To wonder why I’m being sent “sissy” pics of a guy I went out with ten years ago?!(54 Posts)
On Saturday I got a fb message request from someone I didn’t know. I had a look at the picture and it was a guy wearing lingerie (I think it’s part of the sissy kink). I thought it was spam at first but when the person said “this is x” I realised it was a guy I went on a date with when I was at uni ten years ago.
I was a bit confused but let it go. I was thinking at first it was a scam but since then I’ve received ten more pictures from different people, all looking like him (I mean he’d have aged 10 years so I guess it’s him?) in different lingerie/wigs, all telling me to humiliate him because he’s a sissy.
I have no contact with him but tried to find him on fb to see what was going on. It was so long ago that I can’t even remember his last name but I couldn’t see him through mutual friends. He has a non-English name that I’ve not heard anywhere else which is why I’m fairly sure these pictures are of him and have been sent to me on purpose.
Has this happened to anyone else? I’m blocking as the pictures are sent but I’m wondering if it’s a weird scam and it’s just a coincidence it looks like/has the same name as the guy from uni and it isn’t actually him..? I don’t know how they’ve connected me with him as we aren’t fb friends, the only thing I can think of is there’s one picture of us together.
I have absolutely no problem with the sissy kink but I’m genuinely worried he could be in trouble and I don’t know how to get in touch with him. Also wondering if anyone has experience with it (I had a friend who did it and told me about it so I knew what was going on when I opened the message) and is this part of it? I’m just very confused and don’t particularly want explicit pictures messaged to me every day!!!
I have to be honest I have heard of this happening before and I really wouldn't be to worried, he sounds like he might be a submissive and serving a mistress who has maybe done some consensual blackmail with him, he has maybe been out of order and sent her your details so that she can expose him to you for his own humiliation, as normally a mistress will ask for a name of someone he had has a crush on!
They’ve stopped sending the photos now thankfully, I said I would contact the police about harassment if they continued. Can’t do much to help the guy - I’ve tried looking for him online but can’t find him and I can’t remember his full name/don’t know where he lives so doubt the police would be able to do much. Think the accounts are fake as well because they’ve clearly only just been set up.
Contact the police, if he is sending the photos he is making the OP an unwilling participant in his sexual fetish, if he's not sending them he may be in trouble.
Look, honestly, you are giving this too much time and mental energy. Just block and delete. You're not friends with this man and he is not your problem.
He’s definitely picked the wrong person, I’m way too nice to humiliate!
'Sissy's' usually send their pictures to people in the hopes that they will be verbally humiliated.
Message back saying he looks really masculine and dominating. That should shut the fucker up.
No, not a d. Does sound v similar although I never actually did anything more than a kiss with this guy which is why it’s so bizarre he’s chosen me!
It’s basically men dressing in stereotypical female lingerie and being mocked by women and “emasculated” I guess. Focus on humiliation. I only know about it because a friend told me about it a while ago.
I've never heard of anything like this.. what is 'sissy kink'??
Have I been living under a rock?!
his name doesnt begin with a D does it?
i dated a guy 6 years ago who seemed normal. a few months in the subject of sex began to appear. turns out he liked to be humiliated. he liked to dress like a woman and then be laughed at, called names and hit.
he wanted me to use a sex toy on him, slap him and insult his tiny penis (it wasnt tiny from what i could tell). he also said he did not like to ejaculate at any time as he "didnt deserve to" and if he accidentally did it he liked to be punished and laughed at.
he asked me to film him and demand he barked like a dog on all fours while i laughed at him and called him names. he then wanted me to keep the video and anytime he wouldnt do what i said, i was to threaten to send it to his mum. needless to say i didnt engage in anything and ran a mile.
sounds like this guy just wants your insults so he can get off on it. ignore him. or send nice things like you like his underwear!!
I think the reason I’m thinking about it so much is that it’s not just an anonymous person so I keep wondering what’s going on. It’s hard to contact the police as I can’t remember this full guy’s full name and he could be living anywhere in the U.K. so it’s a bit of a non starter. I do have a police officer neighbour who I know well so will have a chat with them this morning asking advice. I’ve taken screenshots of everything and blocked sonhopefully that’s the end of it. Thanks for the advice everyone!!
And stop thinking about it and reading about it - if it's not your kink then why give it any headspace? Just treat it the same way as you would any other unwanted spam (I get mainly lonely American generals who want to marry me...)
It's possibly blackmail, possibly him trying to get his jollies. I would suggest sending ONE reply along the lines of: I don't know why you are sending me this stuff, don't send any more or I will report you to the authorities.'
@dontmessagemethat sorry you were made to feel this way. That's the sexual harassment part of it, they've put you in a situation you didn't ask for. Just horrible. Unfortunately with it being sent from random anonymous accounts, there's unlikely to be anything the police can do.
Maybe write down any important information like the username and time you were contacted, just in case they try to do this again. But probably you were just unfortunate to end up on the receiving end of this and it won't happen again.xx
Yes, definitely report this to the police. It's definitely harassment (and I suspect it's him doing it) and there is the possibility he's being blackmailed as well. Either way, it's upsetting for you, and not appropriate.
I'd be inclined to assume it's him sending the photos. I've known of somebody who 'gets off' on humiliation/feeling humiliated and there's also a bloke in a Facebook group I'm in who keeps posting embarrassing pictures of himself and asking other members to abuse him.
(The Facebook group is about bargains of all things so he keeps getting removed!)
I’ve blocked everyone so hopefully I won’t recieve any messages. The pictures are very obviously posed so now I analyse it a bit more carefully I do think I’ve been chosen as a target on purpose. I have no problem with kinks but involving other people like this is disgusting.
The sissy part is imagining themselves as a woman (hence the clothes, wigs, make-up). Classic APG behaviour.
It’s misogyny at its finest.
call 101 and ask for advice
Try not to take it personally
You are probably one of hundred of people who have received these photos
I would NOT respond to any messages
if it is blackmailers this may give them your contact details
If it is a blackmailing network you do not want to have anything to do with them and responding may compromise your email / phone
if it is a man with a fetish getting off on sending unsolicited pics (which I doubt) responding will only excite him more
Contact the police ASAP
if it is blackmail the man's life could be at risk. Not just him, blackmail networks target thousands of young men and women
You could save lives by reporting this, so please make a difference and report to the cops asap
I just wish he hadn’t involved me in this - I’m a very anxious, people pleasing person by nature and I’m trying to see this from all sides but it just makes me feel awful. I’m worried he’s in trouble, I’m worried he’s involving me in some weird sexual game, I’m worried I’m being exposed to scammers/blackmailers and I don’t even remember his surname and can’t find it anywhere. I’ve found a profile using a different variation of his name but no picture so can’t even see if it’s him. I’ve receieved more pictures from a different account now. None of them are nudes, the first one was him wearing a ball gag and heels and the others have been school girl pictures etc. So not porn but also very much what I would consider to be private and potentially embarsssing pictures. I just don’t know what to do or what to think but I’m reading up on sissy stuff and it’s just making me feel awful to be a part of it without my consent.
Just message back that you have reported this to Facebook and are going to report it to the police for sexual harrassment. It will probably stop then.
Hello, just reading through but 100% not involved in the kink and not interested in it in any way. Reading about it has really opened my eyes, I immediately worried he was in trouble but actually realise he’s probably encouraging it and loving it. I feel a bit gross tbh as I have no interest in being involved. I told my boyfriend this morning and he wants me to contact the police as it’s hrassment and also possibly revenge porn
I think hoodathunkit has the measure of this.
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