I lost my Dad suddenly 4 months ago and couldn't go to his funeral. He lived in Cyprus where I lived also for 9 years with him and brought 2 of my children up there. His death was unexpected and because it was in Cyprus very complicated as we could not fly him back. I was in hospital myself at the time and was to ill to fly out for his funeral. My eldest daughter decided she wanted to get married back in Cyprus because of all the fond memories she has when she was growing up, so we are all flying out this September. My Dad would have been there so amongst all the happiness there is also a great deal of sadness. I don't want to go to his grave whilst I'm there as I don't feel I could cope. The last memories I have is me riding on the back of my dads bike in Cyprus which I want to keep. I don't want my last memory to be a grave where my dad is not there. I want my memories to be of my daughters wedding and the memories that will surround us all of my Dad. I know he is with me and I know I don't need to see his grave for closure as I already have that and excepted he's gone. Am I bad for not doing this? I'm feeling I would be seeing his grave because of what people expect of me and not what I really want.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
Is it wrong for me not to want to visit my Dads grave.
29 replies
Baywatch46 · 01/04/2019 16:36
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.