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Habbs Fri 05-Apr-19 10:10:31

Had a 1 to 1 in work, all fine really but they said though the quality of my work is the same I am working a bit slower than usual. I explained I'm struggling to concentrate as hard as usual, I'm 24 weeks pregnant and that's probably something to do with it. My manager literally scoffed and said "I don't think we can go blaming that, you're barely pregnant!"

AIBU to be annoyed? I'm 6 months pregnant, twice the size I normally am, I've got awful sciatica and my legs cramp sitting at my desk for too long so need to stretch my legs more often. I'm also constantly weeing. These things do take time out of the working day. I definitely don't feel barely pregnant.

BloodsportForAll Fri 05-Apr-19 10:11:50

What a thing to say! I'd be gobsmacked

Smelborp Fri 05-Apr-19 10:12:14

That was a ridiculous comment. Does your boss have children?

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup Fri 05-Apr-19 10:13:09

Your manager is a dick.

I wasn't working through my pregnancy and I was tired and forgetful a lot. I have total respect for anyone who can work through that! Good luck on your pregnancy.

Think about making a complaint to HR if you have one.

VictoriaBun Fri 05-Apr-19 10:13:49

Yes complain to HR.

MustBeAWeasly Fri 05-Apr-19 10:13:58

I'd be saying something to HR that's shocking! You're not barely pregnant you're very pregnant and growing a baby zaps all your energy even without all the other symptoms

Cligger Fri 05-Apr-19 10:14:09

That's insane! Just clearly remind your boss of discrimination in pregnancy being frowned upon!!

KC225 Fri 05-Apr-19 10:14:56

6 days late = barely pregnant

6 months = VERY PREGNANT

That was insensitive and not very supportive. Do they have form for this?
Was your performance flagged up before you were pregnant? Just thinking, you may want have a word with Personnel if you think they are trying to pahae you out.

Nothininmenoggin Fri 05-Apr-19 10:16:51

Omg that's awful how are you barely pregnant at 6 months! Your body is undergoing huge changes and growing another human. Is your manager male or female? Whatever, they have a huge nerve belittling your pregnancy whatever stage you are at. Good luck with remainder of your pregnancy and enjoy your time off work. grin

Shadycorner Fri 05-Apr-19 10:18:54

Habbs Fri 05-Apr-19 10:18:53

My manager is a man with no kids!! Will speak to HR.

StargazyDrifter Fri 05-Apr-19 10:19:10

Your boss is an idiot. youre growing a human!

Even with the smoothest of pregnancies there are undeniable physiological changes - more blood pumping, more tender muscles, lighter sleep... Add to that some of the more specific stuff like sciatica and so on and even the commute in can warrant a medal on some days. Take no notice, you and bump come first. That's all that matters.

You're also supposed to have a risk assessment each trimester, even for a desk job. I don't suppose your boss has clocked that either.

MRex Fri 05-Apr-19 10:19:32

I think you need to ask HR to have a quiet word. I don't know anybody who'd expect the exact same level of performance from someone who's 6 months pregnant, that isn't reasonable of your manager.

Fraula Fri 05-Apr-19 10:20:10

Even when 'barely' pregnant, I'm at my most knackered!!

I would complain to HR if there is one where you work, so this isn't allowed to go on our record. If you think it might be better, speak to your manager first to try to resolve it. You are totally right, so be assertive

FudgeBrownie2019 Fri 05-Apr-19 10:20:42

Tell HR what an absolute knobend your manager is and get him to apologise. If he doesn't understand pregnancy perhaps he ought to not be working with pregnant women.

Helsvamp Fri 05-Apr-19 10:21:50

24 weeks is 5 months not quiet 6. I am 26 weeks pregnant will not count it as 6 months until 28 weeks . Plus your boss is a idiot needs a slap

RebootYourEngine Fri 05-Apr-19 10:22:00

Please mention this to HR. That comment is not acceptable.

Habbs Fri 05-Apr-19 10:22:45

@Helsvamp In the 6th month, not 6 months complete

Springwalk Fri 05-Apr-19 10:22:51


What a total dick!

Complain now

DantesInferno Fri 05-Apr-19 10:23:18

6 days late = barely pregnant
6 months = VERY PREGNANT

6 days late = possibly pregnant
6 months = PREGNANT

you either are pregnant, or not pregnant - did you mean, only just pg? Still not right for a colleague to belittle you

somuchinfo Fri 05-Apr-19 10:23:23

Would have to be a MAN making a comment like that! Idiot. Men have no concept of what it's like to be pregnant. My daughter has just had baby, was ill the whole nine months. In and out of PAU for anti sickness injections all way through. Like many women your doing a fantastic job of working when pregnant. Defo speak to HR.

DantesInferno Fri 05-Apr-19 10:24:02

there are 52 weeks in a year (12 months)
24 weeks is 5 months not quiet 6. I am 26 weeks pregnant will not count it as 6 months until 28 weeks

26 is half a year, or 6 months

GarthFunkel Fri 05-Apr-19 10:24:07

Unless he's mistaken you for an elephant, you are definitely not just barely pregnant. And even if you were genuinely barely pregnant it shouldn't be used against your performance.

MsPavlichenko Fri 05-Apr-19 10:24:30

Yes. It is discrimination. Speak to HR and your union if you are in one. If not, consider joining one now. This sort of attitude now doesn't bode well.

In any case , any stage of pregnancy can be problematic so it is a ridiculous thing to say.

lottiegarbanzo Fri 05-Apr-19 10:25:33

That managers needs some training. His ignorance is going to land the company with a discrimination case one day.

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