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Was IBU to not replace this drink?

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SoftPlayStandOff Wed 10-Apr-19 15:25:19

Soft play centre. Large one with different areas for different age groups.

I'm sat in the corner of the pre-schooler area - DS2 (4) and DS3 (2) are around and about playing. I stand up and look the opposite way to check on DS1 (7) and DD1 (10) who are elsewhere in the older kids section. When I turn around DS2 has a fruit shoot in his hand. I tell him to put it down, its not his. He does so and I think no more of it.

A couple of minutes later a woman comes up and tells me DS2 has drunk out of her child's drink. I apologise, say that i didn't see him drink it but I'd asked him to put it down when I saw he had it. She went away.

I speak to DS2 and he says DS3 handed it to him so he thought it was DS3's so had a mouthful. DS3 had picked it up from the middle of the floor in the middle of the soft play.

A couple of minutes later the woman's friend comes and asks if i'm replacing the drink. I laugh thinking she's joking and explain that I was sorry but it had been left in the middle of the floor and my toddler picked it up and gave it to his brother. She says again - 'well XXX can't drink it now its had his lips on it, are you going to by another?' I apologised again and suggested that surely a wipe with a baby wipe would be fine? She looks incredulous and says something about germs. I point out that its softplay - germs are everywhere and no, i was not replacing a drink that had been left in the middle of the room that my child had inadvertently taken a sip of.

Had this been a reverse I would have just wiped the bottle and let my kid get on with their drink. If i was the sort to be concerned by germs i would have not been at softplay or at the very least i would have kept my kids bottles by me (as I had done with my own kids bottles).

They proceed to bitch about it loudly until I left.

SO WIBU to not replace the drink in these circumstances?

ShirleyPhallus Wed 10-Apr-19 15:27:09

Your kid drank a drink that wasn’t theirs, not sure why you wouldn’t replace it 🤷🏼‍♀️

MyDcAreMarvel Wed 10-Apr-19 15:27:41

You should have replaced it yes, your child drank their drink.

shumway Wed 10-Apr-19 15:28:51


ALLMYSmellySocks Wed 10-Apr-19 15:29:29

If it had been on a table you should have replaced it but if it was left in the middle of the soft play (where I'm assuming there's a no food or drink policy) then YANBU to not replace it.

Starryskiesinthesky Wed 10-Apr-19 15:29:48

Of course you should have replaced it. You were really rude not to.

SoftPlayStandOff Wed 10-Apr-19 15:29:49

for one mouthful out of a drink that had been left in the middle of the floor?!

recall Wed 10-Apr-19 15:30:23

Yes you were being unreasonable ...ought to have replaced it

CripsSandwiches Wed 10-Apr-19 15:30:26

YANBU it shouldn't have been left on the floor of the play area!

ShirleyPhallus Wed 10-Apr-19 15:30:53

How do they know your son doesn’t have some sort of illness or cold sores or something?

Littleraindrop15 Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:15


MyDcAreMarvel Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:20

It’s irrelevant the amount, your child could have a coke sore or a bug brewing.

SoftPlayStandOff Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:24

i'm shocked already - in the reverse situation it wouldn't even had occured to me to ask to have the drink replaced!

BottleOfJameson Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:28

YANBU. If they left in in the play area it was bound to be picked up by toddlers. They should have kept it on their table (it may have spilled left there anyway).

MyDcAreMarvel Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:41

cold not coke!

nauseous5000 Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:51

I would've offered to replace it

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Wed 10-Apr-19 15:31:58

All that for that ? Buy another drink.

Actually these threads make me laugh - you'll have a precious mum along in a mo, one of those who gets hysterical about people kissing babies in case they break out in cold sores ... what if ..... grin ... then you have Mrs Germy McGermfest giving it a rub on the sleeve of her cardi.

PassMeTheWine Wed 10-Apr-19 15:32:08

You should definitely of replaced it.

lalafafa Wed 10-Apr-19 15:32:39

For the sake of a quid I would have replaced it.

UserName31456789 Wed 10-Apr-19 15:32:43

I can see why they would want to replace it (although actually it would probably be fine - toddlers slobber all over the place anyway) but YANBU to refuse to pay for it as it was their fault for leaving it in a stupid place.

DeltaFlyer Wed 10-Apr-19 15:32:48

I'd love to see the other mums aibu on this grin.
In this situation id have offered to pay half but they shouldn't be taking drinks into the soft play anyway

SoftPlayStandOff Wed 10-Apr-19 15:32:48

it was within the gates and fenced toddler section, not in the food section and it was left unattended in the middle of the floor.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Wed 10-Apr-19 15:32:56

haha ! and In the time I took to type that , two came along !

troppibambini Wed 10-Apr-19 15:34:04

I am gobsmacked at the replies of course you shouldn't have replaced it!
You leave a drink in the middle of soft play what the hell do you think will happen.

SomewhereInbetween1 Wed 10-Apr-19 15:34:12

I wouldn't have replaced it. They're kids, kids drop things, it happens. It's not your fault.

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