Name change here as this could be very outing.
DS 11 has just had his appendix out - got sick thurs night/fri morning, took him to GP fri morning, in hospital at 1.30pm friday. DH came to hospital with us on Fri, I stayed overnight - very little sleep as DS poorly and general childrens ward noise. DH back early Saturday morning with supplies.
DS operated on Sat morning, all went well. DH insisted he would stay Sat night at hospital - I checked several times if he was absolutely sure as I would have been happy to do so.
DS really suffering with nausea from anaesthesia and severe pain from air trapped inside (normal for laparoscopic procedure) DS gets quite panicky with pain and was very tearful about the pain - I am very calm in these situations and believe he needs to be reassured but allowed to express his pain. DH gets very uptight though and tells DS not to get in a state and to calm down. DS asks me to stay as long as possible.
I left the ward at 9.30pm Sat night once DS was asleep and was back there 9.30am Sun morning.
DH didn't get any sleep because another parent on the ward was snoring and a sick baby was crying.
DS discharged around 11.30am, we come home. DH flakes out (totally understandable). Around 2pm DS shoulder is really hurting where the air is trapped, his wounds from the op are hurting, he's been asleep and overdue painkillers so gets really panicky about the pain and is crying/shouting about it. I am trying to soothe him and reassure him that it's ok, it will get better etc etc.
DH gets the right arse and, imo, is telling DS off for getting so upset.
I get cross with DH, who storms off and I think slams a door.
5 minutes later DH is back saying he passed out (he is quite good at fainting) and it's all my fault because I shouted him down, and then starts effing. All in front of DS, who I am still trying to help calm down. I can feel DS getting upset again so say to him very calmly, calm down it's ok.
DH then storms out, drives to the shop to get peppermints for DS (to help with dispersing the trapped air).
By the time he comes back DS is asleep.
I begin to say to DH that I'm not happy with the way he spoke to me or DS earlier, only to be told how cross DH is with me, and how useless I have made him feel, he then goes and sulks/falls asleep and has been in bed ever since.
So, if you've made it this far - well done! AIBU to feel cross with him?
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JamieFrasersSassenach · 07/04/2019 21:44
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