Baby in cafe(659 Posts)
Today I was out with my dd(3) and my ds (9 months). We went into a small cafe for lunch, sat down and decided what we were having etc. Waitress came over and we ordered and i asked for a high chair, she informed me there was only 1 high chair and it was in use. So I got ds out if his pram for a bit cause he hates being in it if we are not moving.
He sat on my knee and played for a few mins but then started to get grumpy. He is at that stage where he wants to be moving as much as possible. I got up with him and let him walk around the table a few times holding my hands etc. He wasnt crying or anything just a trying to get down and throwing toys.
A couple came and sat on the table next to us. I stayed stood up with the baby,I didn't go near their table just let him walk around the chair/table to his sister and back. He started shouting a bit, again not crying just babbling loudly. I shushed him, picked him up and tried to distract him. By this point our food arrived.
I strapped him back in his pram and gave him some food to eat. He was again babbling and threw a few bits on the floor. The couple next to us at this point got up,loudly asked to be moved as they didn't like noisy children and parents that couldn't control them. I apologised but they just turned round and said I should have left the cafe as soon as he started making noise but my dd was eating and i was alone so i couldn't do that.
I was so embarrassed, my dd is brilliant when we are out and my ds wasnt screaming just babbling loudly. Wibu?
The couple were in the wrong, they came and sat near you, not the other way round they had a choice, and they chose to sit so commenting about parents who cant control their children because ds was babbling away was the wrong thing to do, are we supposed to stifle natural noise from children of course not.
As for other posters saying you should have left when your ds was babbling i am shocked at hearing/reading that. If you wish for silence when you are eating or whatever go to the library or stay at home simple ...
As PP said, not sure why they sat close to a woman with a kid if they don't like baby noises.
The mind boggles!
And I can't stand noise etc. They obviously couldn't either. You were there first they could have sat elsewhere or went to another place. No idea why they put themselves in the position they did and then moaned about it 😬
I thought about this thread today when I was in a train carriage with a group of men (40s?) were talking loudly enough to wake my baby up from his peaceful nap. There was no point going to the other end of the carriage because a mixed group of older people (60s? 70s) were having a laugh about something. DS(1) quietly looked at his books, then I sat him up and he ate some berry pancake; no noise, no mess and no fuss. We then met friends on a cafe with their older kids who were drawing and talking nicely while having their drink and food. One little one commented quietly about how loud a woman's laugh was, she was on the other side of the cafe. Bloody kids eh! Nobody seemed to be making any effort avoid us either, a few individuals made a beeline for the window seats next to us even though there were other seats available.
Exactly @MRex have found adults to make more noise, but it's people with children who are targeted.
Plus cafes are never quiet, people are always having to talk louder just to hear each other, and this is when no children there.
More importantly this argument that a babbling child is noisy and disturbing to others, is reminiscent of publicly breastfeeding which can be offensive to others. It's wrong on all accounts, very Victorian where women are forced to stay in the home. Clearly some people are still stuck in the dark ages.
Ffs how are people defending the horrible couple here. If they wanted to be moved fine, but they didn't have to be so rude and unpleasant about it.
There's no cure for being an arsehole.
Mrex felt the same on a short flight and by far the loudest group were the 30 something men. The big group of mid teen lads on a rugby tour and the small children were beautifully behaved and quiet.
If they wanted to be moved fine, but they didn't have to be so rude and unpleasant about it.
I agree. I've had to move before due to a loud person (couldn't hear the TV programme I was watching through my headphones as they were so loud) but there was no point saying anything to them as they clearly didn't have a fucking clue about personal space or have any manners. You just quietly move and get on with what you were doing.
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