To think that this is incredibly rude of DH

[Namechange66]

I usually cook all of the evening meals for DH and I during the week as I get in from work earlier than he does. DH will usually come home from work whilst I’m half way through cooking and will be moaning about how starving he is, asking how much longer the food will be and generally being an impatient child. This evening, after spending 2 hours cooking our dinner and listening to DH moaning about being “starving”, I served our food and watched him sit opposite me at the table moving his food around the plate without eating anything. I asked him what was wrong and apparently as I had used chopped tomatoes instead of passata, the sauce was too was ‘lumpy’
and he only likes a smooth tomato sauce. He spent the next 5 minutes dramatically sliding bits of food around the plate and attempting to pick out each individual slither of chopped tomato. He eventually announced that he wasn’t hungry and left a whole plate full of freshly cooked food. I would never knowingly cook a meal using ingredients that somebody didn’t like and expect them to eat it, but that wasn’t the case here. After spending a lot of time cooking a fresh meal, WIBU to expect him to be an adult about such a very minor issue (smooth/lumpy sauce!!) and eat it, despite the fact it might not have been made EXACTLY how he wanted it?! DH says I’m being ridiculously petty but I feel furious, it just seems so ungrateful. AIBU?

[Devon1987]

He is a man child. What an ungrateful lump he is. Tell he can do his own dinner for a next week. What a twat.

[Merryoldgoat]

Stop cooking for him.

[Chickychoccyegg]

I would be pissed off at that too, he was extremely rude and ungrateful for the effort you had made

[Drum2018]

If I were you I'd eat dinner at lunchtime for the next while and not cook in the evenings at all. Let him bloody starve or learn to cook.

[Still18atheart]

Yanbu he is being a child. Get him to cook tea instead so it’s just the way he likes it

[Readoui]

I'd have emptied the plate into his lap.

[kaitlinktm]

DH says I’m being ridiculously petty

Sorry - who's that being ridiculously petty now?

[churchthecat]

Give him a pot noodle every night for a week, see if he changes his tune. Prick.

[ComedicCat]

Let him make his own dinner.

[ElloBrian]

Well he can cook for himself from now on. And wash his stuff up too.

[Quartz2208]

Agree with all the above - but what on earth were you cooking for 2 hours that was pasta?

[Namechange66]

Thank you! It’s good to know I’m not BU. He’s reacting as if I’m a total lunatic for being offended.

[Bringbackbertha]

I would have taken a blender to it while he was sat there so it splattered all over his face

[Floralhousecoat]

Let him cook his own meals. It's the only way to get him to appreciate the effort that goes into preparing each meal. People who have it too easy never appreciate the effort others make for them.

[Leeds2]

My own view is that if he was starving, he would've eaten it.

I would allocate him two or three nights a week when he can cook. Saturday and Sunday if that gives him more time.

[Constance1234]

Stop cooking him dinner for a few day, or just serve him puréed food if that’s what he seems to be asking for. Figures as he is being a massive toddler here.

[Iggly]

Why are you slaving for two hours for an ungrateful man?

Although sometimes I get pissed off if dh makes me a meal when I’ve told him so so many times I don’t like it a certain way!

[Expressedways]

I wouldn’t be happy if my toddler behaved like that, let alone my DH. Agree with PP suggesting that you stop cooking for the ungrateful man child.

[wigglypiggly]

How old is he 12? Tell him to eat a proper lunch so the poor wee soul doesnt starve to death waiting to have his evening meal cooked and served to him. Toddler tantrum.

[Pomegranatemolasses]

Stop cooking for him!

As an aside, two hours is an incredibly long time to spend on what sounds like a fairly standard pasta dish - how can you bear to spend all this time cooking during the working week?

[AdaColeman]

Put his meal through the blender, and make him cottage pie with it for tomorrow night.
Meanwhile, you can have a steak, and if he query it, say you thought a steak would be too lumpy for him.

[DisplayPurposesOnly]

DH says I’m being ridiculously petty

What planet is he on??!

So long as the meal has ingredients I like and is edible, then the only thing I would ever say is "thank you" to someone who has cooked for me.

[MsVestibule]

1. When did you marry my 10yo son?
   

and

1. How does it take 2 hours to make a dinner?

[poglets]

He takes it for granted. What's the reason you always cook the evening meal and eat together? Do you have children - why don't you just cook your own meals some evenings? Less dependency.

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

Is he 6??!!!