I’m trying to get my husband to agree to declutter and I think he’s deflecting by attacking my money management. I look after our money as he finds it boring. I’m just trying to maximise our interest on the savings. He thinks most families keep accounts, categorising spending and forecasting etc and I should be doing this. I used to do this but now look at it at a higher level to ensure we are ok and tot up our savings. We save about £2k per month without cutting back so I don’t think we need tight controls and records over our outgoings. This is no stealth boast as we don’t have a family sized home and will struggle to afford to upgrade from our flat in this area.
The cause of the argument is he is hanging on to old computers which are falling apart or haven’t been used for several years. Each year he suggests spending his bonus on a new laptop and I encourage this. £2k on a laptop isn’t going to impact our life. This has been going on for at least five years.
We both have acted like we are poor in the past due to unexpected events, but we are flush now to an extent and can afford to enjoy our money, without micro managing it. I’ve started to relax but he’s still stuck in the poor student mindset. His dad is similar - hoarding and being tight.
I suspect most people don’t keep detailed accounts and forecasts for their family expenditure. And we are saving more than most people so don’t need to be so tight. Am I wrong?
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ShastaBeast · 31/03/2019 14:20
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