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To wonder if anyone else is stuck in a not very happy marriage unable to leave their partner?

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TooOldForThisUrgh Wed 10-Apr-19 19:47:47

Things with DH and I haven’t been good for a long time, but due to our situation I can’t leave him, as much as I’d like to as I am completely tethered. I can’t really go into too much detail for fear it would totally out me as it’s a specific and very complicated situation involving a family business.

Anyway my point is, is it possible to find peace with your life even if you’re stuck in a not particularly happy marriage? What do you do to get you through it? How do you deal with your feelings and emotions when you are feeling particularly desperate and doomed? Is it possible to ever feel resigned to total acceptance of your situation and be able to embrace the life that you do have? We also have 3 DC and so everything is done for the benefit for them and they are generally unaware of my feelings about our situation. I can see things improving in the next 10/15 years once they have left home. But getting through that time is going to be hard work.

AlaskanOilBaron Wed 10-Apr-19 19:49:43

Sounds tough.

Are you in a position where you can speak freely with him about this, and lay down some boundaries to organise your lives where they are together and where they are separate?

TooOldForThisUrgh Wed 10-Apr-19 21:21:17

Not really. He’s pretty disengaged as he’s focussed on the business. I actually don’t really see him a great deal at the moment. He can be a bit of the sort who sticks his head in the sand and is always too busy to deal with family life (but he has no choice in the matter, iyswim)

Tellmemoretellmemore Wed 10-Apr-19 23:09:12

I appreciate you can't give details of your circumstances. But so we can try to answer your questions, it might help to tell us a bit more about how you're feeling and why the marriage is unhappy thanks

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