AIBU to ask how you cope with the moaning?

[christinarossetti19]

Just that really. DC are 12 and 10 and I'm finding the day-in-day-out-moaning 'don't want to eat that'. 'don't want to to go football tomorrow', 'this water is too wet', 'don't want to write a thank you letter etc more difficult than usual at the moment.

I'm perimenopausal and sleeping badly (another thead) which is definitely making me feel more sensitive to others' complaints.

I'm after less a 'get your children to stop moaning' approach than a 'how I can grow a thicker skin/be more water off a duck's back' strategies. I get than moaning is generally a release of negative feelings and anxiety and don't want them to change per se. It's my own coping skills that I can actually try to influence, I think.

TIA

[krustykittens]

Tell them to start thinking about how the drip drip drip effect of their constant moaning has on the people are them and ask them to be a bit more considerate. Seriously. I have two girls that will not stop fighting with each other, over the stupidest things, and I have had it. The Easter holidays have started and I am fucked if the next two weeks are going to have the sound of their arguing as back ground noise. I've told them both to grow up (they are older than your kids) and explained how much it stresses me and their father out. I frogmarched them out of a cafe on Friday as they started fighting with each other the minute they sat down while I was ordering at the counter! Sorry to vent, OP, but don't put up with it!

[AlbertaWildRose]

I hear you. My 10-year-old is also going through a moany phase, and it drives me bonkers. I don't cope well with it either.

[MyDobermanIsABeaut1]

Oh god my 9 and 11 yo DD's are going through this right now. Bickering, arguing, slamming stuff etc. I lost my shit with them a couple of weekends ago and ended up crying because I couldn't listen to them any more. I've started separating them and giving them each a list of chores to do at opposite ends of the house, which shuts them up and keeps them away from each other with the added bonus of less household chores for DH and I .
Easter holidays start next week here and I'm half looking forward to it and half dreading it. DH and I have told them that there will be no days out, treats, Easter eggs or TV time if either of us have to tell them more than once.
It's bloody hard isn't it, I usually really look forward to the school holidays as I love being able to do other things without worrying about the school routine but when they start they make it really difficult to want to be around them.

[christinarossetti19]

I've found my people .

Easter holidays start here on Friday. They're at sports camp the first week. After the misery that was Feb half-term, I'd threatened to book them in for both weeks, although on reflection it was the combination of them being at home while my dh (who hates interruptions and noise) tried to wfh that was unbearable.

I've asked him to go into the office for the three days that he's working that week, which will help.

I lost my shit last night, which I'm not proud of, but it did result in the 12 year old getting a grip about the thing that was stressing her out last night to the extent that she was flinging herself around her bedroom and saying that she wasn't going to go to school today. She sorted it out with no imput from me this morning.