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WishUponAStarBar Mon 08-Apr-19 17:59:00

DDs first birthday this month, not spending alot of money on anything because
1. I don't know anyone with babies
2. I'm saving money to get my own place as I'm staying with my mum, im a single mum, her dad pays no money.
3. She won't remember it anyway.
Just going to take her to soft play, have a birthday cake and go out for dinner, I've got her a couple of things too but nothing major as she had alot at Christmas.
Anyway, ever since I saw the photo shoots of a cake smash, I've wanted to do it for DD's first birthday. It's not an expensive one, I use a photographer who's just starting out but she's still really good but at a really good price. She told me she could include a cake in the cake smash shoot but it would be an extra £30. My stepdad, after hearing this, insisted that his mum would be able to make one for free. I said I wouldn't expect it for free, I was also looking for something specific and he insisted. He asked for photos of examples and he would ask her. I found a photo, almost exactly what I wanted, the most simple design as it's going to get smashed up anyway, the main colour was right in the picture I sent, which is yellow, but I asked for a couple of red "big swirls" dotted over it to look like roses. (Not a cake maker so don't know the terms lol) I have a specific theme for the shoot, I have made props and banners to tie in and her dress is matching.
My stepdad told me that she could do exactly that, no problems.
She's made cakes for us before and they've all been lovely. So we all agreed it would be like that and I was planning on buying her a bunch of flowers or something as a thank you.
Photoshoot is tomorrow so my mum and stepdad went to collect the cake today while i took DD out, my mum text me at half 4 saying she wasn't sure if she shoukd send me a photo or not... This made me think there was something wrong so I asked her to send it.
The cake, it's nice enough but it's not what I asked. She's used pink instead of red, and there's too much pink, she's also stuck these hard icing daisies all over it. And it's too small, although that isn't such a big issue.
Now I feel really bad as she's done a lovely thing, but I had an image in my head and the cake doesn't fit in. My stepdad and his mum really wanted to help out, and so I would feel bad to say it wasn't what I expected. I still intend on buying her flowers or something as she went to the effort to make the cake.
I was thinking of running to the supermarket to buy a cake and some icing and piping bags etc and trying it myself, I've found a tutorial on YouTube which makes it look easy enough...
WIBU to do this? Am I just being stupid? I just really wanted these photos to be good as I wanted one blown up for my wall when I get my own place and I'm worried it's not going to look right, so I thought I would at least attempt to make a cake right? Is it really hard?

Cottonwood Mon 08-Apr-19 18:01:09


Cottonwood Mon 08-Apr-19 18:02:47

You're smashing up a perfectly good cake on or for a one year old ...hmm

LorelaiRoryEmily Mon 08-Apr-19 18:03:19


Farmerswifey12 Mon 08-Apr-19 18:03:21

Yes I wouldn't attempt it at this stage. Think you're going to have to look at how you can make the cake work

GreyBasket Mon 08-Apr-19 18:03:21

Yes, yabu. Calm down about all this.

The cake sounds lovely. Just go and have fun.

ScreamingValenta Mon 08-Apr-19 18:04:19

The cake is going to get smashed up. What does it matter?

Personally, I would cancel the cake smash, get some lovely photos of your DD not smeared in icing (yuck) and then eat the home made cake!

DelilahTheSlagFromTheBible Mon 08-Apr-19 18:05:02

This will go well.

GinaCarbonara Mon 08-Apr-19 18:05:44

Personal opinions on cake smashes aside, I don't think you'll be able to make a cake in this timeframe that will look better than the cake that's already been made.

Texel Mon 08-Apr-19 18:05:47

It's going to get smashed up, does it matter what it looks like? Don't waste any more food on this, just use the one you've been given.

WishUponAStarBar Mon 08-Apr-19 18:06:02

@Cottonwood well DD gets to eat the cake too, she likes making a mess aswell so thought it could be a good photo opportunity. The photos always look really good and I've had a pretty shit year and this was like a gift to myself, I want a nice photo of my DD.

WatchingTheWheels85 Mon 08-Apr-19 18:06:09

Can we see a photo of the cake

LordNibbler Mon 08-Apr-19 18:06:30

I can't believe people actually do this. Yes, that's how I know I'm old.

BlueMerchant Mon 08-Apr-19 18:06:36

YANBU. You have a picture in your head of what you want so just go for it. Am sure if it's just the colour that is important you'll be able to knock something up.
What are you going to say to stepdad and his mum when they ask to see the pics?
You could say you thought it was too nice to smash up so are keeping it as an actual cake for her Birthday!?smile

BritWifeinUSA Mon 08-Apr-19 18:07:02

She’s 1. She’s not even going to remember it. What a waste of food and money for something you are doing because you want to be like everyone else, not because your daughter wants it or needs it.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira Mon 08-Apr-19 18:07:03

Why are you doing soft play, meal and cake for a one year old when you say you have no money?

Don’t like the idea of cake smash at all but I think it would be sheer madness to go and try and do more decoration because it’s not quite right.

GooodMythicalMorning Mon 08-Apr-19 18:07:16

yabu. Sounds like a perfect cake considering its going to be destroyed! I would just go along with it and save yourself a whole load of stress.

eddiemairswife Mon 08-Apr-19 18:08:27

But you won't get a nice photo if she's covered in cake.

continuallychargingmyphone Mon 08-Apr-19 18:08:31

A nice photo of her covered in cake?

Crunchymum Mon 08-Apr-19 18:09:08

You are being absolutely ridiculous OP.

ThatssomebadhatHarry Mon 08-Apr-19 18:09:34

I really don’t get this trend!

TheFatberg Mon 08-Apr-19 18:10:01

Nice example of Mumsnet snobbery on this thread.

Grumpbum123 Mon 08-Apr-19 18:10:16

Accept the cake, say thank you and remember it’ll soon be a big old mess that will be put in the bin

WishUponAStarBar Mon 08-Apr-19 18:10:24

Well my plan was to keep the cake for her actual birthday if I didn't use it.
I mean does nobody have any photos of their children? Like at least one professional one?
Soft play costs £1 where I live, so I don't see why I can't take her there for her birthday as she's a very social baby and loves watching kids play.

I get if people think IBU about the cake but I didn't think taking her to Soft play was going to be an issue. I have money, just not loads. I've saved extra and worked extra to get her a couple things for her birthday

Sunonthepatio Mon 08-Apr-19 18:10:55

There are people starving in the world. So cake smashing is idiotic.

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