Perfume on baby's head

[frecklesbec]

Does anyone else with a young baby find it really bloody annoying when people hold your child and give them back to you stinking of perfume? Currently holding my baby son after a friend held him and he stinks of cheap perfume. About to baby wipe his head (which usually smells lovely and baby-like!). Would never say anything as she's entitled to her perfume, but can't help but feel slightly miffed by my stinky baby!

[TheGrey1houndSpeaks]

She must bathe in the bloody stuff if she managed to transfer it to his bloody head!

[LostInShoebiz]

“Cheap perfume”? You sound a delight of a friend.

[TheGrey1houndSpeaks]

Sorry, not bloody head, that sounds just wrong... His poor little head

[AwdBovril]

YANBU. I absolutely hated this with a passion when DD was a baby. MIL uses a certain fragrance that I used to quite like, I loathe it now. Every bloody time we saw them, DD reeked of it.

[WhiskersPete]

Yes MIL! It’s not a horrible perfume but it lingers on my baby and covers up her lovely baby smell. I know there are worse problems but...

[MrBobLoblaw]

This is so PFB.

I remember feeling like this too OP hen DS was newborn. Then your little cherub does a shit so big it comes out by their neck and armpits and you start to worry less about the smell a bit of perfume transfer.

[frecklesbec]

@LostInShoebiz it is cheap perfume. It's £8 from Ann Summers and she loves it.

[Glitterblue]

My granny used to do this to our cat, not quite the same I know, but when she'd looked after him when we were on holiday, he used to come home with his lovely fur stinking of a perfume she always wore but I couldn't stand!

[gingajewel]

My dd head always used to smell of perfume and deodorant when she came home from nursery when she was little, I used to love it because it meant she was gettin lots of cuddles, very pfb of you!

[MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl]

It’s a sign that other people like your baby enough to give it a cuddle FGS.
I remeber dd coming back from nursery smelling of perfume. I was pleased as it showed the staff were looking after her.

[MaggieAndHopey]

I used to notice this a lot when my children were babies. I was always reminded of the advice to people discovering apparently abandoned baby animals: not to handle them in case their mothers rejected them due to them smelling wrong. And that's how it felt to me - my baby would smell wrong! Not like themselves (or I guess, like me) for a while.

[MaggieAndHopey]

I don't think you should feel bad about it, basically. We're just monkeys after all.

[Slowknitter]

Massively pfb. The smell is transferring - it's not as though people are actually putting perfume on your baby. Also, it's not as if the cheap perfume you're sneering about is going to be any worse for your baby than Chanel.

[BertrandRussell]

Note to self. When I become a mil I will shower and put brand new clothes on before touching my grandchild. It will be OK because I will have submitted my request for a cuddle in triplicate with a week’s notice, so I’ll know when my appointment is and have plenty of time to prepare.

[Merryoldgoat]

My MIL and my aunt both wear perfume and I like it when they give the baby back smelling of them - it means they’ve been cuddling him loads.

[LostInShoebiz]

“Cheap” is subjective?

Is it ok for people to leave a waft of Killian on your PFB?

[frecklesbec]

Not my pfb it just irks me because I love his baby smell. But yes I'm glad he's getting lots of cuddles of course. Just would rather he didn't smell off Ann summers perfume! What's weird is that this specific perfume has pheromones in it designed to turn men on. Very weird...

Son is nicely baby wiped

[RoyalChocolat]

YANBU - and you are not being PFB. I am currently holding DC4 and I hate it when she smells of perfume. My brother is the worst culprit (and he wears a really expensive perfume, the smell of which I like - but NOT on my baby!)

[PlainSpeakingStraightTalking]

Op - nicely - grow up

[frecklesbec]

It's not something I'm going to ever tell someone about in person. I just have this weird instinctive 'ugh, my baby smells wrong' response and feel a huge urge to wash him. I can't help it!

[Nowthenforever2019]

I agree with you OP. My baby comes back from the childminder smelling of her. I don't like it! It's not a horrible smell but I suppose deep down there's a lot going on subconsciously with smells, so it unwittingly puts my back up.

[BetsyBigNose]

YANBU - I remember feeling almost exactly the same!

I'd take DD1 to nursery, smelling beautifully of 'baby' and would collect her smelling of a combination of the nursery employee's various perfumes/body sprays/ deodorants - I couldn't wait to get her home and into the bath, I used to think of it as 'reclaiming her'... Blimey, I was very OTT pfb, wasn't I?!

On second thoughts, maybe you are B(a teeney bit)U @frecklesbec, but I totally get it... I had chilled out a lot by the time I had DD2 though!

[frecklesbec]

It's only because he's teeny weeny still and I know his newborn smell won't last long so when I go to sniff his head and get a want of perfume I feel a bit ugh. It's very trivial, compared to the other issues in my life! But admit it's not a major issue at all. Just wondered if anyone else felt the same. I admit it's not a problem as such.

[frecklesbec]

waft not want!

[WonderTweek]

My baby used to smell of fags whenever he was at his grandad's house and I hated it. I guess they now smoke less as it doesn't happen anymore, or maybe it's because he's now a toddler and isn't held by anyone these days as he prefers to run around most of the time. He occasionally smells of perfume when he's seen his Nanny but it doesn't bother me anymore - at least it's not cigarette smell.