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To expect inlaws to respect my privacy a bit more

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Honeybee85 Tue 23-Apr-19 06:50:44

I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and DH and I live in a house that officially still belongs to his parents. Since neither DH or I is a fan of gardening, my MIL and FIL regulary stop by (sometimes a few times per week depending on the weather) to work on the garden. Usually they announce their visits as I am home all day currently due to my pregnancy so I know they walk around the house and might see me trough the windows. Today it was particulary hot here, I wasnt feeling well and taking a nap in my knickers and a tshirt on the couch. Suddenly I can hear my inlaws talking because they decided to show up unannounced. I went upstairs to continue my nap but felt highly uncomfortable as they could have seen me.

I texted DH to ask him if they had notified him about their visit but this wasnt the case. He wants to complain about it later to them but I am not sure if thats a good idea because I dont want to be cheeky. Its their home after all and we dont have to pay any rent. Still I feel I should be able to dress and act inside the home as I like without being afraid to be seen.


Flaverings Tue 23-Apr-19 17:24:27

YANBU to want a bit of privacy. However, them popping round seems to be part of the deal of getting your greatest cost paid for you. So you've made your choice and YABU to complain about it.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Tue 23-Apr-19 18:51:50

You just can't get the staff these days.

Yabbers Tue 23-Apr-19 18:54:00

I would strongly advice to have a good look at their own financial situation.

<takes a look> yep. There’s the mortgage payment I pay for my own home. <looks again> yep, and the savings I have.

Was there something in particular you think I need to be looking at?

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Tue 23-Apr-19 19:15:27

Yabbers are you sure you checked the small print? <squints, wipes glasses and squints some more> Is your offical mortgage payment for the home you officially or unofficially own? In an officially unoffical way?

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