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Is it OK to see ex?

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HeidiBoo1984 Fri 05-Apr-19 14:53:19

I have been seeing someone for a few months. Apart from a few teething problems, everything is going well. In December I broke up with my ex who I was seeing for about four months, so not long. We got on really well but he was a complete sexophobe so I didnt have sex with him. I saw him a few times in January but ended up hurt and confused by him. We do always have a fab time though when we go out together.

He has asked if I wanted to go on a day out this weekend. I would like to see him but also feel very awkward about doing this while I'm with new bf. It seems a bit off. Is it? No chance of ex and I doing anything together sexual and on both sides romantic feelings don't exist at all.

PutyourtoponTrevor Fri 05-Apr-19 14:54:51

So what's the point of meeting up with him?

HeidiBoo1984 Fri 05-Apr-19 14:55:46

We have a laugh together and a strong bond as friends.

xsquared Fri 05-Apr-19 14:56:33

No. If there is any doubt and you have to ask on mn, then no.

Cheeserton Fri 05-Apr-19 14:57:57

Really Trevor? No point in seeing anyone if you're not going to have sex? 🤔

StarTheGirl Fri 05-Apr-19 14:58:44

I mean, if there is zero sexual attraction on either side, then I don’t think it’s a problem... Is it zero sexual attraction though? That would be my only question.

TooTrueToBeGood Fri 05-Apr-19 15:00:43

Do you really think it's a bit off or are you more worried that your BF will think it a bit off?

MyGastIsFlabbered Fri 05-Apr-19 15:03:45

If I was seeing someone and they told me they were meeting up with a fairly recent ex I would be suspicious/unhappy about it I must admit. Perhaps unfairly so, but it's how I would feel.

HeidiBoo1984 Fri 05-Apr-19 15:14:03

Thanks for your replies. I don't think l will bother then as I like my new man and wouldn't want to upset him.

FooFighter99 Fri 05-Apr-19 15:18:40

Yeah the only way "round" this is to be 100% honest with your BF and tell him you see ex as a friend only and simply enjoy spending time with him, purely platonically.

But as this is a new relationship, no matter how innocent the interaction with your ex is, it still may go down like a tonne of bricks....

Therefore, is it worth it?

MissPollyHadADolly19 Fri 05-Apr-19 15:20:26

It could be ok to everyone on here but the one person you should be asking is your current partner, that's whose feelings matter.

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