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Was I U not to clean?

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mum2three0 Wed 24-Apr-19 10:44:03

Recently just done a house swap, the lady complained to the HA that there was "dangerous mould" on the windowsills.
They've told her to clean it.

But now she is messaging me saying she's going to make sure I get hit with a cleaning bill as I could have cleaned it before I left.

I'm aware I should of, but I had about 38 hours to pack, 3 kids to take care of, nightshift to juggle, my nan passed away. I feel quite guilty as it is that I didn't clean absolutely everywhere but it just wasn't possible. The move didn't go smoothly either and I required another van for the rest of my stuff so time was spent doing that, I also had to run about dropping the kids off with various grandparents and the whole thing was just a nightmare!

Was I totally in the wrong?
So I don't drop feed, she didn't clean hers either

ratspeaker Wed 24-Apr-19 12:23:42

Everyone notifies utility companies when they move. Its only sensible.
I hope you took meter reading of your old place and new.
Your partner shouldn't plumb in cookers or anything for her unless on gassafe register or wire up anything. No your problem or responsibility.
If she's like this over cleaning, decorating imagine what she'd be like in case of leaks etc.
Seriously set up mail redirect then no contact.

CitadelsofScience Wed 24-Apr-19 12:03:20

Postal redirect can become expensive if you have adults with different surnames in the house as I found out to my cost when I moved. Daughter has a different surname and officially became an adult a week before moving 🙄

EL8888 Wed 24-Apr-19 12:01:35

Wow about the skirting boards 😲. I think postal re-direct even for a short time would be advisable

CynthiaRothrock Wed 24-Apr-19 11:57:46

I would msg back with the picture of the bathroom and say "well by the time i have billed you for the mess i have had to get cleaned, and my partner moving you i think we ill break even, oh and i called the gas because i have to shut down the account in my name, as i can't afford to pay for your gas usage- it is standard practice when you leave. Property so you dont end up with someone elses debt"

KaterinaPetrova Wed 24-Apr-19 11:54:29

Please find the money for a postal redirect. You really, REALLY don't want to have to deal with her anymore and with how entitled and cheeky she is, I would not rely on her not nosying through your mail.

mum2three0 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:48:02

Yeah he helped a lot, in the end the guy with the van told her that he wasn't going to bother loading up anymore of her stuff as she was only paying him £20, and he started at 10am, didn't leave until 4!!
The stuff that was left was eventually collected but has now been fly tipped around the area 🙈 we live minutes apart.
That isn't even the worst of it, the week before moving she asked my partner to varnish the skirtings as the HA wanted them done and she cba, her words to him!! But obviously we needed the move to go ahead so he did it

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones Wed 24-Apr-19 11:47:27

Honestly yes in an ideal world it would have been done but it wasn't and you move on. I actually can't believe you managed a move in that short a time span let alone with all else you had going on. She sounds like a CF to be honest. She didn't clean hers at all and expected everyone else to run around after her. I'd block her.

holly873 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:47:02

Tell her to jog on.

CitadelsofScience Wed 24-Apr-19 11:45:48

What a cheeky madam she is. Given what you've managed to achieve under difficult circumstances I'd be inclined to just ignore her. Clearly she has no idea how much a removal company would've cost her and getting someone in to connect her cooker.

PregnantSea Wed 24-Apr-19 11:44:39

I would completely ignore all of these texts tbh. The HA will be in touch with you directly if there is anything that you need to pay for. Unless they get in touch just forget about it

Jux Wed 24-Apr-19 11:43:45

So your partner was too busy doing stuff for her making your own move more difficult? Just tell her that, and any then just keep responding to her with "snap". Or block.

EL8888 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:37:51

I would be tempted to block her, she is irritating me and l don't even have the stress of moving like you. Why would you not tell the gas company!? Your partner helped her out big time. Why would he sort the cooker? She's very ungrateful!

Lovemusic33 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:37:50

It’s a HA swap so there is no written contract about how clean it should be left? Your exchanging not handing it back to the landlord. She’s be a CF, just ignore her messages, nothing she can do.

KaterinaPetrova Wed 24-Apr-19 11:24:02

So she never cleaned hers either? She expected your partner to move her whole house for her, expected you guys to have her cooker plumbed in AND doesn't know that an exiting tenant is supposed to notify their suppliers that they are no longer living there?

I was ready to say possibly that leaving mould was U of you but what's a bit of condensation window mould in comparison to the full bloody free move service she expected.

Send her a pic of the filthy house she left for you and tell her any cleaning service invoices will be ignored. If she carries on you could let her know the going rate for removal companies and your DP would be happy to provide her with an invoice for services rendered.

Drum2018 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:23:23

Block her number and forget about her. Don't engage with her again.

mum2three0 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:23:09

She has messaged about everything little thing so maybe it is time to block!
She messaged me the evening the swap had taken place to say could I go back round there and show her how everything works!!
She didn't exactly offer to show me how this house worked so I've just had to figure it out too! 🤦‍♀️

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom Wed 24-Apr-19 11:22:18

She's annoyed because she wanted to use your account, so any debt goes on your name!

Stop engaging!

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom Wed 24-Apr-19 11:20:36

The swap is done now, there's no reason to still be in contact!

Omzlas Wed 24-Apr-19 11:20:30

Send her the picture you posted on here. Then block. She's an arse.

[Flowers] sorry about your Nan

mum2three0 Wed 24-Apr-19 11:19:16

I was supposed to do it and I'm not trying to excuse it but making sure other family members were ok about the death of my nan took priority, then I was working nightshift and then it was moving day.
It slipped my mind
I couldn't afford the re direct of mail sad but I've been living here a week and no mail so hoping it stays like that!!
The house she is in is electric only but still not sure why I wouldn't have told the gas people?? I needed to get an account set up to put money on the top up card!!

Springwalk Wed 24-Apr-19 11:18:06

This arrangement sounds like a nightmare. I hope she doesn't continue like this about every last thing in your house. I would also evidence and store photos of the house you are staying in op. Forward them to company with some kind of message that you are not complaining, however you would like to raise this with them now, should there be any further complaints about your house and cleanliness.

Not everyone is cut out for a house swap, and she doesn't sound very well suited or very happy. Do you have a contract in place?

I would prepare for more to come, I ask her to go through the HA if there are any future problems, as that is what they are there and paid for, and in a very breezy fashion wish her the best. Block.

This is her problem not yours.

Babuchak Wed 24-Apr-19 11:16:12

send photo of bathroom, then block her number and ignore her.

She does have a point about the mould, that should have been cleaned if only for you and your family!, but she is filthy and her comment about the gas company is nuts.

ZippyBungleandGeorge Wed 24-Apr-19 11:14:19

Her bathroom looks disgusting and she got your partner to do her moving for her! Block her

bigKiteFlying Wed 24-Apr-19 11:12:38

Ideally a wipe down should of been done - but every house I've moved into has needed a clean - some more than others.

Telling the gas company you have moved is totally normal - you give last meter readings at same time - same the other end you get in touch and give meter readings when you move in. She needs to get in touch with them to set up her billing at her new address- so her text there makes no sense.

Expecting others to move your stuff - is odd though with a hosue swap I can see it was in your best interest to get her moved.

If you have a re-direct on with your post - and you should do - then you don't need to be in touch with this person - just block her.

prawnsword Wed 24-Apr-19 11:10:54

Send her that pic of the bathroom you just posted. That is gross

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