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Please settle an argument .......... in other peoples' houses on or shoes off?

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helpamamaout Mon 15-Apr-19 08:43:17

On entering someone else's home, should the visitor keep their shoes on or remove them?

Neverender Mon 15-Apr-19 08:44:01

Take them off unless the host says not to worry.

ILoveMaxiBondi Mon 15-Apr-19 08:44:34

Ask the home owner.

BasilTheGreat Mon 15-Apr-19 08:44:34

Off. Anything else is rude and unhygienic.

PutyourtoponTrevor Mon 15-Apr-19 08:44:54

I've never taken my shoes off when visiting someone's house and would never expect visitors to take them off when visiting mine. The only time I would is if I was asked to, just wouldn't occur to me otherwise

HBStowe Mon 15-Apr-19 08:45:21

I always say ‘I’ll just take my shoes off’ and then they can say not to worry if they don’t mind.

PutyourtoponTrevor Mon 15-Apr-19 08:45:41

I'll go as far to say I don't even know anyone who does this, certainly not my family or friends

Daisydad Mon 15-Apr-19 08:45:45

Always off (unless the floors are obviously minging, then on for self preservation)

ApplestheHare Mon 15-Apr-19 08:45:54

Take them off (unless they have bare feet and a horrible fungal infection, in which case they should hover uncomfortably in the hallway murmuring about shoes until asked to come any further in).

LordWheresMyShoes Mon 15-Apr-19 08:46:30

Follow their lead entirely unless I know my shoes are muddy or something.

Callistone Mon 15-Apr-19 08:46:43

Always off. I don't mind if people wear shoes in my house but it would feel rude not to take mine off in their house.

TapasForTwo Mon 15-Apr-19 08:47:02

I always ask. Where I live it is common practice to remove shoes, but I would never ask someone to do so because I like my guests to feel welcome.

Twotinydictators Mon 15-Apr-19 08:47:02

I always take off as that's what we do at home. Will keep on if they insist not to, but always feel a bit uncomfortable walking over their carpets in outdoor shoes!

ILoveMaxiBondi Mon 15-Apr-19 08:47:24

It’s not the norm in the U.K. to take your shoes off indoors and as a result most peoples floors are too dirty to walk on your socks or bare feet.

moglovesredroses Mon 15-Apr-19 08:47:29

Oh god I hate shoes off! Have i got clean matching socks on? do my feet smell? The awkwardness when thehost follows you to the door to say goodbye and you're struggling in the porch to put yiurs and the kids shoes on! It's probably just me overthinking it but i go to some friends who have shoes off and i get so anxious about it!

WhatNowRandy Mon 15-Apr-19 08:47:38


I'm from a shoes-off country, and taking them off is my default, although I'll follow my host's lead when I'm visiting. This is something other immigrant (in the UK from my country) I know complain a lot about, but I can't get too bothered about it. Meh. I'd rather my visitors felt comfortable, and I know they prefer wearing shoes, so why not. Floors can be washed.

TheQueef Mon 15-Apr-19 08:47:38

I take mine off.
I just know it'd be me that treads dog donk into someone's cream axminster.

Natsku Mon 15-Apr-19 08:48:31

I automatically take my shoes off but if they tell me to keep them on then I will.

getoffmyhandyousleazebag Mon 15-Apr-19 08:48:59

This again??? You won’t settle an argument- read the previous 10,000 threads!

In short - lots of people think shoes in is absolutely disgusting, other people think making other people take their shoes off can make other people uncomfortable and makes you a bad host.

Nobody changes their mind.

Ultimately in somebody else’s house you have to do what they want regarding this.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel Mon 15-Apr-19 08:49:22

Follow their lead/ask.

We have some freezing stone floors in my house so I would be worried about you wandering around in socks. But of course it is rude to keep them on if it is a shoeless household.

CherryPavlova Mon 15-Apr-19 08:49:38

I would very rarely take shoes off unless asked. I find it a reallynodd request.

LaurenSarah22 Mon 15-Apr-19 08:49:39

Remove them

Callistone Mon 15-Apr-19 08:49:51

I'd never assume someone else was happy to hoover twice a day to pick up the mud that's been trod all over a carpet by wearing shoes on it

CherryPavlova Mon 15-Apr-19 08:50:10

Unless muddy wellingtons, then I would.

humblesims Mon 15-Apr-19 08:51:45

Its a stupid question presupposing that there is a definitive answer. Not all households are the same. Go with the rules of the house you are in. It's not difficult.

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