Posts)
So. A few months back our lovely neighbour passed. She was an ideal neighbour , takes in parcels, lets in builders, kind to ds who has asd ect. We are in a building with 5 other flats fyi. So this new guy and his wife (who noone ever see's) move in. Its a disabled adapted flat and they are not. Anyhoo, from day one he is poking his nose in to our lives asking questions about who lives hear, what they do, kids, partners, criminal convictions ect. We all keep quiet, dont give anything up and try to just get on with life. Then come the notes. Please keep quiet we're trying to sleep. Dont slam doors ect. Then at xmas his unlocked bike gets stollen. He puts up cctv outside and puts up more notes then his slippers which he keeps outside his door gets stollen, well one anyway. And all hell breaks loose. The notes take on a sinister turn and hes badgering all who he bumps into. We laugh it off, yes it sucks his unlocked bike was stolen. But a slipper! Ffs. I start calling him Cinderella and making jokes about who steels a shoe ect. He seems to think its me now who's stollen it (it wasnt) neighbours stuff then starts going missing from the communal area. Being found in the local park ect. The notes then start again by saying hes got permission from the LL to put cctv in the hallway..so two of us object, call the LL and stop that big brother shit right away. Ohhh he wasnt happy i can tell u. So one morning he confront me in a highly aggressive way saying im a theif and a liar. Im the reason the flats are in a state , im scum, my son is a little terrorist. My ds was in the car when this all happen, scared him terribly so much so that he wet himself at school when we got their. I tell him to go fuck himself (not my finest with ds nxt to me ) he threatens to call my work tell them im a theif and to let the neighbourhood im a theif too.( for a fucking slipper!) So i do what anyone else would do. I report him to the LL and the police. His retaliation. Superglue my postbox lock so i cant get my post. So i report him again. They warn him but cant do much else. The cctv goes into his garage and hes made to take the notes down. So a few weeks on. His latest torment is to tell the LL that we have bikes in the communal area and hes worried they'll be stolen too. So we have 7 days to take them away. We are in a flat with no storage and a tiny balcony where i guess we'll have to store the bikes now. Asshat.
So my aibu.. what can I do to legally piss him off. Im so fed up now. My ds doesnt want to leave the flat as we have to walk past his door to go out to the car. .please wonderfull people of MN. Your my onely hope... sorry its so long.
You dont sound very nice. Neither does he. Why was your first reaction when his slipper was stolen to take the piss?
Really? You sound just as bad. Are you even allowed bikes in a communal area?
When someone starts behaving like that, your rise above it. You don't give them mean nicknames and make fun of them.
What he was doing was passive aggressive and annoying. What you did was bullying. Niehter of you are covering yourselves in glory so get over it and move on. Ignore him.
Also, you can store your stuff in a communal area so yes, you will need to store them on your balcony. He's not wrong about getting your stuff moved into your flat.
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Wow sorry for posting twice. And nice Derren. The guy is a total knob. Are u him? Hes made all the residence lives a nightmare. So intrusive and yes i laughed because it was a fucking slipper! Im sorry about the bike. I even posted on facebook for the local community to watch out for it. I am a very nice person really I just hate this twat for many reasons.
I don't understand why you objected to the cctv in the hallways?
Being worried that your bike will be stolen sounds like nothing to be concerned about. You're actively wanting to piss someone off, which makes you quite an unpleasant person. You're as bad as each other.
Wow how did race get into this. We're both white fyi.
There’s nothing you can do except persevere with the legal channels - keep reporting him, keep logging his behaviour.
You shouldn’t really be keeping bikes in a stairwell anyway as it’s a fire hazard, so it’s not necessarily a bad thing that they are not stored there any more. But he sounds truly awful and I imagine it’s terribly difficult to live next door. Just keep challenging his behaviour through official means whenever necessary and hopefully one day they will actually be able to take action.
He's already harassed, intimidated and vandalised your property.
Why would you want to antagonise him more?
Think of your poor son who was terrified last time he verbally attacked you
Calling your son a "little terrorist" sounds potentially racist to me?
Reminds me of the saying "Never wrestle with a pig. You get dirty and the pig likes it.".
@Tensixtysix your post is offensive - I've reported. It is in fact racist to white people.
How is terrorist racist? That implies that the only people who commit acts if terror aren't white (assuming you are white given the population in the UK mostly is).
White people can be terrorists too.
It sounds like he started it and you’ve escalated it
Stolen slippers aren’t a big deal but on top of a stolen bike and other issues it’s a big deal to him and you’ve joked about it
Is your son (obviously not a terrorist) “spirited”?
Exactly! Race has nothing to do with this. The people that bring up race before anything else on these kids of threads are usually racist in some way - be that against white people or otherwise. I'm Irish catholic and have ancestors in the IRA yet I wouldn't get "offended" or claim racism if someone called my son a terrorist - the phrase "little terror" has been around since my great grandma and probably before then. People are such snowflakes these days - before even anything to do with race has been mentioned!
Why did you object to the camera in the hallway? If things are being stolen why not?
You both sound as bad as each other and you have to expect a lot of stollen especially at Christmas. If his bike and slipper are both getting stollen then please may I have a bit?
I said "potentially", as I don't know enough about what happened.
Of course white people can be terrorists too, however if a white person calls a dark-skinned person a "terrorist" I think it's likely to be racially-motivated, and used in the context of events over the last few years with ISIS.
Are you not aware of those connotations?
What's your explanation as to use of the term "terrorist" as an insult in the context of the situation the OP described?
You reported him to the LL. Are you a tenant or just him? Either he or the ll should make reparations for your post box.
As for the rest of the stuff I think you should ignore him and report when needed. Not take revenge. This will just escalate the problem, which is hardly ok for your poor ds!!
You think "little terror" is the same as "terrorist"? Fair enough...
I don't want to hijack the OP's thread with a discussion of racism. So not going to get into it anymore than that.
I thought that the Jeremy Kyle show had been cancelled?
For what it’s worth Op, I think he’s sounds like a complete bellend and can totally understand why he’s pissing you off .
I honestly though would just start ignoring him point blank. Don’t even glance in his direction anymore.
If he starts shot again just keep a diary for proof and report him every single time ..
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