Please someone tell me how on earth you get over this?
On Tuesday I found out my husband of only 18 months has been having an affair all the while I’ve been dealing with a brain tumour and for the last week he has been going back and forth changing his mind about where he wants to be it is absolutely killing me. I know i am worth so much more than this and I know he shouldn’t even have the option to be with me anymore but every time I think about him leaving I can physically feel my heart breaking every inch of my body is hurting I’m about to have surgery and he needs to stay here until after that to look after the kids and I have no idea how I’m going to get through them weeks knowing that he’s with her and he’s messaging her. How am I meant to walk around knowing I’m going to bump into them? How do I hand my kids over and let them play happily families? I don’t even know why I’m posting. But how the hell do you make this pain go away?
AIBU?
Husband affair
Nefney14 · 03/04/2019 19:21
What an utter cunt
Hopefully other posters will something more helpful to offer x
Omg. What a fucking asshole. You're getting through your diagnosis so you can get through anything! You're clearly stronger than you think.
Let her have him then she'll see what a c**t he really is. She is also just as bad!
Stay strong 
What an absolute idiot. It sickens me that anyone could do this to someone, especially when they’re in a vulnerable position.
It’s going to hurt, especially in the short term. What you need to focus on is that you haven’t done anything wrong, you didn’t cause this and you don’t deserve it. Surround yourself with friends and family, remind yourself of things that make you happy. Don’t let him come crawling back to you, don’t let him dictate your future.
and lots of positive thoughts your way
Oh shit, I was at your wedding!
I've used an old username so you don't recognise me, although I don't think you would anyway. We're not close and you barely know me btw.
But your husband's a fucking asshole and you deserve so much better than him.
What he's done is disgusting.
Can anyone else look after the kids in the meantime? I don't know what support you have, but it might be better than him looking after them.
I'd try and distance myself as much as possible, only talk about the kids and anything financial that needs sorting etc.
You will get through this but it's going to take time.
Like I said, you barely know me but you can PM me if you like.
Hope everything works out for you
What an absolute disgrace of a human being he is, and if she knows your situation then she's no better.
My obvious response is LTB, but I totally understand it's never that easy. Especially for you right now. What I will say is what comes around goes around and if karma is a thing it'll bite him hard on his arse for what he's doing to you in your hour of need. Absolutely disgusting behaviour.
Stay strong OP
You are not an idiot at all. The only one anyone's judging is him!
I'll PM you as soon as I work out how 
And of course, I won't breathe a word to anyone! So sorry you're going through this.
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