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To have intervened and embarrassed neighbours’ DD?

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ThomasRichard Fri 05-Apr-19 13:45:58

I just got up, looked out of my window and just saw my neighbour’s teenage DD get smacked in the face by a boy. They were standing in a big group, laughing and messing around but it was quite a whack. I watched and thought of texting NDN but a few seconds later he grabbed her by the hair and yanked her around. I ran out, asked him WTH he was doing and told him not to touch anyone like that ever again. He denied it and mouthed off, NDN DD did the teenager dying of embarrassment thing, but he moved on.

WIBU? If it had been my DD I’d have been out there in a shot.

adaline Fri 05-Apr-19 15:09:52

You absolutely did the right thing. His behaviour could (and should) and him with a criminal record for assault.

UniversalAunt Fri 05-Apr-19 14:54:39

You did the right thing.

Smelborp Fri 05-Apr-19 14:50:07

Hell yes you did the right thing.

TinselAndKnickers Fri 05-Apr-19 14:49:32

She might be "dying of embarrassment" now but as she gets older and grows up, she will be really grateful for you sticking up for her and remember it. Well done OPthanks

IWriteCode Fri 05-Apr-19 14:48:15

I join the chorus of voices that say you did the right thing.

GregoryPeckingDuck Fri 05-Apr-19 14:44:33

You need to tell her parents. If she lets boys get away with assaulting her she’s just as likely not say anything if she’s raped. Her parents need to be taking better care of her until she gets more mature.

purpleleotard Fri 05-Apr-19 14:43:40

Well done
You deserve a reward

Springwalk Fri 05-Apr-19 14:42:27

You have absolutely done the right thing.

werideatdawn Fri 05-Apr-19 14:27:13

You did the right thing OP. When I was about 10 a slightly older boy grabbed me by my neck and punched me in the head "play fighting" I wish an adult had seen and intervened. I just laughed it off sad

FookMeFookYou Fri 05-Apr-19 14:23:15

A little bit of embarrassment is nothing compared to a lifetime of feeling it's better to keep quiet and let ppl treat you this way. You absolutely did the right thing.

Hope she is ok

Still18atheart Fri 05-Apr-19 14:22:34

Yanbu. She might be in embarrassed now but won’t be for long and thank you for it. Also good idea to let parents know

LakieLady Fri 05-Apr-19 14:20:48

Well done, OP, you did exactly the right thing. Better to be embarrassed than hurt, imo, and hopefully she'll take a leaf out of your book and not tolerate this sort of shite.

I'd have given the boy a piece of my mind too, in the hope that he might think twice about assaulting girls and women in future.

Raspberrytruffle Fri 05-Apr-19 14:20:01

I'd like to think if it were my daughter that someone would step in, thankyou op x

Kobea Fri 05-Apr-19 14:19:50

You did the right thing, if I'd have watched that happen I would have done the exact same and to be quite honest I don't think I'd have been able to stop myself getting hold of the horrid little prick. If I were you I'd try to get hold of his parents too because I would be absolutely disgusted and mortified in my son if he acted that way towards a woman.

Lllot5 Fri 05-Apr-19 14:18:59

I think you did the right thing. I would’ve done the same.

Mrsjayy Fri 05-Apr-19 14:18:44

I had to gointo school when one of mine was early highschool because some boy was throwing her about of course it was for a laughhmm but really Dd didn't find it funny but wasn't able to articulate why she didn't like it

SunshineCake Fri 05-Apr-19 14:17:44

Next saw her.

Sarahjconnor Fri 05-Apr-19 14:16:44

Thanks for sticking up for her OP. She might be embarrassed and hate you now but hopefully the message will stay with her and she will think it over and maybe even avoid these situations in future, not laugh, find her voice, stand up for herself.
Thanks for not turning a blind eye and putting yourself at risk to defend her. You did the right thing.

Lovemusic33 Fri 05-Apr-19 14:16:00

I would have done the same, no boy should be raising his hand to a girl even if it was so called “play fighting”. Well done for stepping in even if you did embarrass her, maybe it will make her see that this behaviour is not exceptable from a so called friend.

WarpedGalaxy Fri 05-Apr-19 14:14:53

Absolutely right to intervene. Absolutely right to inform the parents. The girl will survive a bit of embarrassment among her peers. What she may not survive is ongoing and escalating violence on the part of this and future domestic partners.

It’s to be hoped she might actually have learned something about not having to put up with unacceptable behaviour like this just because it’s the ‘laugh it off even though you hate it’ norm in her social group. She may not thank you now but one day she will. The others standing around doing nothing is most probably not wanting to stick their heads above the parapet or have the violence turned on them. It’s hard when you’re a teen, even when you’re uncomfortable with certain behaviours you don’t want to be the ‘uncool’ one who objects.

Mrsjayy Fri 05-Apr-19 14:09:50

If they were toddlers would you have told him to keep his hands to himself? You did the right thing even if the girl died of embarresment I would let her parents know though

JemSynergy Fri 05-Apr-19 14:08:53

I would have done the same and as a parent I would have thanked you for intervening.

GiveMeAllTheGin8 Fri 05-Apr-19 14:08:08

That’s awful , the poor girl
Have you spoken to her?

SunshineCake Fri 05-Apr-19 14:07:14

You've done the right thing.

A few years ago I agonised about telling a neighbour something her Dds boyfriend had done and then he did something else so when I never saw her I told her. She was grateful. Dd dumped the boyfriend.

Dottierichardson Fri 05-Apr-19 14:04:17

Good for you, it also tells boys that their behaviour unacceptable. If in school I would report this too.

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