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MIL giving alcohol to my one year old

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deesolovely Sun 21-Apr-19 15:46:30

okay, it was a few sips but to me it is unacceptable. I kept my mouth shut and my DH eventually said I don't think its a good idea but it took him long enough and was only when I gave a few evils that it stopped. AIBU to feel really pissed off/disgusted by this or would you think its harmless.

I'm not happy with it and will be telling DH to have a word to say it is never to happen again or I will be having words and they will not be as pleasant. Am I over reacting?

kaldefotter Sun 21-Apr-19 15:47:38

You’re not overreacting, but why on earth did you keep your mouth shut? This is your child.

FilthyforFirth Sun 21-Apr-19 15:48:27


Isth Sun 21-Apr-19 15:48:29

Wtf? Why did you just sit there and let it happen?!

JoinTheDots Sun 21-Apr-19 15:49:43

I would not have kept my mouth shut!!! Alcohol is basically poison. A few sips or not, its not funny, its not acceptable, and its bloody stupid.

YANBU in the slightest.

RosamundDarnley Sun 21-Apr-19 15:50:02

Really? hmm

LadyMonicaBaddingham Sun 21-Apr-19 15:51:25

No, you are NOT overreacting. It is completely unacceptable, not to mention ILLEGAL, to give alcohol to a one-year-old child. If your DH doesn't have very strong words with his mother, I would be reminding him and her that you would be well within your rights to report them to the police.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit Sun 21-Apr-19 15:51:25

Behave your bloody selfhmm

deesolovely Sun 21-Apr-19 15:51:32

TBH i think i was so schocked and was waiting for my husband to say something, not realising it would three sips for it to happen. Hold my hands up, I should have stopped it immediately. I think I'm a bit slow to criticise as I've had my issues in the past and I think because of this I can be overly critical and I'm trying to ease off as generally she is a lovely woman.

PregnantSea Sun 21-Apr-19 15:54:05

Wtf? No... Obviously YANBU...

Lizzie48 Sun 21-Apr-19 15:56:59

I’m really shocked that anyone would think of giving alcohol to a one year old. You really should have stopped it straightaway but I get that you were in shock.

My DM gave me a little wine at age 6, mixing it with ribena to help me sleep when I had chicken pox badly. I think attitudes were different then (1970s), but I think to give a one year old alcohol is child abuse.

Flyinga Sun 21-Apr-19 16:01:43

I can't think of any situation where I would give alcohol to a 1 year old.

Mari50 Sun 21-Apr-19 16:03:29

Yeah, that’s actually illegal. Not just unreasonable

Threefaries Sun 21-Apr-19 16:04:36

Was it mixed with coke?

Kennehora Sun 21-Apr-19 16:05:18

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Firsttimemama2017 Sun 21-Apr-19 16:07:45

It's crazy that people do this! One of my friends once gave another friends toddler sips of her prosecco and thought it was hilarious. My jaw was on the floor especially as his mother didn't ask her to stop! Probably the same as you though and didn't want to be seen to be over reacting!

Xyzzzzz Sun 21-Apr-19 16:11:28

What? Seriously?

thefinn Sun 21-Apr-19 16:12:40

Why did she do it? Is this serious?

spanishwife Sun 21-Apr-19 16:13:43

Was it meat vodka or a bit of froth off a lager? Quite different

DishingOutDone Sun 21-Apr-19 16:13:52

And to think someone is on here with a thread complaining about giving a 3 year old cola. Sorry OP I think there's a parenting fail here, you both should have stood up shouted NO!!! and took your child back.

spanishwife Sun 21-Apr-19 16:13:54


Mummyoflittledragon Sun 21-Apr-19 16:14:02

It’s illegal to give children younger than 5 alcohol. Don’t keep your mouth shut next time. This is very dangerous. How long ago? Monitor your child.

MissPollyHadADolly19 Sun 21-Apr-19 16:15:02

No words but wtf shock

SchadenfreudePersonified Sun 21-Apr-19 16:15:45

What on earth is she thinking of?!

Poisoning (because alcohol IS a poison) a baby!

Sorry OP, but you should have made your feeling known and told her that there is NO WAY she is ever looking after your child when you aren't there.

Stupid woman! angry angry angry

VampirateQueen Sun 21-Apr-19 16:16:25

I don't think YABU, I remember my cousin giving my DD a sip of red wine when she was 6 months old, I was fuming, my DM made out I was overreacting, it still pisses me off now.

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