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Mum has no time for my Kids

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Widowodiw Wed 10-Apr-19 05:08:52

My in laws have neither asked after nor seen our children since my husbands funeral 9 months ago. Their loss not ours.

AvengersAssemble Wed 10-Apr-19 04:03:15

Oh my word I apologise for all the duplicate posts, it said my post not successful, please try again!

AvengersAssemble Wed 10-Apr-19 04:01:28

It's awful, my parents are the same, we're not bothered with me growing up, now their the same with my DC. Think it's best to just leave her to it, certainly not fair on your DC.

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GirlRaisedInTheSouth Wed 10-Apr-19 03:56:21

Also in the same position. My PIL live 10 mins away and we haven’t seen them for nearly 4 months. It’s so sad for our DC sad.

ohfourfoxache Wed 10-Apr-19 03:28:44

Is this “normal” for her?

(You have my sympathy, in similar boat with fuckwit ILs) thanks

Mentalray Wed 10-Apr-19 03:25:57

Is this a change from before? Maybe something happened?

If she was always like this I would say it is what it is.
But if this is new maybe something is going on.

TheGodmother Wed 10-Apr-19 02:41:36

Ouch that must really really hurt. Sorry no advice, just couldn't read and leave. thanks

KC225 Wed 10-Apr-19 02:39:21

If she 'miffed' that the children are staying with your MIL and she is biting her nose off to spite her face? It must have been hurtful to hear that ...... Can you mention it in one of those no blamey ways - I felt that you were blocking all the visiting suggestions for Saturday. We want to visit you and we have a gift for you. The children miss their granny' type of thing.

0DimSumMum0 Wed 10-Apr-19 00:46:46

How often do you usually see her if you live 4hrs away?

rebecca102 Wed 10-Apr-19 00:41:30

My bfs parents don't bother with our daughter, 14 months. His mum lives around the corner (1 min drive) and his dad lives about 10 minute drive, they're separated. They don't ask how she is or anything and get all upset when they do finally see her and she doesn't know them. They both went 3 months without seeing her. She cries because they are strangers. We have tried so many times to organise catch ups and they always seem to be busy even though we've found out at time that they were in fact not. We aren't going to push a relationship if the person/people who should be the ones establishing that aren't interested. Like they can't even have us over for 10 min or pop in to our house for 10. It's pathetic. My parents on the other hand are amazing and my daughter absolutely loves them

pallisers Wed 10-Apr-19 00:38:17

your mum doesn't want to see you and your children? Even for an hour.

Very odd. I'd be very hurt.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Wed 10-Apr-19 00:36:58

Very strange for a grandmother to not want to spend time with her GCs. Especially their daughters children. Does she have other GCs.
I had a friend who used to have to pay her mum to mind her dd.
Fancy wanting paying for the company of your GC. I'm sorry but that's odd ball behavior.

FLOandOLLIE Wed 10-Apr-19 00:16:30

Need some opinions.

We live over 4 hours from my mum. We are going down there this weekend to pick children up as they have stayed few days at MIL's. My mum has no room to have them. Anyway said I would meet her Saturday with kids and go to tbe park if weather nice. She said that would be lovely and reminded me she would be going out at 5pm for evening. That was fine but then she messsged to say "probably be best to leave Saturday as im out most days this week and will be too tired if i see you and kids for Saturday evening. I said " what about for an hour then" and she replied: best to leave it till another time". So hurt. She has just had her birthday and we have her present. Kids love seeing her. She isnt bothered. She sees my niece regular now and seems like she's lost interest in my 6 and 8 year old. Just a rant,sorry!!

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