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friend being ridiculous wishing for a small baby?

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essexgirl12 Thu 25-Apr-19 13:50:03

me and my friend were chatting about babies.

friend: "i have heard that the birth weight of your baby is to do with the birth weight of the baby's father. my boyfriend was 10lbs when he was born so i hope i don't have a 10lb baby like that!"

me: "it depends on lots of things i don't think it is just that - my brother was 11lbs when he was born!"

friend: "oh i would hate that - i don't want a big chunky baby - i kind of hope my baby is premature and small and cute and diddy"

.........?? stunned to silence really

AllTheFours44 Thu 25-Apr-19 13:53:02

She said premature?

BendydickCuminsnatch Thu 25-Apr-19 13:53:48


BigRedLondonBus Thu 25-Apr-19 13:54:28

THis is normal
Imo. all my friends wished for a small baby (not premature but not over 7lbs)

CupOhTea Thu 25-Apr-19 13:54:30

She said premature?


Hairwizard Thu 25-Apr-19 13:54:34

She needs to be careful what she wishes for. Silly bint.

cardibach Thu 25-Apr-19 13:55:04

She is ridiculous, YANBU. I get that giving birth is frightening and large babies sound like they’d be much more difficult to deliver (and DD was 9lb7, so I’ve been there) but higher birth weight is safer for the baby. Certainly prematurity isn’t a risk she should want to take.
Also how big does she think 11lbs is? It’s still pretty And you either think babies are cute or you don’t. A couple of pounds extra surely won’t make the difference!

rabbitheadlights Thu 25-Apr-19 13:55:27

Ignorant dickhead!

Electrocute1980 Thu 25-Apr-19 13:55:30

As a mum of two premature babies, I think your friend needs to give her head a wobble. What a stupid thing to say.

CuppaSarah Thu 25-Apr-19 13:55:41


99calmbeforethestorm Thu 25-Apr-19 13:55:55

She is being silly but I suspect what she really means is a 37 week baby who is not huge rather than an actual premature baby.

cardibach Thu 25-Apr-19 13:55:57

That should say ‘it’s still pretty diddy’. Not just pretty!

Easterbunnyhashoppedoff Thu 25-Apr-19 13:56:06

I know at least 3 who said they were glad they still smoked as they would def have a small baby, thus easy labour. All women over 30....
Friendships drifted off. Odd bloody lot!!

elliejjtiny Thu 25-Apr-19 13:56:09

That's horrendous. My baby was born at 35 weeks and 6 years later he still has long term complications and I still have nightmares about it. I can't imagine what it would be like to have an earlier baby with life threatening problems. Who on earth would wish for that? Mind you I got a lot of comments about how lucky I was that ds was early so maybe some people really are that clueless.

RChick Thu 25-Apr-19 13:56:25

Is she actually pregnant? If not, i bet her attitude changes pretty soon afterwards.

Worlds0kayestmum Thu 25-Apr-19 13:57:02

I have a premature baby. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. She's being ridiculous

HalyardHitch Thu 25-Apr-19 13:57:05

What a bizarre thing to wish for. My boys were 6lb6 and 6lb2. It kind of made them weaker. The smallest had jaundice but he really struggled to get rid of it and the threshold for hospitalisation was so low. The bigger one was poorly and in hospital.

That said, they were pretty diddy and cute

SallyWD Thu 25-Apr-19 13:58:32

How silly! But maybe she didn't mean it. People just talk rubbish sometimes. I wished for a big baby because I heard they slept better (that's probably a load of rubbish too).

Biolama Thu 25-Apr-19 13:58:59

I think she probably doesn’t mean premature, when pregnant with my first i remember half thinking i hope he comes a bit early so he’s smaller because I thought that would make labour easier. I was thinking maybe 37/38 weeks as i heard they put on most of their weight after 37 weeks. I don’t know if that is true and towards the end I didn’t care about the bigger weight I just wanted him to be safe. She probably thinks 37 weeks is premature

Offallycheap Thu 25-Apr-19 13:59:09

My mother said I should only marry a man with a pointy head and narrow shoulders. I was 11lb. Just sayin.

essexgirl12 Thu 25-Apr-19 14:00:51

wow - cant't believe this isn't a unique wish with others wishing for small babies too! she is not pregnant no but wished for "a little prem baby". ridiculous thing to say

Yousicktwistedfruit Thu 25-Apr-19 14:01:43

Your friend is a dickhead a small baby is harder to deliver than a big baby and who the hell wishes for a premature baby that’s horrible

rosy71 Thu 25-Apr-19 14:01:46

Did she really say premature or just early? Ds2 was born at 38 weeks and was 9 lb 6oz so being slightly early is no guarantee of a small baby.

essexgirl12 Thu 25-Apr-19 14:01:54

@Easterbunnyhashoppedoff unbelievable!

Drogosnextwife Thu 25-Apr-19 14:02:30

Well my DP was 4lbs when he was born and my DS was 10lb so I don't think that's true 😂

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