Ex and I split up 6 years ago. We have one DD together.
He's never been a 'great' father, passable at best. She was always physically looked after, spoiled with plastic crap etc, the usual disney dad stuff, but she adored seeing her dad and he was no danger to her.
He was always going from woman to woman, DD is use to his new girlfriends etc. However, about 6 months ago I got a phone call from SS about DD. Her dads new partner has had her own children removed by SS and they were concerned that DD was spending time with her, wanted more information about the family set up etc. I was absolutely FURIOUS at ex. He said it was all rubbish, she'd been set up etc ,, she was no danger to DD. I said he couldn't see DD with this woman so he stopped seeing her for 6 months (DD not the woman).
3 weeks ago he calls and says he misses DD dearly, he has split up with this woman and can he please please please see DD again. We start off slowly a few hours here and there. DD over the moon seeing her dad etc.
However it turns out this is all bullshit and he is still living with this woman. He has promised he won't have DD around her as he knows he isn't allowed to. But I don't trust him an inch (even though DD would tell me)
I don't want him seeing DD whilst he is with this woman. I don't want to leave DD with someone I don't trust even if it is her father. He is a compulsive liar. And also, what kind of headspace is he in to even entertain the idea of a relationship with this woman? He is incapable of putting his child's needs first.
AIBU to tell him whilst he is with her he can't see DD?
FWIW, DD is use to him just dropping in and out so it won't be awfully devastating for her but I have always tried to maintain a relationship with her dad for her sake.
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Ex brought social services into our lives, AIBU to not want him seeing DD anymore
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Sawyershair · 07/04/2019 13:55
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