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AIBU or is this friend being ultra-picky?

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scarbados Wed 24-Apr-19 13:14:53

We moved to a small coastal town from a big city 3 years ago and were happy with the idea that we'd probably have friends visiting, especially during summer. We have a spare room with ensuite bathroom and it's always ready for visitors.

If people are staying, they're welcome to join us in whatever we do, go their own way or a mixture. Sometimes they eat with us, other times they eat out and at others we all eat out together. We never expect them to pay for our meals but it's nice when they do. Neither do we ever expect payment from our guests.

But ... the couple due to arrive tomorrow for 3 nights have just messaged me and asked me to make sure there's white bread and strawberry jam here for their breakfasts, and a carton of orange juice because she doesn't drink tea or coffee. (There's a supermarket at the end of the road which will be open when they get here so they could pick up their own stuff when they arrive.) Then I got a second message from the male of the pairing asking me to 'please make sure there's a clean throw over the sofa and the cat doesn't sit on it before they arrive' as after the last visit he noticed cat hair on his jeans. I use a pet hair brush daily on the sofa as I know the cat loves to sleep on it. He doesn't sit on any of the other chairs in the house, where the guest could easliy sit but he prefers the sofa.

I feel like suggesting he does his own shopping and brings a clothes brush, or books into one of the many hotels in town. He's getting 3 nights free accommodation and fed for at least 4 meals while he's here and seems to be trying to set out a list of requirements I have to meet.

AIBU to be seriously pissed off and tempted to tell them I'll book a hotel room on their behalf and they're paying for it?

nicenewdusters Sat 27-Apr-19 18:00:07

With reference to a previous poster's comment, I think we know whose anus is winking now grin . The gods of d & v have truly wreaked vengeance on the CF.

SchadenfreudePersonified Sat 27-Apr-19 20:37:27


They are beautiful!

And I always think you get a shine on the coat of a black cat or dog that you get on no other colour. My black dog looks as though she's been French polished - sh'e s gorgeous (so are the others, but not so blindingly shiney grin)

Sexnotgender Sun 28-Apr-19 08:44:46

Thank you! I’m a big fan of black cats, they’re like mini panthers which is very cool.

Our dog had been badly abused and no one would give him a chance because he was horribly shy and terrified of everything. We’ve had him about 9 months now and he’s the daftest most loving dog ever. So glad we took a chance on him.

madcatladyforever Sun 28-Apr-19 08:47:23

YABU tell theme to stay somewhere else as it's not convenient any more.

scarbados Sun 28-Apr-19 09:18:07


Thank you so much for that. As you feel that unpaying guests are being reasonable in expecting me to buy (and pay for) food that we never eat so their taste in breakfast is met and that demandiing I keep my cat off my sofa is acceptable and not the behaviour of a CF, perhaps they could stay with you next time he wants a free-loading break somewhere.

AliceRR Sun 28-Apr-19 10:04:11

OP I thought @madcatladyforever wasn’t really meaning YABU in that way, more that you shouldn’t put up with it and should tell them to get lost (although doesn’t seem to have RTFT as we know they have left now) 🤔

RandomAmanda Sun 28-Apr-19 13:44:52

it's not convenient any more

It's sure not! They've come and gone by now grin 😂

CassandraCross Sun 28-Apr-19 14:30:57

Thread started 5 days ago, 23 Pages, 557 messages and still posters pop up to share their opinion which is woefully out of date.

If only you'd been courteous enough and taken the trouble to read the thread, or just the OP's updates, or failing that the last 2 or 3 pages @madcatladyforever you would have saved yourself the embarrassment of posting such an irrelevant comment and the well deserved reply from the OP to you.

Glittertwins Mon 29-Apr-19 17:13:27

Sorry to hear you've been unwell - hope the cat pictures cheered you up! Maybe your friend will come solo next time and it will be a proper friend catch up rather than his CF- ness

Jux Mon 29-Apr-19 20:48:37

I love black cats. I don't think their unpopularity is due to selfies and photographs as they have always been less popular than other colours. It's much more likely to be a superstition that they're unlucky, though some countries say they're lucky so hmm? I grew up in Surrey hearing that black cats were lucky, but spent my 20s on in London hearing they're unlucky. Who knows!

We always have one black one anyway. Our current black is one of the most beautiful dats I've ever known and her fur is so thick and soft and smells of flowers.

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