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To feel sad for this teacher?

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Beargrin Tue 02-Apr-19 15:10:09

This teacher was sacked because one of her pupils saw a topless picture of her. She sent the picture to her partner two years ago and somehow the pupil got it. It seems so unfair that her whole career has been ruined. Surely lots of reputable women have taken nudes, someone should have been punished but I don't feel like it should be her.

Reading the comments on social media is so sad. People calling her a 'slag' and even a pedophile.

Link: https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/nypost.com/2019/04/01/teacher-claims-she-was-fired-over-nude-selfie-to-boyfriend/amp/

ThreeAnkleBiters Tue 02-Apr-19 15:12:53

I agree that's ridiculous. The person who sent the student the image should be in trouble not the teacher. It's not even a particularly sexual/porn esque photo - just captures the kind of intimate moment you might share with a partner. We can't police every moment of teacher's lives - she's done nothing even remotely illegal.

bridgetreilly Tue 02-Apr-19 15:13:01

Yes, it's ridiculous. However, she in the US, so I am utterly unsurprised because (a) the expectations on the private lives of teachers there are very stringent and (b) employment law makes it much easier to fire someone.

AverageMan Tue 02-Apr-19 15:16:59

I think once sexual images of a teacher get into the hands of pupils, then his/her position becomes untenable.

EstrellaDamn Tue 02-Apr-19 15:18:11

Why though? It would be forgotten in a few weeks' time. I don't think a person's career should be over because of a photo of a body part.

Beargrin Tue 02-Apr-19 15:41:10

@AverageMan but why? It's absolutely not her fault. Surely the school should be teaching the students to respect her / women better than that.
You hear all these stories of young men in schools sharing around pictures of under age girls. Surely the school should be teaching them this behaviour is unacceptable not that it's the women's fault for having taken the photo?

AverageMan Tue 02-Apr-19 15:48:28

It would be difficult for a school to discourage children from taking and distributing nude selfies when they have a teacher who has done exactly that.

Cjt110 Tue 02-Apr-19 15:53:31

I'd be more concerned about the teachers we used to see in the local pub on a Tuesday night sharing 3 bottles of wine between them (2 of them) than Mrs Boobs Out.

Beargrin Tue 02-Apr-19 15:55:14

But she didn't distribute it, that's kind of the point. She was violated and I believe the school should be teaching the pupils exactly that.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Tue 02-Apr-19 15:55:56

Ooh teachers aren't allowed private lives. How dare you suggest such a thing. Their lives start and end with work, don't you know.!!!

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 02-Apr-19 15:56:53

It would be difficult for a school to discourage children from taking and distributing nude selfies when they have a teacher who has done exactly that.

A) it wasn't nude it was topless and I'm sure as a man you can see the sexist double standard there...

B) I teach teenagers and frequently discuss what things are fine for adults to do but not for them. Because they aren't adults. If a pregnant teacher turns up should she be sacked in case children decide to get pregnant?

Awwlookatmybabyspider Tue 02-Apr-19 15:57:42

Could she maybe get them done under the human rights act. I have the right to a life and a private life.

bridgetreilly Tue 02-Apr-19 15:59:02

Could she maybe get them done under the human rights act. I have the right to a life and a private life.

No, BECAUSE SHE'S IN AMERICA.

SachaStark Tue 02-Apr-19 15:59:49

It's not your business to be concerned about anything like that either, to be fair, Cjt110. It is not reasonable to expect to be able to control or comment on the private lives of your children's teachers when it has nothing to do with their job.

Vulpine Tue 02-Apr-19 16:01:36

Maybe it's a good idea not to send naked pics of yourself to anyone especially if you are a teacher. Just why? hmm

eddiemairswife Tue 02-Apr-19 16:03:02

It may be my age, but I am mystified as to why people post nude photos of themselves.

RomanyQueen1 Tue 02-Apr-19 16:03:30

The first thing we were told when studying for PGCE if this happened it was our fault.
Tbh, most of us came off it and many stayed off once qualified.
I'm back on and have been since stopping teaching.
It's a shame but we all know the consequences.

Vulpine Tue 02-Apr-19 16:05:33

Cant she just show her partner her breasts in real life rather than posting them into cyberspace

Sux2buthen Tue 02-Apr-19 16:06:20

Ah, victim blaming. Lovely.

Vulpine Tue 02-Apr-19 16:06:51

So no I don't feel sad for the teacher. She's an idiot

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 02-Apr-19 16:07:10

Why do people keep saying 'naked' and 'nude'? It was topless. Perfectly normal beach picture in Spain or France. Totally boring. This is part of a larger issue what women's bodies are policed and sexual and shameful in a way that men's aren't.

AverageMan Tue 02-Apr-19 16:07:53

She is not wearing any clothes, which is the definition of nude. She just had a towel covering her nether regions. She sent the pic to get boyf, which is distribution. If it was one of her pupils following her example they would be looking at serious charges. And had it been a male teacher with a dick pic I doubt they would be getting as much sympathy.

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 02-Apr-19 16:08:48

www.good.is/articles/shirtless-shamers-shut-down

marvellousnightforamooncup Tue 02-Apr-19 16:09:16

At my school one of the female teachers posed nude with a sixth form boy for a sexual massage book. Not exactly ideal but she didn't immediately lose her job. I think she was still there when I left. She was in a relationship with the boy at the time. shock No internet in those days so hard copies were distributed round the staff room to much sniggering I hear.

PatchworkGirl Tue 02-Apr-19 16:10:14

This is genuinely one of the reasons I didn't pursue teaching after qualifying. I don't think there are any nude photos of me 'out there' but the idea of having to police my life to this extent for a job was not something I could sign up to...

Poor woman.

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