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Jobea91 Tue 23-Apr-19 17:08:08

My parents recently paid for a surprise holiday to France for September. My DS will be 18months. My parent originally said a holiday somewhere in England so they could confirm dates but the surprise is it’s an all inclusive in Spain for me DH DS and all my siblings. I’m really excited.
DH today said he’s read things about air pressure changes being painful to babies and that it worried him so much he doesn’t want DS to go, he said he’d stay home with him for a week (which would be hell for him doing 24/7 with her alone) so I can still go, but my family and me are all really excited for DS to go, first time swimming, going to the beach, flying, different country etc.
My parents have already paid and we got him a passport especially.
DH said from what he’s read he thinks it’d be abusive to take him until hes 5 and can understand what’s happening air pressure wise etc.
Me and my sisters flew loads as babies and toddlers and I’ve always loved flying. DH is okay with it but doesn’t have same excitement as me.

I said I can’t/won’t take her if he doesn’t want me to but I disagree it’s so painful we should cancel and make my parents pay all cancellation fees etc.
I said I’ll look at other ways to get there.

AIBU for feeling annoyed he’s decided this? He said we agreed to a England holiday not Spain (he hates surprises). It’s difficult if it’s something he genuinely thinks is abusive.

ChristmasArmadillo Wed 24-Apr-19 05:57:57

My children, 5 and under (down to a baby), have been on 23 flights. Zero ear complaints. He’s being ridiculous.

JenniferJareau Wed 24-Apr-19 06:00:20

Sounds like he doesn't want to go on that particular holiday and this is his best excuse. Try and convince you that you'd be hurting your own child so you give in.

SnowsInWater Wed 24-Apr-19 06:22:08

I'm sorry but he's nuts. I have flown with my kids from two weeks old, they just need something to suck on if they need it on take off and landing. He's trying to get out of it with a shitty excuse.

Mother87 Wed 24-Apr-19 06:33:10

He's hugely over-reacting/irrational about this... another here who flew long-haul with babies many times - with NO adverse effects (apart from slowing the cabin crew down when they kept stopping to say hi to said baby/iesgrin)

ethelfleda Wed 24-Apr-19 07:13:35

My 18 month old has been on a plane loads. First time when he was 6 months. He was absolutely fine. Your DH is being stupid.

Bobcut Wed 24-Apr-19 07:17:58

Have I read this right? My kids flew at 6m/8m/14m/16m/20m between them and your baby is 18m?
And it’s only to Spain? We have done 13hours direct with 8m/2years.

Don’t let a silly uneducated false opinion of your husband ruin a lovelyholiday and gesture off your parents!!

CherryPavlova Wed 24-Apr-19 07:21:36

Just get the child to swallow by sucking on something to reduce change of air pressure effect on ears. Breastfeeding, if you do, is good. Sucking on a straw is good.
He’s bonkers.

witherwings Wed 24-Apr-19 07:31:37

We flew to Australia when my dd was 16 months. She was fine and not bothered by take off and landing at all. As pp have said, take a bottle / dummy / lolly to suck on and they will be fine.

Slicedpineapple Wed 24-Apr-19 07:33:10

This is ridiculous. As a child I flew very regularly from 18 months old. My first holiday was 10 hours long haul.
Assholes used lots of words about me (still do!) to describe the fact we holidayed regularly, but never once did anyone say it was 'abusive'.

The pressure change can hurt your ears when landing but it can hurt adults too. Give your LO something to suck like a dummy. They will be fine. I can guarantee the fun they will have on holiday and memories you will make will hugely outweigh the 20 mins of possible uncomfortability during landing.

Starlight2004 Wed 24-Apr-19 08:04:52

We took our Ds1 to Tenerife at 8mths with no problems and ds2 to Majorca at just 8 weeks and he slept the whole flight. Holidays with little ones are fantastic family experiences and it would be such a shame for you all to miss out on that! It's perfectly safe.

LindsayDentonsWineBottle Wed 24-Apr-19 08:11:47

I’ve been taking my DS on flights since he was 6 months old, at 18 months we flew to LA, he was absolutely fine, (albeit a bit tetchy with tiredness). Your DH is being a bit ridiculous.

Don’t cancel the holiday, it isn’t fair.

Aldilogue Wed 24-Apr-19 08:17:11

My 3 have all flown from Oz to UK numerous times with no issues. He’s being weird.

notangelinajolie Wed 24-Apr-19 08:27:30

I think his reasoning is a red herring. He doesn't like the fact someone else is paying and dictating to him where and when he can go on holiday. He has hatched a plan to stop this holiday by trying to guilt trip you into not going because a) he believes you won't leave him to look after the baby on his own. b) taking a baby on a plane would make you a bad mother.

He sounds like an arse.

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