So we have twin dc who are both 20. They both go to university and are there most of the year, including a lot of vacation so they can prepare for the next term or complete assignments. DS admitted that he hates coming home because he feels trapped with nothing to do, and he can't take himself off to a cafe to work. Everything is so much effort, and all there is to do it to walk the dog. Whereas at university, he lived 3 minutes walk into the centre of the city.
We live in a tiny village in a rural area, but only about 20 minutes on a train into a city. The train station is 2 miles away (we live atop a mountain). There are no bus links.
They have passed their driving tests but we can't afford to buy them cars, nor can they.
So unless they walk and then train they are pretty much stuck and are like having school children about needing lifts here and there.
DH says it's not fair he has to spend his precious time off from work (he works 35 hrs a week!) to cart his grown up children about. He's sick of being dictated to by being asked for a lift somewhere and the cost of the petrol. He feels they're old enough to find their own way to dental appointments etc. DS looked into it, and total journey time to the dentists including walking, a train, then bus would be 2 hours.
I work abroad fairly often for 2/3 weeks a go.
I am of the opinion that we chose to live here so we owe them lifts.
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Is dh being unreasonable about lifts for dc?
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sternpair · 18/04/2019 20:47
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