Advanced search

Oh what fresh hell! Family Easter

(42 Posts)
Unhappyaunt Sun 21-Apr-19 17:11:36

Away visiting family. On day 3 now. They're so noisy!

My nieces in particular, screeching obnoxious, chucking things. Blowing party whistle things.

I'm lying low encouraging nice reading.

I have three dc of my own but they're much quieter and basically grown up.

Anybody else?

NancyJoan Sun 21-Apr-19 17:13:30

No, I'm no fool. Have been in the garden reading the papers almost all weekend. Can you go home soon?

TwistedBiscuit Sun 21-Apr-19 17:14:50

Everyone lovely here except for my bratty 11yo nephew. Thinks he’s soooo grown up hmm He’s rude as fuck.

Singlenotsingle Sun 21-Apr-19 17:16:20

You've learnt your lesson. Go away next time. We're on a 3 day citibreak and it's AMAZING! And so peaceful!

Unhappyaunt Sun 21-Apr-19 17:17:03

Home tomorrow. I can't wait. Yes we have a thinks they're grown up here. Dreadful.

Unhappyaunt Sun 21-Apr-19 17:20:30

Oh and they keep grabbing food. All the time.

Mini break sounds blissful but there were specific family reasons for being here which is nice. I could just do with less child whining

Drum2018 Sun 21-Apr-19 17:20:40

Reckon I'd have made my excuses and left early. Easier to leave someone's house than ask someone to leave yours, so you're in a better position. While some might say life is too short to fuss over such an issue, I'm of the opinion that life is too short to put up with it.

KateyKube Sun 21-Apr-19 17:26:27

We’ve made excuses not to see family this year. Mostly because our nephew is a vicious little shit who attacks our baby and snatches all his toys away. At Christmas he gave DS 1yo a nosebleed and knocked out one of the puppy’s teeth. I’m already wondering how to get out of Christmas if anyone has any ideas!

TwistedBiscuit Sun 21-Apr-19 17:28:29

I feel for you OP! My (lovely) in-laws are at their wits’ end with bratty nephew. His parents don’t really discipline him and they don’t want to overstep the mark as grandparents. They’re much nicer than me. Nephew tried to take my mini eggs <pettiness alert> to add to his already considerable stash and when I said oi, they’re mine he threw them down and walked off hmm

My kids are naturally timid so I have an easier job of it but I swear, if I caught one of mine acting like that..... the parents just shrug when he’s rude to them.

Last Christmas he caused a scene because he was too old to be sitting at the children’s table, according to him. He was ten grin

EL8888 Sun 21-Apr-19 17:31:37

No. I’ve stopped my days of going round the UK making all the effort visiting family. Relaxing at home. Partner is at work so lm relaxing with the cats

MrBrown Sun 21-Apr-19 17:35:33

Oh god yes! Spent the last few days with a bratty little 4.5 year old with no manners what so ever, is so rude and backchats back to his parents who do not discipline him at all. He said something truly awful yesterday whilst we were out in public and although his dad 'told him off' he had no real consequence for his actions and he will do it again, whereas if that was my DS we would have gone home there and then. My 2 year old genuinely has more manners and is better behaved than him. DP has kind of stopped biting his tongue and makes (somewhat passive aggressive) comments to them now but they take no notice whatsoever. Makes me not want to spend time with them, but I do genuinely love the parents. Soooo infuriating!

SabineUndine Sun 21-Apr-19 17:37:17

Spend the day at home doing housework. I don't go away at bank holidays, it's not worth the hassle. Am just about to go and sit in the garden with a beer.

Strumpetpumpet Sun 21-Apr-19 17:39:49

Our family can’t be bothered to visit us - 45 min drive - they obvs think it’s downhill from here because we are often expected to drop everything and dash over there at their every whim. We invited them over for Sunday lunch today, they lied and said they had plans so MIL came on her own (and inadvertently grassed them up 😂) - she has now dashed back to see them (& has prob arranged to spend the rest of the day with them) so we are blissfully alone again and enjoying every minute. Happy Easter all 🥂

LuckyAmy1986 Sun 21-Apr-19 17:42:12

@KateyKube that’s awful! Surely you don’t need more reason than that?

MitziTheTabbyIsMyOverlord Sun 21-Apr-19 17:47:36

Spend the day at home doing housework

<shudders> On a bank holiday, SabineUndine? What fresh hell is this?

Unhappyaunt Sun 21-Apr-19 17:49:03

No cats here alas. Just persecuted hound removed for own safety some hours ago to a distant bedroom.

ControversialFerret Sun 21-Apr-19 18:00:22

Nope, but I am an anti-social fucker at the best of times.

Spent the whole day in the garden with the dogs, weeding and preparing a new rockery. Very tired and achy and have about 1 million splinters in my hands, but feeling like I have earned the glass of wine I'm about to have.

ohtheholidays Sun 21-Apr-19 18:11:40

Were lucky were spending Easter at home just the 7 of us and it's been lovely.

We only came back from our holiday in Cornwall last night but we've still managed to make a 3 course easter meal for us all this afternoon,including a triple layer Easter cake I'd made and we've had our Easter Egg hunt,so I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself right now.

ScottChegg Sun 21-Apr-19 18:15:39

I have spent the day so far washing walls, mopping floors, scrubbing skirting boards, wiping paintwork, cleaning toilets and washing up. I think it says something that I prefer this to the idea of a family Easter! Soon I'm going to cook some dinner and then relax with a glass of something nice.

adaline Sun 21-Apr-19 18:19:47

I've been at work all day sad

Spinnaret Sun 21-Apr-19 18:19:52

It's my MIL that is doing my head in, not the kids. She has to fill every silence with inane chatter. I move room for peace, and she follows me. She keeps saying she'll stop talking and then starts again. All harmless, but infuriating.

Cherrysoup Sun 21-Apr-19 18:40:03

I’ve had a blissful two weeks off, no family visits, I didn’t go and see them, just got sent a pass-agg set of party pics on WhatsApp. I dunno if I was meant to be jealous or something? I was just heartily relieved to have avoided it all.

Girlicorne Sun 21-Apr-19 19:05:32

We have had an awesome Easter weekend in a caravan at a theme park just the 4 of us. Kids have got on well, amazing rides, park not overcrowded and the weather has been beautiful. I definitely recommend coming away for Easter as we do every year as it makes it so easy to say 'sorry we're away' when invited to anything else!!

GaryWilmottsTeeth Sun 21-Apr-19 19:06:47

My In-laws are all lovely but I’ve had to spend the afternoon round there pretending I’m not having a miscarriage. It’s been pretty grim.

Sorry to derail the thread with my self-pity. I’m just feeling the need to sulk.

RosamundDarnley Sun 21-Apr-19 19:15:27

@GaryWilmottsTeeth So sorry. flowers

Lollypop701 Sun 21-Apr-19 19:22:03

It’s an utterly awful time, and my sincere hand hold. Whatever the reason, you did it and are amazing. I’m so very sorry for your loss

Ceebs85 Sun 21-Apr-19 19:31:35


Desperate to know what was said!

livefornaps Sun 21-Apr-19 19:37:05

Omg life is too short for cleaning

Unhappyaunt Sun 21-Apr-19 19:37:43

Gary that's awful. Very sorry to hear that.

Mil snapped at ds3 over dinner. I fear my face may have betrayed my rage that whilst the other grandchildren are ceaselessly indulged, ds3 is not afforded any latitude. He hasn't even done anything, mil just misheard him!

Have spent last twenty minutes sneaking out to the car with stuff so we can leave at 8 tomorrow. Bank holiday traffic dontcha know wink

ahtellthee Sun 21-Apr-19 19:38:33

We are camping with some friends but not pitched together. They have rocked up EVERY SINGLE MORNING with their brat before 8:30 because their DC wants to play with my DC (who couldn't care less).

Despite me and DH insisting we are not morning people (holidays are the only time we are not ruled by alarms and I want to enjoy slobbing in my pjs for a bit), and we can meet them around 10 at parks etc.

Day 3 and they still haven't taken the hint.

greenpop21 Sun 21-Apr-19 19:41:01

This is the quietest Easter ever and I am loving it. Nice dog walks, teens busy revising and appearing every 2 hours which keeps things civil. DH and I are enjoying the weather and wine and preparing food for our little family not the usual hoards. Bliss.

WinterSunglasses Sun 21-Apr-19 19:46:30

On my own with box sets and comfort food and it's bliss! Sorry for all those suffering in unpleasant family set ups, and flowers to you Gary.

GaryWilmottsTeeth Sun 21-Apr-19 19:57:50

Thanks everyone, much appreciated.

PILs are lovely and know that I was pregnant, but they’ve got a house full of other guests staying for the long weekend. They will be upset when they hear what’s happened and I didn’t want them to have to put on a brave face while they are entertaining. We will tell them on Tuesday when everyone is gone.

Unhappyaunt Sun 21-Apr-19 19:59:31

You're a very thoughtful dil. Do you feel ok physically though? Don't delay getting medical help if you need it because you don't want to upset them.

Itsnotme123 Sun 21-Apr-19 20:00:35

I used to hate the MIL get togethers at Easter. Always some sort f contest going on. My ex not matching up to BILs successes or my parenting not matching up to SILs .. MIL gushing over babies, also making me feel like an inept being as I didn’t bake ( I didn’t have time as ex was useless at everything)

So glad I have nothing to do with any of them now.

YouSayPotatoesISayVodka Sun 21-Apr-19 20:04:32

I’ve had family visiting me. Luckily they’re going home tomorrow because if my niece (9) whines that she’s bored/everything is boring for another entire fucking day I’m going to lose my shit.

I have 2 of my own kids and they do complain of boredom at times but this is another level. And niece manages to cram about 4 syllables into the word bored angry and it’s every 5 minutes or less. Kill me now.

GaryWilmottsTeeth Sun 21-Apr-19 20:17:43

Thanks OP, I’m doing ok physically. And I’ve got lovely DH waiting on me hand and foot now we are home, plus 2 small dc to distract me. I can’t imagine how much worse this would feel without them. I’ve got a lot to be grateful for.

LakieLady Sun 21-Apr-19 20:30:55

We've just come back from 3 nights away in our motorhome.

This most conveniently meant that we could not go to MIL's family do, where we would have had to endure SILS's appallingly behaved kids. The oldest is ok, the middle one pretty bloody awful, but the youngest is utterly intolerable: constantly shrieking, screaming and generally running amok, and the parents do fuck all about it.

Most annoyingly, she won't leave the dog alone. The poor animal gets under the furniture and wriggles into the furthest corner to get away from her, but the child just wriggles into the corner after here. Despite asking the parents repeatedly to stop her doing it, they can't be arsed.

MIL bloody loves the dog and makes us feel guilty if we don't take her, but if we know that that SIL will be there, we leave DDog at home. Sometimes we get told that they won't be there, only to have them turn up anyway.

They're so bloody noisy that I get a blinding headache within the hour, it's hellish.

PookieDo Sun 21-Apr-19 20:37:23

flowers Gary hope you are ok

I too have chosen to spend all weekend cleaning and decorating rather than any extended family time. I can’t put it off anymore I have to go to DM’s for some god awful dinner tomorrow (she can’t cook, dread to think what it will be - probably sausage rolls and crisps) but she’s lonely and will want to talk at me for a few hours

Have had no lie ins as I put my blinds up the wrong way which lets too much light in and then the street seems to come alive at 9am every day with fucking strimmers

Itsnotme123 Sun 21-Apr-19 20:37:32

I wouldn’t put up with shit scream at them and walk out. Get a taxi home if necessary.

TowerRingInferno Sun 21-Apr-19 21:35:52

We’re having the weekend from hell with my mother-in-law and her obese smelly dogs that snore loudly.

I have been fully appraised of all my many faults and failings as a wife/mother/daughter-in-law.

ahtellthee Mon 22-Apr-19 12:00:58

@GaryWilmottsTeeth thanksthanks

Join the discussion

Registering is free, quick, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Get started »