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Lyndyloo17 Sat 06-Apr-19 19:14:30

We had a leak from a downpipe coming from ensuite bathroom in the spare room.We didnt know it was there until recently because it isnt used much since our daughter went to University. I didnt do anything about it as I had a lot going on. Husband almost died and was bedridden for 6 weeks so it wasn't a priority in the grand scheme of things and we live in a detached house and the water was leaking on my drive so it wasnt affecting anyone else,or so I thought! A friend of mine told me my neighbour had filmed the water leaking, put it on fb saying it had been like this for months and we were nightmare neighbours. There were a few comments from people I dont know saying how awful we were. We have never got on but over the last few months I thought things had thawed. We have nodded and exchanged pleasantries. I dont know why they wouldnt just mention it or if they dont want to talk put a note through the door. Why put it on fb? None of my family are connected to them on fb so we would never see it.

Cherrysoup Sat 06-Apr-19 19:16:56

So it’s not affecting them at all? Just looks a bit funky? What a bunch of arseholes!

Friedspamfritters Sat 06-Apr-19 19:18:17

It's a waste of water I guess but I don't get why it affects them in particular.

Oliversmumsarmy Sat 06-Apr-19 19:22:45

Can I ask what business it is if hers if you are detached and it isn’t harming anyone else?

Has she nothing better to do than to obsess over what is happening to her neighbours property.

Think I would do a post on FB with a link to a go fund me page for all those people who think it is terrible so they can put their money where there mouth is.

God this neighbour would have a field day with me.
I have had varying skips outside my house for years, I have vans and cars littering the driveway. I also can’t remember when was the last time anyone cut the lawn or weeded.

She wouldn’t be able to see the leaky down pipe as the weeds would block the view.

CheekyChappy710 Sat 06-Apr-19 19:26:23

@Oliversmumsarmy and you're proud of that? hmm

Lyndyloo17 Sat 06-Apr-19 19:26:34

Me either. The water only runs out when the shower in the ensuite is used. it pours onto my drive by the gutter rather than down the drainpipe.

ShopoholicIn Sat 06-Apr-19 19:38:34

I think they have nothing else to share on fb.. nothing happening in their life hence sharing this ...

WWWWicked Sat 06-Apr-19 19:42:49

Some people share any ol shit on Facebook. I particularly hate this kind of thing though.

I’d knock and tell the neighbour to take the video off or I’d and name and shame them all over Facebook as perverts who try filming my DD in the shower.

bmbonanza Sat 06-Apr-19 19:46:20

Your house, doesnt affect them so they can basically do one! Oliversmumsarmy I would love to live next door to you - nice to see someone is human and has a life, rather than creating a showhome to impress others.

ALLMYSmellySocks Sat 06-Apr-19 19:48:41

It only leaks when the shower is on and is only leaking onto your land? They'r being ridiculous and looking for reasons to be annoyed - you must be great neighbours if this is the worst they could come up with.

Langrish Sat 06-Apr-19 19:51:33

Precisely why I don’t do Facebook. Your neighbour clearly has a lot of time on their hands. Ignore it.
Hope your husbands well on the mend. Priorities.

Lonecatwithkitten Sat 06-Apr-19 19:52:20

Your friend thought with everything else going on that they were helping you how?

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking Sat 06-Apr-19 19:53:40

I’d and name and shame them all over Facebook as perverts who try filming my DD in the shower but that is blatantly untrue and libellous. Why is the default setting on this forum to gob off and suggest others break the law.

Novel approach OP - go and TALK to them

Secondly - NDN to me has a leaky gutter, occasionally its like bloody Chinese water torture with the relentless drip, drip, drip

Lyndyloo17 Sat 06-Apr-19 20:25:53

Langrish Husband us doing well thank you,
PlainSpeakingStraightTalking - Shower is only used about once a week when daughter is home and my drive and theirs is between the two houses so there is no constant dripping or noise. As for talking, why didnt they speak to me if it was such an issue ?

ILoveMaxiBondi Sat 06-Apr-19 20:29:54

They sound....weird!

I would respond to the FB post asking how this leak affects him and why it makes you a nightmare neighbour as it is entirely on your property.

StoneofDestiny Sat 06-Apr-19 20:39:04

Clearly NDN hasn't got much going on in her life if that is her news to be shared with the world at large.
I don't do Facebook, but if I did I'd get a pal to post something like "what has it to do with you, how can this be worth sharing with the world, have you always been this obnoxious about your neighbours, do you need to take up a hobby".
Or I'd just hug my husband and be glad he is now well 🍾

ALLMYSmellySocks Sat 06-Apr-19 20:46:05

I also wonder why on earth you friend brought this up with all that was going on. If I were your friend I would have commented on the post to the effect of "how does this affect you?" and not told you about it.

breadzeb Sat 06-Apr-19 20:49:42

I’d and name and shame them all over Facebook as perverts who try filming my DD in the shower.

WTF. Surely you can't be that stupid?

Lyndyloo17 Sat 06-Apr-19 21:08:53

Thank you everyone. Feel better now. Have been a bit sensitive lately and not always thinking straight. Think I will just hug my husband and get on with our lives. As for my 'friend', I suspect she was hoping for a bit of drama so I will be on my guard in future. Leak is now repaired. Other neighbour is a builder and came round this evening and kindly fixed it for us.

BMW6 Sat 06-Apr-19 21:48:53

Am glad it is resolved. Your neighbours are twats and your "friend" is too.
I am so sorry your DH is so ill flowers

Oliversmumsarmy Sun 07-Apr-19 00:04:02


I never wanted to buy this house.

I know we never use the garden and neither of us is a gardener but Dp said he would do the garden. I wanted a flat in West Hampstead.

He did do the gardening for the first few years then it slipped. I tried to have a go but during my first pregnancy I bulged a couple of discs and was in agony for 7 years barely able to walk before my back finally got sorted.

I have tried to run the house, cook, clean do the garden (1/4 acre of lawn and flower beds), sort out the finances, look after 2 children (both dyslexic so homework couldn’t be left for them to do on their own and ds has ADHD and Dd ADD). I also HE Ds from year 3.
Both dc also spent every evening after school doing a range of ECAs.
I was in charge of renovating the house (it was a mess when we bought it) and run a ft business single handedly as Dp worked away a week or 2 each month.

Dp refused to have cleaners or gardeners.

If my garden is a mess so he it.

We live quite rurally and there are at least 2 derelict houses and 1 house that is lived in that are in worse state outside than my own house.

Now I have a Dp who is terminally ill so gardening is not my top priority.

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