So i'm 9 months post partum and i'm not going to lie I gained a sh*t tonne of weight. I'm quite short 5,4 and a squidge, I've no idea how much but pre preg i was a fit size 8/10. The weight gain has been odd and after been v pear shaped all my life i seem to have put on most of it across my back, shoulders, neck, chest and arms and plus i pretty much looked 6 months pregnant until about 6 weeks ago!
Anyway since Jan been doing my best with trying to make time for exercise and trying to count calories. It's been coming off steadily and really noticeably in past month and i'm down from an 18/20 to a 14/16 I've been feeling a lot more confident and DH and i have started having sex again in past few weeks - with him initiating it, (he's initiated a few times prev since DC went into own room at Xmas but I haven't been comfortable).
Sorry TMI but it's been great and i've really felt like i've been getting a sense of myself back looooong way to go but.....
Anyway Mon I got back from shopping and was just chattering saying i was happy i was in a 14 and a C cup bra but i still thought i was bigger across the back and was struggling with bras still. In a half joking half serious way he said 'oh yeah I noticed that last week when we were you know......it's kind of like a barrel'
WTAF I know i'm still fat I know i'm disproportionately big across the back/neck (oddly my stomach now looks fine to say i had an 8'6 baby!!!) but for him to say it to me and that he'd noticed it whilst we were having sex, i just feel mortified and humiliated. I just keep thinking back and dying a little inside as i thought we were having a great time and felt really sexy for the first time in forever and he was thinking i look like barrel?! Is it right I can't stop thinking about this and can't sleep.
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WhoatemyLindtbunny · 25/04/2019 02:04
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