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frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 09:57:20

Does anyone else with a young baby find it really bloody annoying when people hold your child and give them back to you stinking of perfume? Currently holding my baby son after a friend held him and he stinks of cheap perfume. About to baby wipe his head (which usually smells lovely and baby-like!). Would never say anything as she's entitled to her perfume, but can't help but feel slightly miffed by my stinky baby!

TheGrey1houndSpeaks Sun 07-Apr-19 10:00:04

She must bathe in the bloody stuff if she managed to transfer it to his bloody head!

LostInShoebiz Sun 07-Apr-19 10:00:28

“Cheap perfume”? You sound a delight of a friend.

TheGrey1houndSpeaks Sun 07-Apr-19 10:00:43

Sorry, not bloody head, that sounds just wrong... His poor little head grin

AwdBovril Sun 07-Apr-19 10:01:12

YANBU. I absolutely hated this with a passion when DD was a baby. MIL uses a certain fragrance that I used to quite like, I loathe it now. Every bloody time we saw them, DD reeked of it.

WhiskersPete Sun 07-Apr-19 10:01:28

Yes MIL! It’s not a horrible perfume but it lingers on my baby and covers up her lovely baby smell. I know there are worse problems but...

MrBobLoblaw Sun 07-Apr-19 10:02:30

This is so PFB.

I remember feeling like this too OP hen DS was newborn. Then your little cherub does a shit so big it comes out by their neck and armpits and you start to worry less about the smell a bit of perfume transfer.

frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 10:02:43

@LostInShoebiz it is cheap perfume. It's £8 from Ann Summers and she loves it.

Glitterblue Sun 07-Apr-19 10:04:19

My granny used to do this to our cat, not quite the same I know, but when she'd looked after him when we were on holiday, he used to come home with his lovely fur stinking of a perfume she always wore but I couldn't stand!

gingajewel Sun 07-Apr-19 10:05:14

My dd head always used to smell of perfume and deodorant when she came home from nursery when she was little, I used to love it because it meant she was gettin lots of cuddles, very pfb of you!

MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:05:39

It’s a sign that other people like your baby enough to give it a cuddle FGS.
I remeber dd coming back from nursery smelling of perfume. I was pleased as it showed the staff were looking after her.

MaggieAndHopey Sun 07-Apr-19 10:06:24

I used to notice this a lot when my children were babies. I was always reminded of the advice to people discovering apparently abandoned baby animals: not to handle them in case their mothers rejected them due to them smelling wrong. And that's how it felt to me - my baby would smell wrong! Not like themselves (or I guess, like me) for a while.

MaggieAndHopey Sun 07-Apr-19 10:07:11

I don't think you should feel bad about it, basically. We're just monkeys after all.

Slowknitter Sun 07-Apr-19 10:08:13

Massively pfb. The smell is transferring - it's not as though people are actually putting perfume on your baby. Also, it's not as if the cheap perfume you're sneering about is going to be any worse for your baby than Chanel. hmm

BertrandRussell Sun 07-Apr-19 10:09:00

Note to self. When I become a mil I will shower and put brand new clothes on before touching my grandchild. It will be OK because I will have submitted my request for a cuddle in triplicate with a week’s notice, so I’ll know when my appointment is and have plenty of time to prepare.

Merryoldgoat Sun 07-Apr-19 10:09:11

My MIL and my aunt both wear perfume and I like it when they give the baby back smelling of them - it means they’ve been cuddling him loads.

LostInShoebiz Sun 07-Apr-19 10:10:00

“Cheap” is subjective?

Is it ok for people to leave a waft of Killian on your PFB?

frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 10:10:10

Not my pfb grin it just irks me because I love his baby smell. But yes I'm glad he's getting lots of cuddles of course. Just would rather he didn't smell off Ann summers perfume! What's weird is that this specific perfume has pheromones in it designed to turn men on. Very weird...

Son is nicely baby wiped smile

RoyalChocolat Sun 07-Apr-19 10:11:49

YANBU - and you are not being PFB. I am currently holding DC4 and I hate it when she smells of perfume. My brother is the worst culprit (and he wears a really expensive perfume, the smell of which I like - but NOT on my baby!)

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Sun 07-Apr-19 10:12:44

Op - nicely - grow up

frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 10:12:52

It's not something I'm going to ever tell someone about in person. I just have this weird instinctive 'ugh, my baby smells wrong' response and feel a huge urge to wash him. I can't help it!

Nowthenforever2019 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:19:50

I agree with you OP. My baby comes back from the childminder smelling of her. I don't like it! It's not a horrible smell but I suppose deep down there's a lot going on subconsciously with smells, so it unwittingly puts my back up.

BetsyBigNose Sun 07-Apr-19 10:21:42

YANBU - I remember feeling almost exactly the same!

I'd take DD1 to nursery, smelling beautifully of 'baby' and would collect her smelling of a combination of the nursery employee's various perfumes/body sprays/ deodorants - I couldn't wait to get her home and into the bath, I used to think of it as 'reclaiming her'... Blimey, I was very OTT pfb, wasn't I?!

On second thoughts, maybe you are B(a teeney bit)U @frecklesbec, but I totally get it... I had chilled out a lot by the time I had DD2 though!

frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 10:25:08

It's only because he's teeny weeny still and I know his newborn smell won't last long so when I go to sniff his head and get a want of perfume I feel a bit ugh. It's very trivial, compared to the other issues in my life! But admit it's not a major issue at all. Just wondered if anyone else felt the same. I admit it's not a problem as such.

frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 10:29:43

waft not want!

WonderTweek Sun 07-Apr-19 10:30:01

My baby used to smell of fags whenever he was at his grandad's house and I hated it. I guess they now smoke less as it doesn't happen anymore, or maybe it's because he's now a toddler and isn't held by anyone these days as he prefers to run around most of the time. grin He occasionally smells of perfume when he's seen his Nanny but it doesn't bother me anymore - at least it's not cigarette smell. halo

frecklesbec Sun 07-Apr-19 10:31:37

Oh man. Yes I see the difference between cigarettes and perfume! Third hand smoke is pretty yuk and dangerous apparently! Was on BBC the other day interestingly.

Slippershoes Sun 07-Apr-19 10:36:31

Mine used to come back from in law gatherings smelling of a mix of perfumes. It used to piss me off but I think that's because mil and I were having issues at the time and she couldn't have done anything right blush

charmandurrr Sun 07-Apr-19 10:38:11

I'd rather perfume than BO, which one of mine smelt of after a particular relative had a cuddle envyconfused

Goldmandra Sun 07-Apr-19 10:58:16

It's like a clash of logic and instincts.

You know the perfume isn't harmful and means they've been given affection, which is great but, at the same time, your baby smelling right is important. It's a deeply instinctive need that you can't just make go away because it is no longer logical or necessary to their survival.

Those instincts are the ones that help you work out when your child is ill or in a dangerous situation that looks outwardly fine. They help you know what to teach your child, what to feed him and when to comfort him. Accept them as part of being a parent and don't worry about people who put you down for it.

It's PFB but it also happens for good reasons and doesn't mean YAB at all U unless you start imposing rules about who can cuddle your baby.

makingmammaries Sun 07-Apr-19 11:45:01

When my DD was about half an hour old, born in Switzerland, the nurses put perfume on her ‘to make her smell nice’, in addition to giving her sugar water and a sodding funny. I read them the riot act as soon as I was able to get up.

makingmammaries Sun 07-Apr-19 11:45:20

Dummy, not funny

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 Sun 07-Apr-19 11:52:21

All the people saying you're being pfb and need to grow up hmm - you do realise we're animals, right? Your baby's scent is fundamentally important to a mother, of course it's going to bother you if they smell of someone else's scent!

Ihatehashtags Sun 07-Apr-19 12:03:50

Ugh yes my mil has the most disgusting perfume. She wears the same one every single day.

Clawdy Sun 07-Apr-19 12:04:01

First world problems, eh?!

SherlockSays Sun 07-Apr-19 12:16:32

YANBU - DD stinks of my mum's perfume every time she has her, and it isn't cheap either.

Schuyler Sun 07-Apr-19 12:21:19

Logically, you know it’s unreasonable but smell has a strong emotional pull. I feel funny when my not-newborn, not-PBF comes home smelling of the childminder. It’s an emotional thing, I get it.

BertrandRussell Sun 07-Apr-19 12:42:13

Horrible language being used “stinking””reeking” “cheap perfume”......

TwinMumSuperHero Sun 07-Apr-19 12:49:31

Definitely not BU. I hate this but I get headaches and sore eyes as I'm sensitive/allergic to perfumes and can't wear any myself. Don't know if the boys are also sensitive in the same way either.
I've had to ask my sister not to wear perfume when she comes over. confused

UserFriendly14 Sun 07-Apr-19 12:51:03

YANBU! MIL is the same with my DS and it just doesn't seem right when he returns home smelling of perfume! All clothes have to go in the wash too!

sweeneytoddsrazor Sun 07-Apr-19 12:55:12

Ha ha we had the opposite. Visitors would arrive smelling of perfume and go home smelling of baby sick. They never grumbled or stopped coming for cuddles.

Goldmandra Sun 07-Apr-19 13:09:17

First world problems, eh?!

Clawdy, are you putting this on all of today's threads or have some achieved your personal criteria for the subject being sufficiently serious or relevant?

MrsXx4 Sun 07-Apr-19 13:12:24

I’m with you OP!! I totally get it!

Thehop Sun 07-Apr-19 13:13:42

YANBU I hate this. I never visit babies with perfume on

Chocolatecoffeeaddict Sun 07-Apr-19 15:32:43

It happens but it's one of them things not worth getting worked up about. You can't tell people not to wear perfume on the off chance they may hold your child.

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