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To think this is desperately sad?

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IronicSeraphim Tue 23-Apr-19 16:31:01

I live on a block of six semi's, all with big gardens.

All but two of them have young children in. One, has five (aged 4ish to 16ish).

Two of those houses of children (including the one with five kids) never play in the garden. Never.

I've been a SAHP for three years and I've NEVER seen these kids in the garden. I know they're still there as o see them coming and going and on the school run.

I know it's nothing to do with me, but I can't help wondering why you'd do this?

crispysausagerolls Tue 23-Apr-19 16:33:56

I’m sure you’ll get told it’s none of your business, but I think yanbu and that is very sad

pessimisticstateofperception Tue 23-Apr-19 16:37:58

My kids never play in my garden either.

We go out, they go to the park, to their friends houses, to clubs etc, but my garden is never played in. Not desperately sad at all, there are just bigger and better places to play in.

JordanCatalano4Eva Tue 23-Apr-19 16:38:03

I don’t really see why it’s sad,I’ve got six kids they never play in the garden they go to the park instead.unless you’re saying the kids never leave the house which would be sad.

nancy75 Tue 23-Apr-19 16:38:09

Dd rarely played in our garden, when we have free time we are usually out at parks, theme parks, swimming baths or doing stuff with friends & their children

IronicSeraphim Tue 23-Apr-19 16:39:08

But why wouldn't you though? Seems a bit strange that's all.

Genuinely curious. Don't your children ask to go outside?

JordanCatalano4Eva Tue 23-Apr-19 16:40:27

They don’t need to ask the back doors open all the time,they just choose to not go out the garden.

Dressless Tue 23-Apr-19 16:40:27

They might not be at home much? Or they may be playing when you aren’t looking. Or it may just be because it’s been really cold this year. Or because British gardens are too small to be interesting.

Traveler001 Tue 23-Apr-19 16:41:54

Maybe they don’t play out cos the neighbour lady is always staring in their garden 🤣

pessimisticstateofperception Tue 23-Apr-19 16:42:18

My kids are out all the time. Just not in my garden. I don't see why it's strange at all.

LeukaeLucky Tue 23-Apr-19 16:44:16

My children never use the garden either. It's quite shabby to be honest and they say there are spiders everywhere.
They happily play at the park which is only 5min away hmm

IronicSeraphim Tue 23-Apr-19 16:45:05

What's the point in having a house with a garden if you never use it then?

Being outside is nice- and the kids can charge about and the mess matters less for a start.

Oh well, clearly I'm odd thinking this!

haba Tue 23-Apr-19 16:45:13

My children have severe hayfever, and can't play out most of the year. I can't dry their clothes or bedding outside (or their father's clothes and bedding/towels etc either).
Thankfully they're good at entertaining themselves indoors with Lego, reading, board games, computing etc.

pessimisticstateofperception Tue 23-Apr-19 16:49:11

Being outside is nice.

The garden is not the only outside space in the world fortunately.

My kids charge about in the, much bigger, space of the park, at their clubs, and in nearby playing fields etc.

I'm quite sad for your kids only having a garden area to play in, don't you take them to the park confused

nancy75 Tue 23-Apr-19 16:52:55

What’s the point in having a garden? We keep the bbq put there!
We rarely use our garden & id be happy with just a little patio but it came with the house and we’re stuck with it

Easterbunnyhashoppedoff Tue 23-Apr-19 16:53:53

A woman I knew never allowed her dc into the garden unsupervised (4+7), and she was always too busy to go out. Whenever she did they had to be wearing shoes and she was a complete helicopter dm. Drove me nuts.
My dc would love a decent garden.
Yanbu to feel sad op.

IronicSeraphim Tue 23-Apr-19 16:54:35

Of course we go to the park. You can't send a three year old to the park while you do the washing up though...

StCharlotte Tue 23-Apr-19 16:55:01

I'm with you OP. We rented our house out for a few years and our second tenant clearly didn't use the garden (as confirmed by a neighbour). I genuinely don't understand why as, whilst not massive, it was a perfect garden for kids. When we served notice (because we were moving back after working away), she then moaned that she couldn't afford anywhere else with a garden. Nowt so queer as folk...

Inebriatededna Tue 23-Apr-19 16:56:33

There’s been threads about neighbours complaining about children making noise in the garden.

outpinked Tue 23-Apr-19 16:57:10

So you’re home all of the time watching this family therefore know the children never leave the house aside from school? I think you’re the sad one if that’s the case.

coolestmum Tue 23-Apr-19 16:57:24

How do you now they are never in the garden? Perhaps they are just well behaved and don't scream and shout in it. Mine are often in the garden but are actually very quiet kids, so maybe my neighbours think mine never go out!

Nameusernameuser Tue 23-Apr-19 16:57:26

When I was younger our friend had an enormous house with 3 beautiful gardens backing onto one another and a swimming pool. We hopped over the fence to play in the field next door grin they probably play else where!

Insertinspirationalquotehere Tue 23-Apr-19 16:59:36

Yanbu OP. You think it's weird, I think it's weird, but some people are just not outdoorsy and are almost scared of the great wilderness as represented by their suburban garden. A school mum has a beautiful old walled garden,and her four kids are never in it because she feels she has to supervise, and there's a step she's worried about them tripping over. Youngest is 7. It would never occur to her to go and sit in the garden with a coffee. I think she's mad, I would go demented if I couldn't chuck my children into the garden for half an hour. We have two parks within five minutes walk, they do scads of activities and we hike or visit country parks every weekend, but I still need my garden. Each to their own though.

Picklypickles Tue 23-Apr-19 17:02:58

My kids don't play in our garden, we've had a rat problem so I don't want them out there. We live on the moors anyway, better than any garden!!

crispysausagerolls Tue 23-Apr-19 17:03:15

I think garden play is different than the park etc though. DS is nearly 10 months and we were at the park today but it’s much less stressful to have him playing in the garden, which he did this afternoon. His toys and slide are here; it’s peaceful; if he kicks off we can go in etc. Just much more relaxed.

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