I have had a friend since high school. Fundamentally we are quite different people but been through a lot together over the years. But lately she has been winding me up.
Some examples include her boasting about things in a really obvious way, belittling aspects of my life/views/friends in a 'jokey' manner and just generally being a bit of a brat. Whenever we get together whether it's for a meal or a day/night out we always have to do what she wants. She's rubbish at sticking to the plans and there have been occasions where I've been sat alone in a restaurant for nearly an hour waiting for her to turn up. She just seems to value her own time and money and self importance above all else.
Over the years these things have been annoying but tolerable but we've had a disagreement recently that neither of us are willing to back down on (whereas I once would just to keep the peace) and I'm starting to think that maybe we have just grown apart. She makes me feel rubbish about myself at times and I have plenty of friends who don't do that so why persist with one who does? She is the sort of person who has always been quite affluent and will expect people to slot into her way of life (expensive restaurants, holidays etc) even when you're not in the same financial position and I have really put myself under financial pressure trying to keep up over the years (my own fault but she seemed either oblivious or just didnt care)
We have a group of mutual friends so I don't want to cause a big split or have a dramatic fall out but I also don't want to pander to her or waste my time anymore. Anyone else have a friend like this and how did you deal with it? It's not that I don't like her, I just find her really unreasonable.
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conflicted1234 · 12/04/2019 08:33
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