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To hate these social media obsessed days?

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knobblykneesandturnedouttoes Sun 07-Apr-19 16:42:10

Went out for dinner with friends last night. Go out with them about once a month but I’m really starting to not want to go. We have a nice time together but every time we go we now have about 100 photos taken. I really hate having my picture taken but where it used to be one photo of us all together, Apparently now we have to all have selfies, then all the food and cocktails have to be photographed. Then group photos. Then puddings. Even the coffees/hotchocolates were photographed. Later in the evening 2 of us went to the toilets together and my friend actually tried to get me to have a photo with her. I drew the line at that and said I’d rather not but felt like a joyless freak with the shocked look she gave me.

I love these ladies we’ve been friends since school. But I feel sad that they’re becoming so Snapchat/instagram obsessed. Maybe I’m boring. Maybe I’m old before my time. I just feel like this is such a teenage thing to do. We’re all late 30’s not kids.

I don’t mind a group photo with them or the odd one or two through the night but it seems like they’re always on their phones. Anyway I think I might give the next one a miss.

Or do I say something? I mean we’re very close but I think they might think I’m being snobby or judgy

MissMogwai Mon 08-Apr-19 22:33:00


I actively avoid nights out with certain groups because of the constant picture taking. It's ridiculous and I just don't see the point.

I don't get this obsession with documenting every minute on camera rather than you know, enjoying the night out.

1633tonow Mon 08-Apr-19 22:39:39

...but when they changed it to 'friends of friends' it got weird.”

Yes! And people don’t realise how far reaching it goes with ads they’ve looked at, other sites, friends of friends interests... The lack of privacy is amazing.

Years ago, when it was not that naff to be on, someone from work tried to convince me to have a page and showed me hers. Up popped all this clairvoyant stuff and pictures she had posted of herself with orbs and scratches from poltergeist. We were at work. This was a line manager. She was blush.

MarkleSparkle Mon 08-Apr-19 22:43:30

YANBU. I hate it. Fortunately my close friends aren’t into it at all. I have one other friend who is always sending me selfies of herself though. And pictures of her meals. I never really know what to say...

I haven’t logged into FB for weeks, if not months. I don’t miss it at all.

CrazyAllAroundMe Mon 08-Apr-19 23:25:41

YADNBU I have social media accounts but I'm older now, had them in various forms since my twenties, and yahoo and AOL chat rooms way back when. I never take selfies and my lips with age have thinned so duck face has never appealed! I do find myself tagged by friends when out I just untag unless I'd choose to share it myself. We're all quite similar in that we have phones down nights. Maybe the odd group pic for the geriatric memory jog down the line.
I'm devastated for my DDs generation though. She has me constantly on the no filter stance and is quite unique among friends in that she has no need for self validation. 11/12/13yr olds in full make up, filters, scribbling out their own faces in daytime group pics and then in obscenely little clothes alongside poking out bottoms, hand on hips, chest forward; sexual type poses. Of children. Its frustrating to see the future insecurities their parents are not shielding their perfect baby girls from. And I say this as an obsessive photo taker. A life fully documented by thousands of photos that jog a foggy memory or 10 everytime I look through them, I've cried with happiness, embarrassment and pride at times. But they were nearly all natural, in the moment. Loads from disposables in earlier years. SM is a curse for the young and vulnerable. So many falsified lives and bullies galore. It's very sad.

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