Suspected for a while that my very new boyfriend had a problem with drink. He is about 10 years older than me.
The times I see him he barely has any food in the house, will constantly want to meet to have a drink etc., but the type of job he has would make this quite normal socially (banker) and so I didn't really question it immediately.
However warning signs came when he started to look gaunt, would cancel dates because he was feeling sad and most unnervinng to me, would talk about past trauma in his life. Then the lack of money came - although a high salaried job, he would often struggle towards the end of the month with money to the point where I would offer to lend him money, which he did always pay back.
Anyway tonight I met him after work. He was wasted when I got there, staggering about and eyes half closed. I was a bit sad and tried to sober him up. However he got to the point where he started to tell me to fuck off and that I was a fucking cunt. I got upset and left, he followed me begging me to go back to his and forget it. I lost my patience a little bit said I wanted to go home and that he was an alcoholic and needed some help.
I got a taxi back and realised as I walked in the house that his keys are in my bag (he put them there saying he would lose them).
I looked at the keys and there is a UKAT Keyring on there. After googling I found that it is an addiction rehabilitation centre.
I feel so panicky right now - I've left him in town intoxicated and unbeknownst to me without keys. His phone is now off.
I Don't know what to do - I tried ringing the bar he was in and asking but they said they were closing. I'm a 40 minute drive away now.
I feel so guilty. He text me after I left saying please don't leave me and I just didn't respond. I've sent numerous texts now and calls to him and his friends but no response.
Can someone please help me what should I do?? I'm scared for his safety. I don't care that he's an alcoholic, I just want him safe and indoors it's so cold outside
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Urgent help please I just found out my boyfriend is an addict and I've left left him alone
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user1485367344 · 09/04/2019 22:45
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