to be pissed off with dh for not responding to email saying ds is not well?

[cheekymonk]

Afternoon everyone. Emailed dh this morning to tell him ds was up most of night being sick and so have kept him off nursery today. Dh is in tenerife with the navy at the moment but he has regular access to emails. Just rang him now and he had got email but not responded as he was so busy! He was also curt on the phone as he had a "big job" on. FFS! I know it is his job and everything but he could have sent one liner showing some concern. I know he cares but sometimes has a funny way of showing it.
Yes I probably am cranky after crap night's sleep!

[alicet]

I would be more than a little p*ssed off too if I was you. But your email might have been sent in a tone that didn't imply a reply (we all know that men are rubbish at replying to stuff unless there is an actual question in there) and he may have been getting a lot of grief at work.

Plus he probably has a lot of confidence in your ability to be a fab mum. And thought if you were that worried you would ahve called straight away rather than emailed.

Understand how you feel entirely but try and wait until you've chatted to him properly later before getting too hacked off.

[Meeely2]

I say, deep breath, in and out.

I think he was curt because he felt guilty for not replying, but probably didn't feel the need to reply straight away as you so obviously had it under control.

I would imagine being in the navy is very stressful, he misses you guys, so you ringing to ask why he didn't respond to your email just highlighted the fact he wasn't home and therefore was unable to help.....

he does care......

[CaptainUnderpants]

I think that you may be a bit unresoanable , howver you are forgiven if you are tired and cranky .

If he had sent a one liner , then wouldn't the resonse by you be the same but you would be complaining that he couldn't be bothered to write any more.

No doubt your DH has great confidence in your ability to mange things alone whilst he is away and perhaps didn't wnat to phone in case he disturbed you or Ds.

And he may have a 'big job ' on and unfortunately as we know he wouldn't be able to say much more and time may not allow him to do emails , even a one liner .


Hope DS gets better soon.

[cheekymonk]

Thanks all. Yes I should give him the benefit of the doubt. I didn't ring to have a go, just wanted to hear his voice really but when I knew he had read email and not replied I felt a bit "left to it". I didn't have a go at him on the phone but rather said we'll talk later on. He is home next week anyway and I know ds (and definitely I!) can't wait. It has been a lonely old time.
Ds is ok but far less active than normal. Its just carrying the worry/responsibility myself...

[alicet]

I think it must be really hard to have to look after a child on your own. MASSIVE respect to single mums who do it all the time. Like you say just haveing someone to discuss it with and reassure yourself that they're fine is all you really need sometimes.

Try not to worry - hope he gets better soon and you manage to catch up on sleep later - big hug!

[cheekymonk]

Yes, I agree. I really admire and respect single parents too. Anyway best go now and look after ds,bless him. he is doing puzzles on the floor.

[TenaLady]

Ahh! my dh is like this. The world doesnt stop for anything when he is at work.

He sees it that as long as an ambulance hasnt been called and I am there to deal with it, whats the problem?

Got a logical point I suppose, just nice to have another bod to discuss it with and who better than the childs father!

[CaptainUnderpants]

If DS is hapy doing puzzles on the floor , leave him to it for 5 mins , put your feet up and have a cup of tea !

[cheekymonk]

Thanks everyone again. Ds much better now, not sick all day yesterday or night. both of us had good nights sleep so feel much better.
Spoke to dh last night and had good chat/sorted things out so all hunky dory again-sort of!

[cheekymonk]

Little bugger keeps telling me to "away" so he must be better!!!!