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To have intervened and embarrassed neighbours’ DD?

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ThomasRichard Fri 05-Apr-19 13:45:58

I just got up, looked out of my window and just saw my neighbour’s teenage DD get smacked in the face by a boy. They were standing in a big group, laughing and messing around but it was quite a whack. I watched and thought of texting NDN but a few seconds later he grabbed her by the hair and yanked her around. I ran out, asked him WTH he was doing and told him not to touch anyone like that ever again. He denied it and mouthed off, NDN DD did the teenager dying of embarrassment thing, but he moved on.

WIBU? If it had been my DD I’d have been out there in a shot.

EmeraldShamrock Sat 06-Apr-19 12:54:18

Jez the little dick head. Every day in the new I am reading about young teenage boys assaulting young lady's.
I read a 2 disgusting cases this week, both young women viciously assaulted by their teenage boyfriends, thankfully they both went to jail.
Wtf is happening to them, their mentality is going backwards.

BlackSatinDancer Fri 05-Apr-19 17:36:50

Well done for intervening and for letting her parents know. You did the right thing.

RuffleCrow Fri 05-Apr-19 17:34:28

Of course you did the right thing. The teenage years are about learning those valuable life lessons about how we treat others and what behaviour we can expect in return.

ThomasRichard Fri 05-Apr-19 17:29:42

That boy is an abuser in training.

That’s exactly what I thought. He was completely denying that he did it, even though I saw him, and saying that he has his own parents to tell him what to do hmm Hopefully I embarrassed him into thinking again.

@talkingjapeneseireallythinkso we can be idiots together. I bravely stood out of stabbing range on my garden path and there are steps so hopefully he’ll be too lazy to put a brick through the window!

Reply from the dad was a text to say thanks for letting him know.

I’ve rung the school before when some of their boys were walking to school smoking weed and being gobby little oiks when I told them not to do it in front of my garage. My DC are only little and I don’t particularly want to be known as the eye-roll-inducing fusspot before they even get there. The girl’s parents are lovely and very switched on so I’m happy to leave it with them.

duckduckgoose2 Fri 05-Apr-19 16:58:21

Perfect as the girl didn’t have to tell on him and have that fallout. People should intervene more.

DesertSky Fri 05-Apr-19 16:35:40

Well done OP. Revolting behaviour covered up as a joke. If he thinks he can get away with it now just imagine how he will treat women as a man.

cees Fri 05-Apr-19 16:35:10

You absolutely did the right thing

Huskylover1 Fri 05-Apr-19 16:35:07

Yes, I would 100% have intervened. Many years ago, when I was only 20 or so, I witnessed a man pulling his girlfriend around roughly, and I stopped the car, and asked her if she'd like to get into my car away from him. She told me to Fuck Off. At least I tried.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Fri 05-Apr-19 16:32:18

Any reply from your text? Well done. You did the right thing, even if she hates you for it. If he's doing that to her in public, god knows what he could be doing private.

outpinked Fri 05-Apr-19 16:25:02

Definitely did the right thing.

Chillyegg Fri 05-Apr-19 16:23:59

God that’s awful! What an awful boy! I can’t believe none of them intervened and said we hang on don’t hit anyone you noodle!

rainbowstardrops Fri 05-Apr-19 15:49:57

I'd have done the same thing because I'd want someone to help my child.

HedgerowTree Fri 05-Apr-19 15:42:10

Thank you for standing up for her.

JingsMahBucket Fri 05-Apr-19 15:39:55

Holy shit. That boy is an abuser in training.

Mia1415 Fri 05-Apr-19 15:35:05

Well done OP. You did exactly the right thing.

dogandwhistle Fri 05-Apr-19 15:31:15

Well done! You did the right thing. Lots would of ignored it.

talkingjapeneseireallythinkso Fri 05-Apr-19 15:28:48

it's good to know i'm not the only one who is an idiot and wades into the unknown, i'd have [and have done] the same thing as you op.
good for you.

Drogosnextwife Fri 05-Apr-19 15:27:22

It really doesn't matter if they were "play fighting", I wouldn't accept that as an excuse for a boy whacking a girl in the face and then yanking her around by the hair hmm.

Bet he doesn't do that to any of the other boys there. I would have been tempted to go out and give him a good whack around the head, see how it made him feel. Wee prick!

AllTheFunAndGames Fri 05-Apr-19 15:26:26

You did the right thing and it was very brave of you. I'd imagine her Dparents will be upset but glad you intervened.

spongedog Fri 05-Apr-19 15:24:43

yes another here to say well done, you did the right thing. I also do think if they were in school uniform you should tell the school. (Rather than the parents or theirDD, as you witnessed the behaviour).

SabineUndine Fri 05-Apr-19 15:24:09

Very good that you texted the parents. If the DD thinks that sort of behaviour is ok from a 'friend', her parents need to have a chat with her about self-esteem too.

Happynow001 Fri 05-Apr-19 15:21:33

Text sent. I expect they’ll be over later after work. Poor kid.
Well done OP - no doubting you did the right thing and, even if she felt temporarily embarrassed by your actions, I bet she was grateful.

Often people - especially young people/young women in particular want so badly to belong they aren't able to stand up and defend themselves.

Hopefully you've sown those seeds for her, which may well be very useful to her as she goes through life.

Hidingtonothing Fri 05-Apr-19 15:21:02

Absolutely the right thing to do OP, well done flowers

DeRigueurMortis Fri 05-Apr-19 15:20:14

You did the right thing OP.

Don't doubt it.

I'd also tell her parents what happened.

cfmagnet Fri 05-Apr-19 15:15:34

You definitely did the right thing, well done for taking action. Too many people second guess themselves in these situations and their hesitation means that they miss the opportunity to intervene and send the message that it's unacceptable. Also, as a mother of a pre-teen DD, thank you. I worry so much about things like this happening, it's good to know there are people like you who will get involved when necessary.
I remember when I was 13, myself and a friend were walking home from secondary school and ended up surrounded by a group of older teens. They started off "jokingly" taking our bags and throwing them around and it escalated to them pushing and shoving us around and a much older boy slapping me across the face, grabbing my breasts and rubbing his groin against me. Several adults walked past and did nothing to help. Eventually, a car pulled up next to us and a young woman jumped out and verbally tore strips off them while bundling the 2 of us into her car, which had her baby in the back. The poor woman was so upset she was shaking and in tears. She wanted to take us to the police station but we begged her not to so she drove us both to my house and waited until we were inside and waving from the window before she pulled away. She left a big impression on me and I'm sure you'll have done the same for your teenage NDN, even if she doesn't realise it yet. cake and flowers for you, you lovely woman.

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