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Are WE the CFs here or neighbours??

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TigersRoll Tue 16-Apr-19 16:56:53

3 houses share our driveway (including ours). So you get the 1st house and then ours next to each other and then at the end you get the 3rd house. 3rd house is a big house and has a double driveway (prob enough room for 3 cars anyway). 1st and 2nd house have a tiny section of driveway each, ours been the smallest, barely big enough for one car.

Anyway, DH likes to faff with his car, our driveway is too small to do anything on so during the day when everyone is at work he pulls it into the shared bit. Occasionally he parks his work van on the shared bit but basically, if anything is on the shared bit, 3rd house can’t get to their driveway which is why DH does it when everyone is at work.

This worked well for ages, occasionally woman next door would come home early but would park at the top on the street and walk down. One time all of a sudden she came home at 11am (!) came storming down the driveway carrying a number of bags (she’s a nurse) and muttered something about so much for buying a house with a driveway”. DH was confused as she’s never mentioned it before but he moved his car straight away anyway.
A week or so later we had workmen at the house and they parked on the shared drive. She came home from worked, marched up to the workmen and told them they had to move. This meant packing up tools, ladders and various other stuff before reversing out of the drive just so she could park next to her house. As soon as she was in they moved everything back, low and behold they came out almost immediately and said they had to move as she was going out. They did, she went out and reappeared 15 minutes later again telling the workmen they had to move everything!!! Surely if she knew she was going back out she could have just parked at top of drive where there is tons of room??

Anyway she appears to be making a point of doing this now everytime DH has something on the shared driveway but has never actually spoken to him about it!

Last night we got an angry knock on the door. Her husband was stood there and he looked at our car and said “can you move it” in a really snappy tone. It’s a big car (Land Rover) and as our driveway is so small the arse of it sometimes sticks out into the shared bit. Unfortunately neighbour also has a Land Rover making getting past a bit of a squeeze. DH looked at the car and the space (as it was on our driveway) and the bloke snapped “I’m not scratching my car again trying to get past. Move it”. DH then had to move the car so it was practically touching our garage door. This bloke has always been very pleasant before so it seems so out of character!

AIBU to think his wife has started some kind of vendetta against us and roped him into it or is it our fault??

EmrysAtticus Tue 16-Apr-19 16:58:19

I think we need a diagram! I can't work out the set up.

idontknowwhattosay Tue 16-Apr-19 16:59:09

Your fault.

iano Tue 16-Apr-19 16:59:53

From what you've said yabu.

spanieleyes Tue 16-Apr-19 17:00:06

Well, people are allowed to come home any time they like and should be able to get to their house so, if you are blocking it , then you are in the wrong.
if you have a garage, whu can't you park in that?

Littleforestcat Tue 16-Apr-19 17:00:20

You must know you are? Just keep your cars off the shared bits so that everyone can access their own driveway.

DryIce Tue 16-Apr-19 17:00:53

I feel your pain, I have a similar set up - but I'm afraid I think YABU. I would never block the drive for longer than droppong in my shopping and I'd be extremely apologetic if I held up my neighbour whose drive it was (past me)

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee Tue 16-Apr-19 17:01:06

Is this a reverse? Of course they should hsve access ti their drive whenever they like!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Tue 16-Apr-19 17:01:08

Sorry, but I think it might be you; blocking their driveway so they can't actually access it? Not on, whatever time of day.

And DH then had to move the car so it was practically touching our garage door. Why not park like this all the time? If it's not actually touching the garage door and allows more room for house 3 to get in and out of their own drive?

If your DH likes tinkering with his car and your driveway isn't big enough for him to do this, why doesn't he park in the road instead?

PathOfLeastResitance Tue 16-Apr-19 17:01:17

In my opinion, you and your husband are in the wrong.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Tue 16-Apr-19 17:01:50

@spanieleyes good point! Why doesn't he tinker with the car inside the garage?

BlodwynBludd Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:04

If you're blocking the shared driveway and expecting them not to be able to park outside their house on a drive they paid for YABU and cf.

EmrysAtticus Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:13

Ok so from what others have said there is one road which terminates in three different drives? If so then yes YABU. I wasn't sure from your op if perhaps the shared bit was your drive and the neighbours were perhaps just a bit rubbish at parking.

Needajob1 Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:27

You are the CFs. Stop blocking your neighbours in/out of their parking space.

Disfordarkchocolate Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:35

You're blocking their access so that makes you the CF's. They are under no obligation to park up and walk because you block their access. It would have been polite for you to mention the workmen too.

TigersRoll Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:38

The garages are tiny and he uses it for his tools

lyralalala Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:43

Sorry you are the CFs.

That shared driveway is your neighbours access to their house. If you can't fit your Landrover or your DH's work van onto your own bit of driveway then you should be the one parking at the top of the street. Not your neighbour.

It sounds like your neighbours are at the end of their tether with having access to their house/drive blocked repeatedly.

HavelockVetinari Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:45

Sounds like YABU I'm afraid.

Houseonahill Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:52

I think you are being cheeky using other people's driveways when they are out but I don't really get the setup, why couldn't they get their car out last night? And if you all have your own drives surely it's not a shared drive?

FriarTuck Tue 16-Apr-19 17:02:58

YABU - use your driveway and don't overhang or block anyone. Small drives suck but it's unfair to keep inconveniencing them.

SosigDog Tue 16-Apr-19 17:03:15

Check your deeds. Are you sure it’s all shared property? Because the neighbours seem to think you’re parking on their drive. And you are reinforcing that opinion by agreeing to move, which you aren’t required to do if the space is shared.

Borntobedifferent Tue 16-Apr-19 17:03:31

Yep you are in the wrong.

She is mostly likely tired and doesn't want to ask your husband to move every time.

It doesn't sound a shared driveway more like a piece of land which isn't road to access their own drives.

TheQueef Tue 16-Apr-19 17:03:51

Oh yeah it's you.

Iltavilli Tue 16-Apr-19 17:03:53

Yep, it’s you.

She bought a house with a drive and should be able to use it. There’ll be something in your deeds about blocking access and it seems you are. Regularly.

lyralalala Tue 16-Apr-19 17:03:54

You basically need to see that shared bit like a dropped kerb - you wouldn't park over that to block your neighbours so you shouldn't be doing it on the shared bit.

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