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Or was my date really rude?

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gillteed Sun 21-Apr-19 09:28:55

Went on a date yesterday.
We met in a village half way between us.
It was a hour train for me and 45 mins for him.
My train home was 5pm and his was 5.05 pm.
I checked my app and seen my 5pm train was cancelled (if anyone is in north you will know northern still use the horrible 2 carriage pacer trains ) anyway the 4pm train was running 7 mins late so we rushed down for that.
I missed it by 2 mins.
His train came in at about ten past 4 and he jumped on and said bye leaving me alone till 6pm for the next train.
This is a train station without a coffee shop,any train staff,no vending machine and no toilets.
20 mins walk back into the village and I didn't really know the way.
Aibu to think he could have stayed as he wasn't going anywhere just home.
So I sat till 6 pm and I got home for 7.30 pm and he was home and 5pm !

QOD Sun 21-Apr-19 09:30:40

I’d say no to a second date, it’s a bit off, maybe not rude as such but surely he could have chatted ? And maybe even just stayed until his next train?

CryptoFascist Sun 21-Apr-19 09:31:40

Sounds like he wasn't interested in you.
If he was, and the date had gone well, he'd have waited until at least his planned 5:05 train. Delete and move on.

19lottie82 Sun 21-Apr-19 09:31:48

Yeah that’s a bit crap! I wouldn’t be impressed if someone left me sitting myself for 2 hours. Unless he had to be somewhere urgently, but you said he didn’t.

Have you heard from him since? Based on his actions I would have to assume he wasn’t interested in a second date, or severely lacking any sort of social skills!

Chloemol Sun 21-Apr-19 09:32:26

Just don’t see him again. Yes shown you what he is like

Wheresmyvagina Sun 21-Apr-19 09:32:29

He should have offered to stay and walk back to the village with you.

gillteed Sun 21-Apr-19 09:32:49

This was actually our 4th date confused

HollyBollyBooBoo Sun 21-Apr-19 09:34:02

That's pretty mean. Think it shows his true colours!

Dieu Sun 21-Apr-19 09:34:48

I wouldn't see him again.

Armadillostoes Sun 21-Apr-19 09:35:10

Don't go for number 5!

19lottie82 Sun 21-Apr-19 09:35:13

Has he been in touch since?

gillteed Sun 21-Apr-19 09:35:23

Also when I got there (5 mins after ) thinking he was meeting at station he text saying he had walked to the pub up the road and he would meet me inside.
Couldn't even be bothered to wait 5 mins

gillteed Sun 21-Apr-19 09:35:49

He text saying he was home and asked if I was still at the station

Ihatehashtags Sun 21-Apr-19 09:36:00

Wouldn’t be seeing him again. That’s terrible form.

GertrudeCB Sun 21-Apr-19 09:36:48

Not a keeper. Nice to realise it early on.

Jupiters Sun 21-Apr-19 09:36:50

If it was me then that date would likely be our last. It's the lack of thought in the early stages of a relationship than would upset me.

crispysausagerolls Sun 21-Apr-19 09:37:44

But presumably the date was not enjoyable for you either? Otherwise I would have wanted to take a later train, not an earlier one!

Iloveacurry Sun 21-Apr-19 09:38:17

He should of waited with you. Not very gentlemanly.

popsadaisy Sun 21-Apr-19 09:38:29

YANBU arsehole!!!!

Fruityfruitcake Sun 21-Apr-19 09:38:46

Definitely knock it on the head, I'd also explain why.

Disfordarkchocolate Sun 21-Apr-19 09:39:16

Definitely rude, I would have stayed with you until at least my planned train and probably the one after you left.

gillteed Sun 21-Apr-19 09:40:01

@crispysausagerolls I had to get back and the train after the cancelled one was going to get me back too late.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Sun 21-Apr-19 09:40:13

Never popular on this forum, but old fashioned courtesy goes a long way. I wouldn't see him again.

rudewordsaretheshit Sun 21-Apr-19 09:40:17

If we had been getting on really well and conversation was easy and interesting then I might have stayed. But an extra hour of awkward conversation with a stranger just to pass time - I'd have jumped on that train too. Having said that, he did originally say he'd get the 5.05 so in your shoes I'd feel resentful of him. I would chalk it down to a duff date, delete his number and try someone else.

KC225 Sun 21-Apr-19 09:41:21

He left you to wait 2 hours for a train? Why didn't you suggest going back to the pub?

He sounds bloody thoughtless?

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