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Is it U to wear this as a wedding guest?

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GetSetNo Thu 02-May-19 21:27:35

I've asked a couple of people now, it's about an inch of the floor at the back if I'm wearing flats which I intend to later on or with heels, 4/5 inches.

Everyone I've asked (6 people) says it's fine and I should definitely wear it but if I were the bride, I feel as though I'd think whoever wore it was trying to steal the limelight (although, you can never truly upstage a bride).

Is everyone else BU here?

Flobochin Tue 07-May-19 09:35:43

I do wonder why people post on here 🤨

Lweji Tue 07-May-19 08:46:19

You asked on Friday about the dress to wear this weekend?
You were never not going to wear it if people thought it was inappropriate, were you?
I have to agree with Beethoven. Odd choice of words throughout. hmm

FraggleRocking Tue 07-May-19 08:13:40

Glad you enjoyed the wedding, sure you looked great. And also pleased you’ve acknowledged your choice of language in your original post was probably what caused the controversy on this thread, not the dress.

CSIblonde Tue 07-May-19 06:37:58

It's not going to upstage any bride, but it's an odd dress. It's someone's 'twist' (putting a longer back on the skirt) on a not very flattering 50's style. Large floral designs just make me think of frumpy 80's Laura Ashley dresses.

Beethovens5th Tue 07-May-19 05:50:48

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Honeybee85 Tue 07-May-19 05:25:07

I don’t mean to be rude but it’s a VERY particular dress. If one of my friends wore it I might be tempted to say: my great-grandmother called, she wants her flower curtains back.

I think your feeling of the upstaging possibilty might have to do with it being quite an attention grabbing dress.

Beethovens5th Tue 07-May-19 05:15:34

Oh. Yeah. I'm so mean!

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha


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MyOtherProfile Mon 06-May-19 22:01:48

Wow that same person is really persistent in their meanness.

GetSetNo Mon 06-May-19 21:56:09

Upstage, limelight are big words and probably not the correct terms I was going for. I had no hopes of going for that anyway, I wanted to just blend in and wear a nice dress at the same time. I didn't want it to be one of those things people remembered and talked about.

I did wear the dress, I had several compliments on the dress, including from the bride. Perhaps the guests aren't on MN.

Andra09 Mon 06-May-19 21:21:32

I wore a very similar dress to my aunts wedding. I love that brand! I got so many compliments on the day and no I didn't feel like I was stealing a bit of the limelight. Being curvy myself it was very difficult to find something I felt comfortable in. So if you like it and it makes you feel good f* what anyone else has to say x

Beethovens5th Mon 06-May-19 19:06:41

My "attempt" here was to point out the obvious. I failed.

Beethovens5th Mon 06-May-19 19:04:37

You can ignore me. I would highly advise it if it makes you feel better. The truth is that the wedding is not about you. Its the brides very special, hopefully once in a lifetime moment with precious husband. That being said, I am not without compassion for you; you seem to be naive and super excited to attend a fanciful affair. Ok! Then go for it! We live in an era insistant on mocking tradition anyway. Go all out! Enjoy the attention you'll get and toss aside any murmuring of guilt. Own it.

But don't be presumptuous. Perhaps you just don't know what that word means. And if you don't then just have a good time.

Too obvi the dress is sweet enough. It certainly doesn't hold a candle to a wedding dress, but what does it matter?

Goodomens23 Mon 06-May-19 10:37:03

It's a lovely dress,and would look perfect for a wedding. If you're unsure, you could always ask the bride. But generally, so long as it's not white, you're fine. Have a great time!

Twowilldo50 Mon 06-May-19 10:08:05

Tbh it looks fairly ordinary to me.

LibraryMum16 Mon 06-May-19 09:52:46

Hey, firstly, let's just ignore all the negative posts on here. The dress is wedding perfect. Gorgeous colours, a bit of drama to it with the hemline. Add some simple accessories. You'll look amazing. And the bride will think that too. You're not going to take anything away from her, she's the bride after all! And bear in mind that someone else will inevitably rock up in a sequin number (isn't there always one?) Everyone goes an extra step to dress up for a wedding, so don't worry. Wear it, rock it and enjoy a day celebrating your friend's special day! smile

azulmariposa Mon 06-May-19 08:28:43

Daily Mail and the metro must be desperate for news! 😂

It would've been fine, but now everyone knows what you're planning on wearing you'll have to change your mind!

findingmyfeet12 Mon 06-May-19 08:19:02

Op ignore Beethovens5th

MyOtherProfile Mon 06-May-19 05:08:24

Mumsnet at its worst. Up the sisterhood.

Beethovens5th Mon 06-May-19 04:43:39

I think the key phrase here is "upstage"

Right, everybody? If you had been "innocent " in your query wondering whether your dress was wedding attendance worthy, none of us would have continued to banter. But the bottom line is this. Even the elite have a cap on their spending. Now are the impressive years of my like

Beethovens5th Mon 06-May-19 04:40:13


Beethovens5th Mon 06-May-19 04:39:35

I seriously can't believe you put this post out there. Have you never worn a dress before?

Beethovens5th Mon 06-May-19 04:37:02

Upstage is a pretty big word.

I think humble pie should fill your fridge.

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JIgjagjig Mon 06-May-19 00:47:53

Here’s a tip. If you think there’s any chance of upstaging the bride - DON’T WEAR IT FFS. Are you really this shallow? Complaining about comments after what you posted? Use your common sense FFS. Get a f**king grip sweetheart and try to think a little bit more instead of being so focused on yourself. AGAIN - If you think there’s any chance of upstaging the bride - DON’T F**KING WEAR IT!

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