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HarrysOwl Fri 12-Apr-19 07:35:33

When you got married? (If you're married!)

I was reading a BBC article about a woman talking about the judgement and negativity she encountered when she announced her engagement aged 22.

I was 32 when I married DH. We were together for 3 years, got engaged then lived together for another 4 years before having our wedding. I wanted to be as sure as I could be and felt no rush.

Is there a general judgement with feminist overtones about getting married so young? Are they doomed to divorce?

teyem Tue 07-May-19 22:15:31

I got married at 23, we've been married 17 years. We were only engaged for three months. My dm was a bit shocked about the speed of it all but no-one had anything negative to say about it or they had the good sense to keep it to themselves.

RedSheep73 Tue 07-May-19 22:14:27

We were 26. Been together since 18. Now 45 and still married!

GoodPlaceJanet Tue 07-May-19 22:12:07

DH was 23 when we got married and I was a couple of years oldẹr. If anyone said anything negative it never made it to my ears. He was always very mature though, worked full time since 16, wanted family life. 10 years later still happily enjoying our life together.

Isthisreallylife Tue 07-May-19 22:05:23

I got married to my first husband at age 28 - he was 35. We met when I was 26. My son was born when I was 36 and we got divorced when I was 40.
I met my second husband when I was 42, we got married when I was 62 and are getting divorced this year when I am 63.
Obviously, well, in my case, age doesn’t always bring wisdom

MarieeBarone Sat 20-Apr-19 19:11:55

Together since 16, engaged 24, baby 25, married 26, am 32 now. I guess I didn't get the "too young" comments as we'd already been together 10 years.

Furrydogmum Mon 15-Apr-19 12:17:24

Met when I was nearly 15 and he was nearly 17. Married when I was 20 and he was 22. Will be our 23rd anniversary this year. We've done a lot of growing up in our time and it hasn't always been easy but I think we love each other more now than when we got married.. Still find him attractive too.
Our oldest son is almost 21, I wouldn't want him to settle down yet - he tells me he's not that stupid anyway 😂

proseccoandbooks Mon 15-Apr-19 12:05:11

Wedding next September- I'll be 27 (almost 28) and he'll be 31.

mirime Mon 15-Apr-19 12:00:46

Engaged in our early 20s, married in our early 30s. We had something like a 12 year engagement. Meant to have a longish engagement, didn't mean for it to be that long!

Fantail2018 Mon 15-Apr-19 11:26:37

Met at 19, married at 22 and still together 16 years later.

Numptybean Mon 15-Apr-19 00:47:43

Married at 24

LMDC Mon 15-Apr-19 00:40:47

Got together at 15, married at 20. At 16 we decided on a wedding date which would've meant married at 22, but circumstances changed and we decided to marry sooner.

We have possibly the strongest relationship of everyone we know and have absolutely no regrets. I have no doubt that people judged us at the time but no one was rude to us. I still get the 'wow you're very young to be married'/'you married young' comments now, but all very politely

OneTitWonder Mon 15-Apr-19 00:37:02

I was 37.

Dramaqueen2019 Mon 15-Apr-19 00:27:14

Still waiting 😅

TwinMama6 Mon 15-Apr-19 00:24:58

Met at 16, married at almost 18 ( 2months prior to 18th) still together after 15.5 years.

LittleCandle Sun 14-Apr-19 23:22:26

Got married at 22. Was married for 22 years, although we'd been together for 24 years. Don't miss him and know wonder how I stayed married for so long. At the time, that was the norm.

Livpool Sun 14-Apr-19 23:18:50

Congratulations Cockledoodledoo! Much longer than me 👍

PurplePenguins Sun 14-Apr-19 23:09:22

First time 23 lasted 8 years. Second time 36 lasted 2 years.

TheMadGardener Sun 14-Apr-19 22:48:22

Met DH when I was 20. (He's older). Didn't become an item until I was 22. Engaged at 25, married at 28. Still married at 49 although unfortunately DH now has terminal cancer.

When I got married I thought 28 was terribly mature, but looking back it seems young!

Cockadoodledooo Sun 14-Apr-19 22:42:42

Our anniversary is also 6th June! 21 years for us this year though. I was 21 when we married, dh 23. Don't remember any negativity about us being young - there was a bit when we announced our engagement 6 weeks after our first date though. Think they realise we're serious now though grin

Livpool Sun 14-Apr-19 20:57:30

Attitude our anniversary is 6th June. What about you?

Deadpoet Sun 14-Apr-19 20:32:22

Met at 21
Engaged at 22
Bought our house at 22
Married at 25

Now 45 still married

effiehabb Sun 14-Apr-19 20:18:00

28, we had been together 11 years.

HelenaJustina Sun 14-Apr-19 20:16:28

20, been married 15 years this year

Playmytune Sun 14-Apr-19 20:14:52

Knew him since I was 4. Got together when I was 18. Married at 20. Still together 37 years later.

Attitude84 Sun 14-Apr-19 19:51:11

Livpool- when’s your anniversary? We have been married four years this year too

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