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Comments by my parents=doubting my mothering ability

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Chick2018 Tue 09-Apr-19 20:19:08

My mother in law and my parents make comments in passing re my daughter and myself. They sometimes make me feel I’m not doing a good job at being a mother. Am I being over sensitive ?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Tue 09-Apr-19 20:20:25

Can you give us an example of a couple of the comments?

ThreeAnkleBiters Tue 09-Apr-19 20:22:01

I think you need to give us examples. Are they being snide and judgemental or expressing genuine concern?

Readysteadygoat Tue 09-Apr-19 20:23:36

I think it depends what they are

I love my mum deeply and we have a great relationship but she still makes comments on my parenting despite my having had more babies than she has. With the first I let it bother me and questioned myself, now I just ignore her. It's daft things like "oh did mummy let you bang your head?" "oh mummy needs to stop letting you sleep in her bed". Boring

Mixedupmummy Tue 09-Apr-19 20:33:37

you could be over sensitive and they are just trying to make conversation or give normal advice. or they could overstepping. it's impossible to say unless you provide examples.
either way though, if it bothers you tell them, nicely if the former or more bluntly in the case of the latter not to.

Nofunkingworriesmate Tue 09-Apr-19 20:44:53

Either you are unlucky enough to have two sets of horrible parents and in laws or you are over sensitive
Either you need to improve your parenting or your self esteem

Chick2018 Tue 09-Apr-19 20:47:09

your all probably right and it’s me being over sensitive. I know deep down I am doing a good job and learning as I go. Sometimes it’s hard not to doubt yourself with little comments in passing, probably meant to be of help

Giddyuppp Tue 09-Apr-19 20:48:57

Can you give us an example or two?

GuineaPiglet345 Tue 09-Apr-19 21:01:44

Nah, parenting advice has changed since your parents and in-laws were raising their kids, I think it’s just hard for them to accept sometimes.

Overthinker33 Tue 09-Apr-19 21:07:44

Agree with guinea

SoyDora Tue 09-Apr-19 21:11:07

Without knowing what the comments are it’s impossible to say whether you’re being over sensitive really.

Littleoakhorn Tue 09-Apr-19 21:17:04

I think it’s pretty common for new grandparents to think that they’re parenting gurus who’ve raised feckless children... without seeing the contradiction that entails. Ignore them, parenting advice changes and there’s no point in dwelling on negativity.

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