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To be shocked by this interaction in Morrison’s ?

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BurrSir Tue 23-Apr-19 16:45:24

I was doing my weekly shop at the supermarket today when the lady at the checkout started talking to DD (aged 2). DD is a chatty little thing so all was fine.
The lady asked DD’s name to which DD replied with her name. The lady then said to me oh I prefer and then said a different name that starts with the same sound. I thought this was odd but never mind!
After that she started asking DD questions like are you a good girl? is mummy a good girl? And then just as I was paying she said to DD “Does Mummy like to have a drink?”
I hadn’t even bought any wine? AIBU in thinking this was a strange thing to say?

AtrociousCircumstance Tue 23-Apr-19 16:46:07

She sounds a bit odd. Very strange.

Samind Tue 23-Apr-19 16:47:35

Maybe she'd had a little tipple 😂

Deadpoet Tue 23-Apr-19 16:48:09

Sounds very very odd. Even if you had a couple of bottles in the trolley there’s no need to ask a child that.

coolestmum Tue 23-Apr-19 16:48:49

Sounds a bit odd. She wasn't thinking of asking you out on a date was she? wink grin

OnlyPostInEmergencies Tue 23-Apr-19 16:49:05

Completely inappropriate. I’d be tempted to report to store manager

EssentialHummus Tue 23-Apr-19 16:49:05

How weird! My only explanation is that your Morrison’s, like my Sainsbury’s, employs people with LDs/MH issues. And sometimes their client interactions aren’t appropriate.

ArgyMargy Tue 23-Apr-19 16:49:05

This is why I use self service checkouts.

HoraceCope Tue 23-Apr-19 16:50:21

sounds like learning difficulties, agree,
no harm done though.

RockinHippy Tue 23-Apr-19 16:55:23

<"How weird! My only explanation is that your Morrison’s, like my Sainsbury’s, employs people with LDs/MH issues. And sometimes their client interactions aren’t appropriate.">

This 🔼

Our Morrison's does this too & we also had an incident in the past where my DD was much more upset by a total stranger suddenly scooping her up to cuddle & apologise to her, after knocking her over with a trolley, than she was she was by being hurt by the trolley.

The lady did have SN & meant no harm, but still inappropriate

ShakeYourTailFeathers Tue 23-Apr-19 16:56:47

Were you wearing your I LOVE WINE t-shirt grin ?

Bibijayne Tue 23-Apr-19 16:57:41

That would make me incredibly uncomfortable. And I would likely have a word with her manager. I'd be perhaps gentle if I suspected SEN, more constructive criticism than a complaint, but it is worth raising.

WeCameToDance Tue 23-Apr-19 16:59:12

It's not exactly the conversation you expect while paying for your shopping and it would make me slightly uncomfortable but I wouldn't report it.
I would wonder whether there were any disabilities at play. My local Sainsbury's hires people with disabilities and I wouldn't want to complain just incase it discourages them from hiring disabled people in the future.

Bibijayne Tue 23-Apr-19 16:59:23

FWIW I have ASD and have had MH issues in the last, I'd have really appreciated a quiet word if I was being very weird/ made someone uncomfortable. It would allow me to alter.my behaviour and be a.bit more aware.

BelulahBlanca Tue 23-Apr-19 17:00:55

You didn’t have win? Did you have gin grin

BelulahBlanca Tue 23-Apr-19 17:01:55

Wine not win!

BurrSir Tue 23-Apr-19 17:07:11

No Belulah. No wine or gin or even win. I wouldn’t have suspected SEN from previous times I’ve been through her till but she may be apt at masking.

BusterGonad Tue 23-Apr-19 17:08:22

I wouldn't report it, it seems like she's lucky to have a job and if she loses it she'd be hard pushed to find another. It was odd but not worth risking her job over. I feel a bit sad for her tbh.

cushioncovers Tue 23-Apr-19 17:10:30

How old was the lady? My 88 grandmother comes out with some right corkers these days especially in supermarkets and the gp surgery grin

Acis Tue 23-Apr-19 17:10:46

I wouldn’t find this shocking. She’s probably been told she has to interact with customers and struggles to know what to say.

cushioncovers Tue 23-Apr-19 17:12:42

Oh just realised it was the person on the checkout. That is a bit odd.

BlueMerchant Tue 23-Apr-19 17:12:53

Wierd things to say. Rude too.
Maybe she is socially awkward and is sitting now cringing at what she's just said!
Strange job for someone if they are socially inept though!

AryaStarkWolf Tue 23-Apr-19 17:13:05

I mean she surely has SEN, I'd be very surprised otherwise.

notatwork Tue 23-Apr-19 17:16:01

YABU.
Clearly she's been told to interact with the customers and if you will dress your toddler in a 'My Mummy's a dipsomaniac' t-shirt what can you expect? grin

GreyGardens88 Tue 23-Apr-19 17:16:42

It's being rather over sensitive to obsess or even complain about this no?

AWishForWingsThatWork Tue 23-Apr-19 17:21:41

I think I would have asked her very firmly, "Have YOU been drinking?" Because that is not an appropriate question to be asking your 2 year old. Very off.

WillGymForPizza Tue 23-Apr-19 17:26:46

Staff in Morrisons are told that they have to interact with customers.

Honestly why anyone would complain about this baffling? What they said was a bit socially inept, but hardly a crime.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Tue 23-Apr-19 17:28:55

Sounds like she wanted to be a social worker and ended up on the till at Morrison's, in stead. I mean Not that There's anything wrong with shop work, mind

PregnantSea Tue 23-Apr-19 17:31:29

Sometimes people are weird and/or socially awkward and just don't know what to say. She probably thought she was being funny

RedBerryTea Tue 23-Apr-19 17:32:54

I would also suspect SEN. There's a young man who works in our local Tesco with SEN who loves to chat and sometimes makes inappropriate remarks. His is always the shortest queue, so we often go to his till. One time I bought wine, he said "I don't drink I don't", so I said "Good for you, I wish I'd never started" (laughing) and he said very seriously "Perhaps you should stop". My teenage daughter who was with me at the time thought it was brilliant.

lottiegarbanzo Tue 23-Apr-19 17:41:16

I think you should have responded to her calmly but firmly at the time. These things do take you by suprise but reporting her would be an overraction - and as much about rectifying your own failing as hers.

sheepsheep Tue 23-Apr-19 17:45:34

Sometimes people have a brain fart and say ridiculous things. Not necessarily due to a disability or anything else. Just a momentary lapse of judgement where the mouth engaged and the brain didn't.

Yes it was odd but does it really matter in the grand scheme of things?

TigersRoll Tue 23-Apr-19 17:46:33

Don’t report her. I say some really fucking weird and inapropriate things due to my autism. I don’t mean to offend people. Maybe you should have just said something like “be careful, some might say you were implying something there!” In a cheery tone. That would get the message across to me without making me feel like I’d really made a rate of myself (again)

TigersRoll Tue 23-Apr-19 17:47:07

Made a “twat” of myself

SchadenfreudePersonified Tue 23-Apr-19 18:03:02

She sounds pissed.

M4J4 Tue 23-Apr-19 18:13:10

@TigersRoll

Don’t report her. I say some really fucking weird and inapropriate things due to my autism. I don’t mean to offend people. Maybe you should have just said something like “be careful, some might say you were implying something there!” In a cheery tone. That would get the message across to me without making me feel like I’d really made a rate of myself (again)

Why is it OP's responsibility not to make the assistant feel like she's made a twat of herself? OP did nothing wrong.

Why the fuck does OP have to be cheery to someone who just asked her daughter if her mum likes a drink? Would you suggest this to a man?

OP, do report her. She could really upset the next person she targets.

BumpIntheNite Tue 23-Apr-19 18:13:44

is mummy a good girl?

confused

Lemoneeza Tue 23-Apr-19 18:18:47

All I ever do in Morrisons is have weird interactions with other customers and the staff so I wouldn't bat an eyelid at this. Complain, really?

steff13 Tue 23-Apr-19 18:21:31

My favorite local grocery store employs several people with special needs. It's great, but there is one guy who hugs me every time I'm in there. It makes me terribly uncomfortable.

Torvi Tue 23-Apr-19 18:22:32

I bought some cheap pregnancy tests in B&M's a while ago. The woman on the till asked me in a jovial tone which outcome I was hoping for hmm. It was a very sensitive subject for me at the time and I felt it was highly inappropriate of her to comment at all.

SemperIdem Tue 23-Apr-19 18:24:43

That is the sort of interaction that would leave me baffled. But no, I wouldn’t complain.

Babuchak Tue 23-Apr-19 18:27:30

I would have wondered if she was foreign and didn't articulate her conversation properly.

MrsSiriusBlack1 Tue 23-Apr-19 18:34:21

I work for morrisons and I’ve never been told I need to interact with the customers, most of them are grumpy old shites anyway grin

BusterGonad Wed 24-Apr-19 11:19:49

MrsS 😂

IvanaPee Wed 24-Apr-19 11:23:28

Bit weird but not a major incident, surely? I just wouldn’t go to her till again.

StealthPolarBear Wed 24-Apr-19 11:27:12

"ShakeYourTailFeathers

Were you wearing your I LOVE WINE t-shirt grin ?"

Lol that would be a drip feed

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