I will start by saying that my MIL is a lovely lady. Dotes on her grandkids (DS1 is 2.5 and DS2 is 5 months) and always willing to lend a helping hand (even when I don't want her to , but that's another story).
Anyhoo, I don't know why, but recently she has taken to wearing a lot more perfume than usual, like a whole lot. It's really overpowering / nauseating. The fragrance itself is fine - I don't really care about the type of scent - it's just the strength of it.
She will carry DS2 for a few minutes and he will stink of it for ages. Currently writing this as I breastfeed him with a perfume induced headache and I'm 95% certain it's making my face itch. I don't get hay fever and this itching only seems to happen after I've been around her for a bit.
I don't know what to do about this, but I really can't continue this way. It's making me feel ill. The kiddies don't/can't complain, but I wonder how it affects them too.
If we only saw her occasionally, I would probably let it go, but she comes over 2/3 tines a week minimum.
I really want to ask my husband to tell her to stop wearing it or tone it down, but i don't want to offend her (or him).
WIBU to lie and say the baby has an allergy and the doctor has advised no perfume around him? Perhaps elaborate a bit so perfume isn't singled out, but other scented things - like bath products etc, He has had a bout of dodgy skin, though that seems to be because of CMPA. But I could say that until he is tested fully, we've been advised to avoid a number of things.
Or should I just speak to her about it, as kindly as I can? I really really don't want to upset her or make her few uncomfortable. But I'm currently hiding in my bedroom to avoid her for a bit right now. I've left poor DS1 downstairs with her.
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TreaclePumpkin · 24/04/2019 10:36
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