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To wonder if tiny weddings are rubbish?

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MafaldaGregorovitch Sat 30-Mar-19 18:43:43

DP and I want to get married and inc us 2 and DSD, there'd be 12 guests. We'd have the ceremony, a few photos and then off to a local restaurant for food. If you were involved in a wedding like this, would you think it was a bit shit?

user1493413286 Sat 30-Mar-19 18:45:00

Not at all; it’d be lovely to actually spend time with a bride and groom at a wedding.
Much as I loved our wedding I wish we’d done the same

bedtimestories Sat 30-Mar-19 18:45:54

Not at all. I've been to an intimate wedding, it was lovely.

nrpmum Sat 30-Mar-19 18:47:18

We did very similar, it was a brilliant day.

Banhaha Sat 30-Mar-19 18:47:40

No, I think this sounds lovely and I'd like to go to a wedding like this. I'd feel like a valued guest and not just there to make up numbers.

Purpleartichoke Sat 30-Mar-19 18:47:41

I find small weddings lovely. My own was 23 guests. We greeted them at the bar for socializing and appetizers, had a quick ceremony, and then a nice meal.

If we were having a bigger wedding today, I would probably do a board game reception. Neither DH nor I is a big fan of dancing so we didn’t want that to be the focus of the entertainment.

SrSteveOskowski Sat 30-Mar-19 18:48:11

Nope. I'd actually love it and am really sorry I didn't do that with my own. Actually I'm really DH and I didn't just elope somewhere, but anyway.
Definitely do it OP.

isabellerossignol Sat 30-Mar-19 18:49:04

Not at all. I only had 40 people at my wedding and with hindsight I wished I had cut out about 30 of them.

It sounds like the perfect wedding to me.

b0bb1n Sat 30-Mar-19 18:49:12

My husband and I married in the smallest ceremony in a registry office. Our only guests were both sets of parents. We all went for a meal afterwards then DH and I drove to our honeymoon destination. For us, it was a perfect day and I wouldn't have changed a thing smile

Sparklingbrook Sat 30-Mar-19 18:50:32

We had 18 guests. It was great.

Got married at 4pm and had a meal then that was it. Don't like discos.

Choccymmm Sat 30-Mar-19 18:51:09

No it sounds great

Userisi Sat 30-Mar-19 18:52:11

Nope, the best weddings I've been to are the small ones. If I was to marry again that's how I'd do it. The bigger the wedding the less I've enjoyed it reflecting on the ones I've been to!!

bookmum08 Sat 30-Mar-19 18:52:23

We had 17 at ours. That's 14 more than I would of liked. 2 witnesses and our daughter would of been fine. You still are legally married at the end of the day. Which is the important bit.

AmIRightOrAMeringue Sat 30-Mar-19 18:52:29

Everyone's ideas and expectations of weddings are different and you can never please everybody. Personally I'd rather that than the usual wedding by numbers where most of it is done for traditions sake rather than based on what anyone likes.

Presumably the guests will be close family or very good friends and in sure therefore they will be glad to be there and glad you had a wedding you wanted

HollowTalk Sat 30-Mar-19 18:52:46

I would love a wedding like that. If a wedding is too big you don't get the chance to speak to people properly anyway.

MissMalice Sat 30-Mar-19 18:52:57

My wedding was exactly like this. It was a wonderful day.

SailorJerry13 Sat 30-Mar-19 18:53:57

I am planning this type of wedding later this year - I don’t have any parents and feel like a huge ceremony would just highlight the missing family members. A few of our friends had huge weddings this year, and it cost ridiculous money and they seemed so stressed By it all, we barely got a chance to say congratulations!

All hail small weddings again!

GnomeDePlume Sat 30-Mar-19 18:54:14

We did something like this 27 years ago (24 guests). Never regreted it.

Go with what suits you and your budget. At the end of the day it is the quality of the commitment rather than the size of the guest list which counts.

Catsinthecupboard Sat 30-Mar-19 18:55:56

We had 7 people at ours 29 years ago.

Everyone had a good time. We are still married.

I wish we had gotten a good photographer but aside from that, I think it's fine.

Do invite the people that you want to attend.

Best wishes!flowers

ShaggyRug Sat 30-Mar-19 18:56:54

This was my wedding. Registry office followed my an amazing meal in a quirky restaurant. 26 people including us. Perfect and people still talk about how good it was so I’d highly recommend it.

bridgetreilly Sat 30-Mar-19 18:57:48

It actually doesn't matter what the other people think, if it's what you want, it's what you should have.

But also, I think the people invited to that sort of wedding will feel pleased and proud to be there in the close circle you chose to celebrate with you.

ShaggyRug Sat 30-Mar-19 18:59:06

Also as a guest I’d totally love this. Feel so much more like you’re celebrating with the bride and groom rather than a room full of strangers and a brief hello to the bride while passing. Small weddings are fab.

Liverbird77 Sat 30-Mar-19 19:00:37

As long as that number includes everyone you truly want to be there, it is fab. We had a fairly small wedding and I don't regret it for an instant. If anything, I wish it had been even smaller.

CurlyhairedAssassin Sat 30-Mar-19 19:01:39

It’s how all weddings were years ago, unless you were a celebrity or royalty. Which is where a lot of people nowadays go wrong, I think. You’re not doing a spread in Hello magazine. So keep it to your closest friends and family and you’ll Have a much better (and cheaper!) time, and be able to afford a much nicer honeymoon (which lasts much longer than the wedding day so is more important I reckon!)

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue Sat 30-Mar-19 19:02:08

Everyone is different and you will never please all. Do what makes you happy.

I could never have had a tiny wedding, but that doesn’t mean I think they’re shit. Just not for me.

You need to do what you want to do; it’s your day.

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