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Mum said no to helping me with the kids

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Teddybear080818 Wed 10-Apr-19 11:09:27

Not sure if anybody remembers the thread (I had posted about doing a mutual exchange but the lady wanted me to pay for the damaged doors)

Anyway the council have agreed to fix them!! And I move in on Saturday. I first asked her if she could have my eldest for a few hours to allow me to move in peace (other kids going to other family) she said no, so I asked if she'd be willing to come and sit in the house while I pack and she said no.
So not to be accused of drip feeding, I offered to make her dinner and endless amounts of cups of tea and she still said no, she wouldn't have to change them or give them dinner. Just sit there and make sure they are fighting/licking doors while I run around!

I am beyond stressed trying to get packed, I have 3 days well technically 2 as I have a meeting with the council on Friday and then work sad

If I am BU then can I have tips on how to get packed with very little time?!

fluffygreenmonsterhoody Sat 13-Apr-19 07:10:59

Good luck today OP.

Frouby Sat 13-Apr-19 07:24:50

Good luck for today op.

Get beds up and made first, then at least you can all go to bed later without faffing.

Then unpack a tv for the kids, then your kitchen stuff so you can make snacks and drinks.

If it's dirty clean bathroom and kitchens first.

I moved 4 years ago and its really stressful. I only had 1 baby too, he was 11 months old. My mam did come on moving day for a couple of hours, then buggered off shopping. So I get your frustration.

But you have your new house and a lot more space and a garden if I remember rightly. That's got to be a good thing.

BarrenFieldofFucks Sat 13-Apr-19 07:25:36

Am utterly pissing myself at @Jessie94 who seems to genuinely think that moving with one baby of 14 months (slingable, has naps I assume) is anything like moving with three child including mobile ones 😂

Having one baby was the easiest time of my parenting life.

UnusualBluePenguin Sat 13-Apr-19 07:28:49

You can do it OP drink 1 million cups of coffee and plaster on a fake smile for the kids then do this fucker!

OwlinaTree Sat 13-Apr-19 07:29:13

Good luck op, enjoy your new place.

GertrudeCB Sat 13-Apr-19 07:31:51

Good luck op.

bibbitybobbityyhat Sat 13-Apr-19 07:39:54

Flipping heck! Your mother is acting worryingly old before her time. Does she work? I'm 56 and fully expect to be working for at least another 10 years. I don't feel too old to do anything whatsoever. Good luck for your move OP.

didgeridoodle Sat 13-Apr-19 07:42:39

Good luck OP! You can do it! Flask of tea and packet of biscuits to keep you all going.

Bishbashthrash Sat 13-Apr-19 07:48:03

If you only got the 4 year old get him to help.

Mine would be happy to get a box and either scribble all over it and cover it in tape or pack his toys up.

I thought you meant you had to do it with all 3 DC.

I wouldn't be helping your mum anymore either.

woollyheart Sat 13-Apr-19 09:17:45

It will be worth it in the long run! Good luck!

gamerchick Sat 13-Apr-19 09:26:40

Good luck OP. Nearly there. flowers

Teddybear080818 Sat 13-Apr-19 10:03:25

Shaken, he started a new job about 4 weeks ago now, he doesn't want to let anybody down by taking days off as sometimes theres only him and 1 other person workinf

Poppy43 Sat 13-Apr-19 12:30:56

Good luck with the move flowers

Cantstopeatingchocolate Sat 13-Apr-19 20:28:57

I’d also have words about your concern for your mum feeling too tired to look after a 4 year old for an hour.
My mum became full time carer to 2year old niece at 57 and is still looking after her now at 77, when I’m 53 MY youngest will be 10.
And my 77 yo mum will drive 90 miles to help us out if we are really stuck. We don’t ask unless we are really desperate though.
Different family dynamics though.

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